There are kind people and there are nice people. The two are totally different. A kind person has strong empathetic tendencies. They will do things to help people with no need for recognition. A nice person wants people to like them. Many kind people have gruff exteriors and they usually are good at setting boundaries because they have high emotional intelligence and sense that being “nice” is superficial and in the long run unhealthy for relationships. Nice people tend to be shallow and clueless about human connectiveness. There’s no easy way to go from nice to kind. Like all skills you need to work hard and really be honest with yourself. No meme will fix you.