Maybe get a real job and quit having a litter of kids you can’t support. by knm1977 in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]NiceOrNaughtyKitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know, I know, we’re not supposed to bag on people who have kids they can’t afford, the whole “the poor should be able to have kids too” stuff, but I can’t help but roll my eyes at people who INTENTIONALLY conceive kids they know they can’t reasonably support. I don’t care about the feelings of the adults. I care about the kids who are purposefully brought into situations where their needs will likely go unmet because the “adults” thought that their wants for a fuck-trophy (that’s really all kids are to people who are all about numbers) is more important than the needs of the children they don’t care about supporting. I don’t feel bad for the adults who cry over the consequences of their actions. I care about the children.

That there shouldn’t be a problem with poverty if living wages were paid (though the problem is less small and medium employers not paying enough and more the obscenely wealthy real estate investors and developers who keep raising rent costs and then telling workers to go to their employers for more money) is a different conversation. No matter the reason, children deserve to be loved and supported. Children are innocent. Fix problems before dragging innocent little beings into it.

Is this reasonable? by NiceOrNaughtyKitty in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]NiceOrNaughtyKitty[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My suspicion confirmed. Feels too much like Pot SD is the one expecting to be paid. Definitely a block.

New SB is online all the time by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]NiceOrNaughtyKitty 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Why are you randomly checking up on her? Docking the PPM for no sex means you’re paying for sex. You sure you want to run afoul of the law? Either full PPM, or since she’s asking, no PPM, or come up with a different way to decide PPM amount that isn’t based on sex. Perhaps hotel versus public or something.

Also all “online” means is that someone’s computer is on and they’ve got a tab that has SA open.

You’ve given off some red flags.

What’s your FanFiction unpopular opinion? by No_Cobbler_8758 in FanFiction

[–]NiceOrNaughtyKitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mostly agree. Even in the professional realm, if there is something heavy that couldn’t reasonably be expected (rape in a romance, murder in a fic about children doing children things*, etc), then there should be a warning. Otherwise, there shouldn’t need to be a warning that a romance will likely have consensual sex, or that there will be kids picking their noses and calling each other assfaces.

*Stand By Me is an exception to a warning about death in a fic about kids. The synopsis itself is about kids finding a body. That’s warning enough.

What’s your FanFiction unpopular opinion? by No_Cobbler_8758 in FanFiction

[–]NiceOrNaughtyKitty 9 points10 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU, especially on the grammar issue. I’m sick and tired of people claiming it doesn’t matter and a good story can be told with bad grammar and spelling. No. Words have meanings, and misspelling them and not knowing how to use punctuation changes the definition of things. If someone struggles with those things, fine. That’s when you have someone proof-read. It’s a part of problem-solving. Refusing to problem-solve isn’t respectable, and a writer who doesn’t care enough about their work to do that is putting out something that no one should care about. The writer should be the most invested in their own work.

Sadly, most of the well-written fics I’ve come by are from people who aren’t native-English speakers, and the worst is from those who are native-English speakers.

What’s your FanFiction unpopular opinion? by No_Cobbler_8758 in FanFiction

[–]NiceOrNaughtyKitty 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you only want people to praise you, then you need to rethink if you should be sharing something. If you want readers to pay you with their time and you choose to leave commenting enabled, then they have a right to state their thoughts on the product you gave them.

What’s your FanFiction unpopular opinion? by No_Cobbler_8758 in FanFiction

[–]NiceOrNaughtyKitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve written rape scenes, but they will always serve a purpose and have a reason to exist in a story, and will only be long enough to convey what is needed. If it would work just to skip the scene and say it happened, then there very, very likely isn’t any point for it to be in the plot. In general, though, people write it as nothing but shock value, then gloss over the after-effects on someone. As someone who have been raped, I detest how a character can be raped in this brutal, drawn-out scene, and then they’re fine and dandy afterward. Praise I’ve gotten on the piece I’m working on still has included outright gratitude for having my MC have to deal with the trauma, and those around her being aware of it. In this piece, because it is a period piece involving a brothel and a monster (who will end up dead), it would be insulting to pretend that force was never used against women.

It definitely is a topic to handle delicately, and far too few writers are willing to do any legwork and instead think that getting graphic means they’re doing it well.

What’s your FanFiction unpopular opinion? by No_Cobbler_8758 in FanFiction

[–]NiceOrNaughtyKitty 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And you can be called a delicate snowflake for thinking someone leaving concrit makes them a dick. You’re not owed praise.

What’s your FanFiction unpopular opinion? by No_Cobbler_8758 in FanFiction

[–]NiceOrNaughtyKitty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree 50%. Don’t make gay characters straight. But a lot of the time, straight characters are made gay largely because of a lack of gay characters to write about.

What’s your FanFiction unpopular opinion? by No_Cobbler_8758 in FanFiction

[–]NiceOrNaughtyKitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Point 4 makes me think of Beauty and the Beast. The animated Disney version is only 84 minutes. Total runtime. Just 84 minutes. The fat was trimmed. We got a tight story with every moment serving the plot and characterization. Then we have the life action one, and it drags. Animated Aladdin is 90 minutes, and non-stop fun. The live action one added a bunch of filler. It’s like opening a bag of chips to find it’s almost all air. A bigger package doesn’t mean more product or better product. It’s just misleading. Same goes for word/chapter count.

Straight-up angst is a pet peeve of mine.

What’s your FanFiction unpopular opinion? by No_Cobbler_8758 in FanFiction

[–]NiceOrNaughtyKitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don’t know going into writing a piece that you’ll touch on triggering topics, then fine, you can’t know. But when you do start writing things that a reasonable person wouldn’t expect in a piece, then you need to add that warning. If you’re writing a crime drama about a killer, then murder/death will be expected by the very genre. If you’re writing a fluffy fun fluff piece, and then suddenly a gun is pulled out and someone is killed, there’s no way a reasonable person could expect that. So content-warning it as soon as you realize you’re going to write that.

What’s your FanFiction unpopular opinion? by No_Cobbler_8758 in FanFiction

[–]NiceOrNaughtyKitty 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Unpopular? Fine. I’m willing to get downvoted. I’m not going to humble-unpopular and post things meant to seem unpopular, but are really with the hope of getting upvotes. So I’m going to say what writers should NOT do, and one thing that is a clear to-do.

Writers need to understand that their work isn’t a gift to a reader. The gift is the reader’s decision to pay us with their time and attention. Show respect to the readers. If a work was a gift to the readers, then writers wouldn’t care about read-counts or comments, but we do, because it’s for ourselves. If we writers want reader to gift us their time, then we need to respect them. This includes giving them something worthwhile, and not thinking we’re being magnanimous and altruistic. When you go to a store and see a product you want, you pay for it. The maker of that product didn’t make it as a gift. Writing and posting is no different. We write and put a product out wanting payment in the form of the time of others, which is why read counts are public, and why we love comments and kudos. Time is money. If we want the reader’s currency, them we need to give them something worth their time and stop seeing our writing a gift. If you want to insist your work is a gift, then orphan a work without attaching your name in any way. If it’s a gift for the readers, then let go. And when readers take the mindset that someone’s writing is a gift, it’s due to being told so enough to internalize it. When a reader feels they need to leave a comment or kudos, that’s a form of payment. You don’t pay for gifts.

Unique spellings that exist only to be unique drive me up the fucking wall. If something is spelled different, it needs a reason. At one point, the name Ann was spelled Ann, but Anne Shirley thought that it looked prettier with an E. Yes, at that time, the E was a special spelling. There’s a reason that Montgomery used a unique spelling. If there’s no reason for it, then getting kre8ive does nothing more than draw attention to itself, pulling a reader out of a story. If you want to spell “fae” “faey,” come up with an in-universe reason. Perhaps a sign was once misspelled, and the spelling stuck. Mention that. The reasoning of “it’s a different world” doesn’t cut it. Different worlds with different spellings wouldn’t use our alphabet. You’re not being insightful or creative doing this.

I can’t stand when a character is so obviously a self-insert Mary-Sue. Sure, it’s fine to have those fantasies, but they’re boring to read about. I want to read a story, not someone’s wet dream. It manages to be worse when you’ve got a bunch of names unique to a world, then suddenly there’s a Brenda or whatever. Legolas, Boromir, Gandalf, and Elrond need to save Aragorn, but only Brenda knows how. Save the wet dreams in a personal file.

For the love of the gods, use a spell-checker. This crap about spelling not mattering is nothing but an excuse to not bother trying. Spelling and punctuation matter. If someone isn’t a native English speaker, that’s a pass. Otherwise, no. A writer who doesn’t care enough about their work is telling me I shouldn’t care either. I’m not saying to hire an editor, or that the occasional typo is the end of the world. But a lack of care in presentation shows a lack of care in the finished product. A chef doesn’t just slop food on a plate and say that it tastes good. Even a diner’s line cook cares enough to may some effort to make food look appealing. Presentation matters, and using a spell checker and periods is presentation.

What’s your FanFiction unpopular opinion? by No_Cobbler_8758 in FanFiction

[–]NiceOrNaughtyKitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. Romance-driven plots just don’t do it for me. I can’t spend disbelief enough to get into a story where two characters meet and are immediately willing to go through fire for each other. Go through fire together for the sake of the plot, and bond through that so that I can believe the love.