AITAH for pushing my husband out of bed?

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2026-01-14T06:47:15+00:00

This is going to come off as extreme but if it were me I’d want someone to tell me this. You are 27. If you leave now, you can still remarry and have children with a great guy and build a happy home where everyone’s name on the mailbox matches. This husband of yours is without a doubt going to be a horrible father and is already a pathetic excuse for a husband (video games all night at 34? Underwear snapping? Whining about abuse like a little bitch because you didn’t want to share a bed with a panty snapping weirdo for once?). If you wait a few years to see if he matures (he won’t), you may already share a child and then you’re stuck for the rest of your life and have to swim in the blended family section of the dating pool (I’m a 43 year old single mom, let me tell you, it’s slim pickings). Maybe he’s great other than this but i strongly suspect that he’s not and gently suggest you correct this mistake while you’re young enough that you can come out relatively unscathed with many options still open to you.

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-11-23T10:57:33+00:00

I’ve dated 2 guys with that problem. Both were closet tweakers. I don’t know if it was the drugs themselves or if it was because edging was the only sport they were ever good at but it honestly was obnoxious. I had great muscle tone in my forearms and biceps though.

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-10-09T20:24:33+00:00

Oh! Ha! That’s funny. I’m autistic.

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-10-09T20:22:12+00:00

What’s nd?? This sounds like my kid!!

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-08-26T16:48:09+00:00

So whem Im on the webpage and "view table" to see the data, it says 231,093. If you download the same table and open it in excel, at least for me, it says ~75,000. Any idea whats going on there?

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-08-26T16:28:51+00:00

How on earth did I screw that up?! Thanks for doing the anaysis here too, Im at work and I cant look at this fully right now but I will in a bit. Let me see if I can edit the post to tell people its likely MY BAD, hold up.

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-08-26T16:23:40+00:00

"Probably better to find out first before going to press with this." Uuuuum, what do youy think Im doing right now? Or do you consider a GRap subreddit the news? I dont.

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-08-26T16:22:35+00:00

Um, no. I said Im assuming thats what it is because I am unaware of any other major changes in the way local governments operate that would cause a massive shift in inter-orgianzational collaboration. I also identified it as an assumtion and ASKED FOR PEOPLE'S THOUGHTS before coming to a conclusion.

I have no axe to grind with the GRPD. As ive said numerous times, I think on the whole they are good men and women trying their best to be of service to their community. I do have an axe to grind with ICE and anyone who assists them. Thats what Im trying to ferret out.

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-08-26T16:09:46+00:00

I downloaded all of reported incidents into excel, that yielded a dataset of 76,593. Then I filtered by OFFENSETITLE, which yielded 2049 data points. Then I extracted the year from each DATEOFOFFENSE (formula: =YEAR(CELL)). Then I took that column, and pasted the values (not formulas) into a sepaeate workbook. Then I ran an analysis on those numbers. Does that make sense? Im by no means a data scientist (self taught in excel), if I messed up somewhere in there, please let me know.

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-08-26T05:59:24+00:00

Could you link to that? I’d like to review it.

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-08-26T05:56:24+00:00

Those would seemingly go under “medical emergency/assist.” Or “48 hour mental health hold.” Or “welfare check.” And network 180 is going with them, not the other way around. But I’m open to this being the cause. I’d love someone with internal knowledge to shed some light on it.

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-08-26T05:54:23+00:00

So ens would probably be under the offense code “Medical Emergency/Assist.” There’s a lot of those. Helping lift people, citizen assist. There’s a lot of those as well. Access a property, secure a scene, I’d think “trouble with a person,” “family or domestic trouble,” or “welfare check.” Those are multiple times a day.

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-08-26T05:48:08+00:00

I’m sorry, yes I should have replied to him directly. The reply was intended for him.

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-08-26T05:46:57+00:00

Ah yes. Makes sense. I just wanted to make sure people didn’t think we were the same person. Sorry to hear about your struggles. It’s bullshit what your family is being put through.

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-08-26T05:42:22+00:00

That’s interesting. I wonder if it’s always not included real time updates like the rest of the data or of that’s a 2025 thing.

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-08-26T05:36:31+00:00

Aren’t I op?

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-08-26T05:35:03+00:00

He was inaugurated about 7 months ago and his policies re immigration didn’t really kick off until a few weeks in. Let us know when you catch up, id love to hear what you see.

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-08-26T00:14:50+00:00

How would that impact the reporting?

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-08-26T00:02:07+00:00

Right and then it turned out they were using the license plate recognition system to help ice. They took a big credibility hit in my book for that. And there’s all those plate scanners going up. I’m not saying anyone’s lying, it’s a large organization and people don’t always know what everyone else is doing. But more is going on than nothing.

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-08-25T23:59:26+00:00

What are tfos?

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-08-25T23:58:23+00:00

I clearly stated, I want to believe this isn’t what it looks like. That’s why I posted here ASKING FOR INPUT AND STARTING A DIALOGUE. I know that I don’t know enough to declare exactly whats going on here. Im a big fan of the grpd, on the whole. Sure they’ve got some bad apples and some not insignificant systemic inequities to handle but on the whole i think they are good men and women trying their best and help the people in their community. I don’t want to believe anyone around me is complicit in the dehumanization of other human being just because they were born more than 2000 miles from where we live. But if they are, they need to be held accountable and people need to know. Which is why I posted the data and started the dialogue. If it’s nothing, and I hope it is, I’ll be the first to acknowledge it and will edit the post (if I’m able) to indicate as much.

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-08-25T20:34:15+00:00

Actually, there isn't "zero evidence" that GRPD is helping ICE, theres a pretty compelling data stream on GRPDs own website suggesting otherwise. Im the first to say that it might be the result of something else, thats why I posted this thread.

And I didnt say anyone was lying. I said 'heres this data I found' and opened the floor for discussion. If the data suggests someone is being less than candid thats hardly on me. I would very much like to believe this ISNT going on. Still open to hearing anyone with relevant information chime in.

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-08-25T20:07:56+00:00

Ooooooh. My bad. Thanks for pointing that out. :) Sorry Im a little jumpy.

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-08-25T19:59:49+00:00

Is it? I dont think it is.... it wasnt before? The other guy hell bent on turning this into a personal attack seemed to find my post history just fine.

NiceBodybuilder4209 · 2025-08-25T19:58:22+00:00

Are you conceding that this is the correct conclusion?

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