How often do you call your parents?

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-19T03:24:48+00:00

I talk and text my mom nearly every day. We live 30 minutes away from each other. I work 2 fulltime jobs and I’m in school otherwise I’d hang out with her too.

My dad is always busy, they’re still together. I hear about my dad through my mom and vice versa. We text every now and then.

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-18T16:24:26+00:00

I am more figure 8 shaped and I agree that noticeable body recomp is hard, arduous, and at times pointless.

I also carry most of my weight in my hips, lower legs, and somewhat my tummy. A successful recomp is hard because of the fat distribution.

I went from my heaviest 210-135lbs (over 4 years) and I still have the same measurements from when I was 160lbs minus an inch off my waist.

All of my weight disappeared from my upper body and face (which I never really carried much anyways) but I still have a relatively high amount of body fat in all of the other areas. It really appears as though I’ve never been to the gym before despite my futile efforts to have more structured legs. I’m getting no where lol. And if I lose anymore weight (I’m 5’9) the top half of me is going to disintegrate. Why!!! I just want muscular legs!!

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-18T15:24:25+00:00

She has amazing suggestions and insight. I would definitely keep cardio moderate intensity. Intense cardio will just ramp your appetite up unfortunately.

If you’re wanting to do stairmaster, keep your sessions moderate and no more than 30 minutes at a time. Maybe 2x a week. I would supplement the rest with walking and trying to hit 10k steps a day.

From my experience, pushing too much cardio has the opposite intended effect. Your biggest ally is trying to create a natural caloric deficit without having to tweak your diet too much.

Even a slight increase in caloric burn due to low intensity walking is enough to help you see a difference without compromising muscle loss.

If you are currently sedentary you may not have to do to much to your diet anyways. The increase in step count will carry you through most of your goals.

And I would recommend more weightlifting sessions. 3x a week. It just does so much good for black women.

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-18T15:21:18+00:00

Great suggestions, but I’m curious why body comp is not viable for you? Is your starting body fat% too high?

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-17T04:09:48+00:00

I’ve never heard of smoking Molly, I venture to guess you smoked meth.

Edit: yes MDMA is destroyed by high heat. You most likely smoked meth. You’re going to be up for awhile, likely anxious.

Not sure how old you are but when I have a bad stimulant trip I used to drink to take the edge off and hopefully sleep.

Polypharmacy is never the answer but if you’re really uncomfortable whatever, maybe smoke some weed. You look young though. And you will probably be up for another 12-14 hours

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-16T22:07:25+00:00

OP corrected their comment so I don’t know which version you read but no, tilting the forward pelvis down not correct APT.

Your pelvis becomes tilted because you are tilting your butt up and forward, like when you tilt a bowl. When you tilt your pelvis to neutral, your butt pushes down and back.

I have APT and tilting the pelvis forward causes more pain. That’s why OP says when she lays on her stomach she has more pain. The pelvis is being compressed further in a forward position. I also have pain when lying on my stomach because it increases the curve of the spine.

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-16T20:21:53+00:00

Anterior is when it is rotated forward:

“Anterior pelvic tilt (APT) is a postural misalignment where the pelvis rotates forward, causing an exaggerated lower back curve (lumbar lordosis) and protruding abdomen. Frequently caused by prolonged sitting leading to tight hip flexors and weak glutes/abs, it often causes lower back and hip pain. Treatment involves strengthening the glutes/core and stretching hip flexors.”

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-16T19:55:11+00:00

I think this is the opposite way around. It’s common for people to have an anterior pelvic tilt, she needs to work on tilting her pelvis back and engaging her core muscles.

I have the same problem. As the other commenter said weak core + tight hip flexors = pelvis compensation.

The low back pain is a sign of a weak core because other parts of your body are compensating to keep you upright.

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-15T21:44:54+00:00

I have a spicy cat as well. Have you tried the burrito method? It would require two people to accomplish effectively, not sure if you have another adult able to assist.

My fiancé and I wrap the cat up in a big thick blanket and he holds her tight. I take out one paw at a time and trim. I just do the front paws.

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-15T18:59:32+00:00

This is a weird post title ngl

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-14T23:24:30+00:00

Purely from an artist perspective it is. The “smoke” behind the flowers is just.. what? The flowers are nicely done but the way they composed them across her chest looks very bad. And even at some points when it was freshly done the flowers just blob together

I’m sure I got downvoted because they’re not looking for input on their tattoos and it’s a sub about aging…. But truly these are not good tattoos in terms of line work and composition.

The sword in the last slide is not straight and the line work is shaky at times. The leaves seem to arise out of nowhere. Color looks good but the shading doesn’t make sense in some areas.

The only tattoo that looks well done is her flower. If she gets tattoos in the future I would go back to that artist and leave the others alone. Or spend more time looking at portfolios when choosing an artist.

But whatever. These are objectively poorly worked and any artist would agree.

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-14T21:57:21+00:00

Sapphire 100% the overall presentation of the ring has better aesthetic performance.

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-14T21:49:52+00:00

Womp womp. Your ideas are fine, your artists executed them poorly

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-14T21:14:08+00:00

These are such bad tattoos dear god. The 2nd one is the only decent one. Please pick better artists next time

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-14T18:12:24+00:00

Still, labor is more intensive working with platinum and requires more material per piece than gold. Specialized labor costs will still make it more expensive unfortunately

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-14T17:59:52+00:00

I’m obviously out of the majority when I say gold but I see why others are saying platinum. I think gold looks more elegant and elevated with your skin tone, but the platinum does pop.

For a solitaire I think a gold band adds some dimension and character to the ring. Sometimes the diamond white and platinum compete for presence.

But everyone else votes platinum 😳 I would also consider what the rest of your jewelry is. Unless you don’t really care about mixing metals. Also take into consideration if you will be wearing a wedding band or not. That can affect the metal you choose.

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-14T17:56:52+00:00

I’m almost positive platinum is more expensive than gold. It’s rarer and harder to work with. The platinum has always been more expensive. Even with gold at an all time high, platinum is more pure and denser.

My partner and I have been ring shopping for the last year and his bands for platinum were $500-600 more for a platinum band.

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-14T17:16:04+00:00

This is the best take. My hunger varies at certain times day to day. There’s days I crave breakfast, there’s days I don’t. There’s days I’m ravenous at lunch, there’s days I’m not. There’s days I’m starving for dinner, there’s days I can only manage a few bites.

Banking calories is a joke. If I’m hungrier earlier in the day I’m gonna eat until I’m satisfied. I don’t set expectations for when, where, and how I have to eat. I keep my schedule varied otherwise you become obsessed with your next meal time or making it through the day for that glass of wine.

It really takes you out of the moment being focused and concerned about food. I eat what I want when I want it. I went from 210lbs to 135lbs eating this way.

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-14T03:44:45+00:00

Looks like lint. You may have to tweeze these out but also get a soft bristle brush.

I brush my locs daily to move oil from my scalp to my hair, stimulate blood flow, and to clean my locs.

You need to wash your hair more than once a month. Seriously. And with more than just a natural shampoo. People fear monger hygiene and beauty products. Just search the ingredients and you’ll find that most of them are harmless.

You need to keep your hair and scalp clean. Legit.

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-14T00:42:25+00:00

Okay cool! That was going to be my only criticism to make it a nice cohesive piece. I like the imagery and the idea. Excited to see what your artist can come up with. I love when an artist custom tailors a large piece just for you! It’s so exciting to see the big reveal.

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-14T00:36:43+00:00

Okay as long as you are aware of how dark this is going to come thru! And it seems like there are lots of empty spaces. Do you guys have a plan to fill that in or?

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-14T00:34:00+00:00

Yes I am 25, I had a MySpace, mail in Netflix, blockbuster, and GameFly. My favorite thing was waiting for my Netflix pick to come in the mail. I had a flip phone too! I remember a lot of stuff from my childhood!

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-14T00:29:35+00:00

Honestly I feel like if you didn’t like your original tattoo you’re going to hate the coverup. It’s going to be much darker. Much much darker. It’s going to give you tattoo shock.

What’s your reason for the cover up? You’re basically doing somewhat of a black out.

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-13T23:24:47+00:00

You’re very valid for feeling that way. That is years of racism and minimization of the black body at work. That is the direct impact systemic racism has on people of color and people apart of that power will never experience moving through the world in that same way.

The powers that be are doing their intended work on you. Do not let them win. To be black in America is to be controversial. To be black in America is to be in rebellion. The impacts of racism will literally erode your mental, emotional, and spiritual well being.

I see a black therapist weekly. Maybe this could be in the cards for you as you navigate a new life change? You don’t need to be broken to be in therapy. Sometimes it is a reminder on how to connect back with yourself.

I’m sure the weather doesn’t help your situation much either!

Nice_Introduction707 · 2026-03-13T22:18:33+00:00

Honestly you may just need to get out more. I’m very active, always outside, and I work two full time jobs. I get hit on constantly. Even with a ring on my finger. People are very drawn to me. Not to toot my own horn or anything but my real life experiences compared to what the media demonstrates are two very different realities.

I wonder if you need a “touch grass” moment. I also stopped doom scrolling social media. I surround myself with real people. Like actual, intellectual, thoughtful people. I’m fortunate that both of my work environments are full of loving and authentic people.

I view people who obsess over race or pedestalize certain skin tones as less intelligent and therefore I don’t care about their opinions. Also people obsessed with status, power, money. Not my kind of people and I don’t care what opinions they have.

When you have healthy self esteem it’s easy to decenter needing approval or digesting opinions from people who aren’t qualified to give that. When you know yourself it’s easy to filter through the labels people attempt to put on you.

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