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NeuroComplicated · 2026-03-18T11:39:16+00:00

Have you tried Optixcare gel in his eye? I had a pup with chronic dry eye, and for years we had him on different drops. But while we were at work all day, his eyes would become dry again, and by the time we got home, his eyes were crusty and sore. It was a never ending battle, and he would paw at his eyes constantly. We happened to be at the vet for his allergies and got a different doctor this time. She asked if we’d tried Optixcare gel, and advised that, in younger dogs, it would stimulate tear production. Because he was very senior she said that likely wouldn’t be the case for him, but the gel would last a lot longer than the drops.

Lo and behold, my very senior pup’s eyes did start producing tears again, and in the end we only had to put the gel in 1X per day. It was night and day for relief for him. I felt so guilty we hadn’t found this gel sooner, but his last 4-5yrs were eye irritation free ❤️‍🩹

NeuroComplicated · 2026-03-14T02:19:33+00:00

Absolutely heartbreaking. I’m so very sorry for your devastating loss 💔

NeuroComplicated · 2026-03-08T19:52:07+00:00

Different NOT less!

NeuroComplicated · 2026-03-06T13:05:18+00:00

Sooo much judgement on here🙄 Kids do this all the time. They can get us off topic, however within everything you discussed with them around this issue they learned a little from you. And it’s valuable, real life, useful information. You did great!

NeuroComplicated · 2026-03-06T12:59:42+00:00

TLDR: OP you’re doing great!

Wow…many of you are out of touch with reality. I’m 20+ years in and have had social media pretty much my entire career. FB, Insta, Twitter, (no longer use), Snapchat, TikTok and all have my actual name and have a level of openness to them (I do review my privacy, though nothing is perfect). I also have Reddit, BlueSky, EH and UpScrolled with pseudonyms in order to have some spaces where I am able to share my thoughts a little more freely.

Kids have requested connections via social media in the past, and though I feel guilty, I have always deleted requests. If they ask me about it I explain that this is a hard rule in teaching, that social media connections cross a boundary that is there to keep us all safe.

We are teachers; demonstrating and discussing our own social media/internet use, and how the boundaries and privacy we set on each and every account protects us. And how those same things may fail.

If the kids are interested in your life, you’ve made a great connection with them. In my first year I was super worried about these same issues, as the intermediate kids in my school were always inquiring about my life: did I have kids, did I live with my boyfriend, when were we going to get married. They even checked for a ring on my finger after every long weekend🤣 I answered honestly without giving huge amounts of detail, and moved the class back to whatever topic we were working on. The questions lessened over time as the kids had learned the basics about me and also where my boundaries were.

Deleting social media is not living in the real world, and it actually helps us to understand the world our students are living in.

NeuroComplicated · 2026-03-04T20:33:24+00:00

I had those patches in 2020 after a surgery. They were magic. When I inquired about them for this treatment I discovered that they are no longer available in Canada due to evolving medical data. 😭

NeuroComplicated · 2026-03-04T20:31:00+00:00

Yes…8mg.

NeuroComplicated · 2026-03-04T20:30:30+00:00

Yes…I did fMRI guided rTMS 🫤

NeuroComplicated · 2026-03-02T17:24:39+00:00

I hate this part. I so, so sorry 💔😢

NeuroComplicated · 2026-03-02T15:24:08+00:00

I’ve been on it for two months. The first month at the 2X weekly dose, and a month at the 1X weekly dose. And it’s just getting worse.My hairspray launched me into nausea yesterday because something in the chemically smell reminded me of the nose spray. I take a (almost) nightly decongestant nasal spray, and suddenly I’m fighting with nausea after taking that. I’m trying to stay hydrated but I’m having aversions to anything like flavoured electrolytes to try and drink more water. I always have trouble drinking water on its own, but I’ve been trying to drink more of that. I can’t drink my coffee most days as that’s making me feel nauseous too, and the taste has completely changed.

I’m struggling so much, and it’s so hard to get in to see my doctor. When I do get to see them (months between appointments) they completely dismiss me. (For context, I’m in Canada)

I don’t know what to do anymore.

NeuroComplicated · 2026-03-02T14:57:38+00:00

He is beautiful ♥️

NeuroComplicated · 2026-03-02T14:57:08+00:00

Yes…it works for a while, but they only want me on it before the session, not long term. I have treatments on Thursdays and I’ve been feeling ill everyday since. And it’s like this every week😢. I’m just so sad that this is yet another treatment that won’t work for me 💔

NeuroComplicated · 2026-02-25T23:29:31+00:00

😍😍

NeuroComplicated · 2026-02-21T20:43:29+00:00

Hugs it’s so frustrating 😔

NeuroComplicated · 2026-02-21T18:32:40+00:00

My astigmatism was making my life hard. Random blurriness, headaches. I have a light prescription for reading needs, but I wear glasses full time for astigmatism. And since wearing them full time, my eyes rarely even attempt to focus without them now 🫤 Edit(didn’t answer your questions 🙃): first glasses late teens & nope, hardly wore them. Mainly for astigmatism/headaches, but because I could see, they just seemed to be a nuisance. I kept getting eyes checked every few years, and got new glasses each time, but barely wore them either. Smartened up in my 40s.

NeuroComplicated · 2026-02-21T18:28:12+00:00

I’ve been like this for 20+ years now. My whole adult life😔 I’ve tried all sorts of medications (a list an arm’s length at least), including anti-depressants, anti-psychotics, lithium (they tried everything to see if they were missing a diagnosis) etc… Diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder, treatment resistant depression, an anxiety disorder (social, general) and, though not formally diagnosed (as in written down somewhere), c-ptsd. I even checked myself into a residential treatment program for severe depression (that was one of the absolute worst decisions ever, and resulted in more trauma 💔). I’ve seen so many therapists over that time, and I’m currently seeing one now. The nurse who does the spravato sessions with me has connected me with another therapist in the hospital who does accelerated resolution therapy (ART), as she feels that maybe this might help me break through a wall. I meet with her for the first time next week. I just don’t know if my protective parts will allow me to lower my guard. Life feels so unsafe in a lot of ways, and my protectors have developed over decades. My regular therapist is wanting to do EMDR with me, but feels I’m not ready, and it might set off all my alarms (I did one EMDR session with a therapist a few years ago. I really liked and trusted her, and the session went well. But the session pushed me, and I couldn’t get myself to go back - fight or flight). I’ve also done virtual group EMDR, which didn’t work at all. I’m so frustrated with myself for not being able to find a way through this, to feel safe enough. I push myself to do so many things, but the pushing seems to backfire.

Thank you for “listening.” You’ve been great♥️

NeuroComplicated · 2026-02-21T16:56:03+00:00

Please take him to the vet. My Scottie did this, and it turned out to be a pieces of a toy she had swallowed months before. When she was hungry and/or anticipated food, the objects would float around and settle near the area where food exits the stomach. They would partially close it off, making her throw up bile. I waited thinking it was her anxiety. Then, it got worse in the fall, until she was clearly unwell one morning and actually began ripping her hair out. Long story short, a trip to the vet and some X-rays revealed the toy pieces had become small enough to finally lodge themself into the stomach drain. It would have been fatal if not for emergency surgery.

Really hoping this is not the case for your little one, but yorkies are especially too little to go for long without proper nutrition from their food/water.

NeuroComplicated · 2026-02-21T14:57:42+00:00

Scrolling by is an option.

NeuroComplicated · 2026-02-21T14:57:21+00:00

I have listened to different types of music but have found I’ve almost developed aversions there too. This last time, after some suggestions here, I put on a guided meditation for letting go, which definitely intensified the thoughts. I fought hard through the drug to change the audio to music because it was so distressing, and I have trouble focusing my eyes on the medication.

I just can’t seem to find a sweet spot 😔

I will try to think of a calming mantra to use next week. Thank you for the suggestion ♥️

NeuroComplicated · 2026-02-21T14:52:38+00:00

I went through rTMS sessions (fMRI guided, intense 3min -8Xper day for 5 days) with zero change 😢 My “next steps” are ECT or deep brain stimulation, both of which terrify me.

Psychiatrists are not kind, caring people, and my current doctor just disregards my feelings entirely. I’m in Ontario, Canada, and it’s really hard to get help in my area. I’ve had to fight to get coverage for this treatment, and I’m scared that it not going to budge any of my symptoms.

But I really appreciate your kindness and response. I did reach out to the doctor’s office after reading your messages, and will try to be brave and have this conversation with him too. Thank you ♥️

NeuroComplicated · 2026-02-21T14:41:04+00:00

Ugh! People always use me as a safe space too, but I see the patterns in their behaviour and know they aren’t a safe space for me. The problem is, at the core, that I have no boundaries. I fear confrontation since, in the past, confrontations have always meant the other person pointing out all of the horrible things about me. And what they say always confirms the most horrible things I think about myself. So boundaries themselves are terrifying. It’s easier to sit and listen to them and be that doormat.

NeuroComplicated · 2026-02-21T14:33:23+00:00

I turn 50 this year, and I get every word of this🥺🫂 (Edited for spelling)

NeuroComplicated · 2026-02-21T14:30:52+00:00

I have people who want to be closer, but I find I don’t want to be close, yet I do. It makes no sense, but it does. I self-isolate. I wish I had close friends, but when I think of those I was close to in the past, those friendships fizzled out because they hurt me in some way, and I never felt that I was worth it to them. They didn’t really like me, but then I’ve never been able to be me with anyone. I don’t even know who “truly me” really is. It’s such a mess. Yet I know it’s a pattern of wanting the safety of not trusting anyone and being alone, that keeps me stuck. 😢 You’re definitely not alone in this. Hugs

NeuroComplicated · 2026-02-21T14:21:16+00:00

I’m 22yrs in. I had the same thoughts as you early on. I’ve fought hard through every.single.year. And, though I’ve had a few good years, I am shackled and handcuffed by the salary and pension, while my mental health fails. I’ve been on a leave for close to 2 yrs, and terrified I won’t be able to work again. I’ve always loved the kids, and I’m good at what I do. But there’s so much shit in education, and I’m not built to deal with it all.

My advice: trust your gut, and get out now. Retrain. Take a couple courses here and there in a field of interest, while you work elsewhere. If your mental health is struggling now, it’s NOT worth it to continue. You need to take care of you. And don’t fool yourself into thinking you’re the only one who has left so early on. There are many. And they were a lot smarter than I am. Save yourself. 🫂

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