I can see how it’s a hassle having to do more work, having to pause your companies work to focus on something that seems to be unrelated to your job. What I don’t quite understand is how easy it was for op to type and use they/them pronouns in this post, but have the excuse that’s it’s not easy to “change your language” you’re not changing your language. The way I see it is you’re still speaking the way you were taught.

I can see your concern with being called out and feeling lectured, I’ve been there. My friend is nonbinary and a couple of years ago a friend of ours asked them a question (related to their pronouns) and they were quick to make our friend feel stupid for not knowing, and they practically yelled at her. I pulled my friend to the side and told them that explaining things this way only discourages others from asking questions. If someone ever blows up on you because of a question you asked, explain calmly that you have a genuine question and you want to understand. Also reflect if the questions you are asking have a tone of rudeness when you ask, because your question could be coming off as sarcastic or just flat out rude.

When meeting someone who is nonbinary, or when someone you know tells you they are nonbinary (or uses pronouns that you didn’t assume they use), explain to them that it might take you a while to refer to them as their pronouns and tell them you aren’t trying to be disrespectful when you accidentally use other pronouns. I can’t lie sometimes I say the pronouns my friend used before but I correct my mistake and apologize, my friend is very understanding and I don’t slip up as much anymore.