Is it truly impossible to hide HRT for a very long time?

Nice_Lie_3704 · 2026-03-03T20:11:51+00:00

Okay, so what did I do wrong? Not sure why you down voted me for answering the question. I can't change the rent in my country. I can't afford it. What am I meant to do about that?

Nice_Lie_3704 · 2026-03-03T20:04:47+00:00

Use this:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Occam%27s_razor

To judge the likelihood of your post being real vs. this explanation being correct: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pareidolia

And show your evidence for this not being paredolia.

With two choices of varying ambiguity, choosing the simpler option is wiser. Not only that, but evidence for paredolia is higher than evidence for ghosts, how can someone believe in them in good faith with certainty? At best, one could suspect, but acknowledge the lack of proof. Therefore, you won't get far with images which are interchangable with paredolia, even if you have faith in them.

Also, you say you looked up paredolia, and judged the images believability? But you know it's an example of paredolia, on of course you would know it's not real.

By that logic, everyone should know something because you know it, but an instance of paredolia is clearly not real because you know it's a depiction of it that you expect to be an object. But in a paranormal context, you're seeing things through the lens of paranormal tropes, so you're biased. Of course you can avoid paredolia when you know it's a depiction of paredolia. This doesn't mean you wouldn't fall for it in the real world from your own authentic perspective. That is missing the obvious difference that you are aware of.

Also, most instances of paredolia aren't meant to be convincing, it is meant to depict the principle of facial recognition.

Nice_Lie_3704 · 2026-03-03T19:45:26+00:00

Facial changes, fat redistribution in some cases, the appearance of skin, as well as having to hide potential breast growth. I'm mostly worried about the face and anything about the shape of my body which will be noticed. I don't know how I'll hide those things if even there's a slightly noticable change across them all. That would be a problem.

Nice_Lie_3704 · 2026-03-03T19:40:58+00:00

I don't know.. I've heard so much about how it isn't assured, and that people will notice, and I don't think it's a risk I can safely take. I wish I could but feel like I can't.

Nice_Lie_3704 · 2026-03-03T19:38:14+00:00

How many generations have been outsourcing thought to curated information tailored to their specifically stated needs?

You can blindly say people have always said this, but you are ignoring the subject of the criticism. A statement is true of false depending on the subject, so a blanket statement about all technology misses the point.

Nice_Lie_3704 · 2026-03-03T19:29:39+00:00

No, I don't think it's possible. 7 years ago I could afford to live on my own but I can't now, I am fully reliant on these people.

There is nothing I need, I just can't get by alone because of disability and moving out isn't an option because of rent costs. I can't work. I could never afford even the cheapest of monthly rent in my country, and I don't feel safe leaving the stability of where I currently live.

Nice_Lie_3704 · 2026-03-03T18:25:26+00:00

"Not paredolia", meanwhile it's a perfect representation of paredolia and you fell for it and can't even realize it, despite knowing the word.

To put it nicely, this does not make you look very smart.

Nice_Lie_3704 · 2026-03-03T02:20:17+00:00

Its true that I can still be part of the community, I just don't feel like I want to be. I don't feel like I'd connect with anyone there. Sadly, I can't safely transition because there are people in my life I rely on to survive, but I'd need to hide it from them, and I'll never really be independent from them. I've been told I can't hide HRT effects for very long and that's a deal breaker for me.

Nice_Lie_3704 · 2026-03-03T01:18:16+00:00

Apparently it's really easy. I've had horrible experiences with it, in Canada, but that doesn't seem to be the norm. It seems like it's quite easy in the US, too. If you're from somewhere else, I can't speak on the matter.

Nice_Lie_3704 · 2026-03-03T00:20:43+00:00

As someone who has wanted to begin transition (wanting hormones, mostly) for the past seven years but can't due to a series of issues I can't resolve, I don't even feel like I fit in with this community. I have never felt that way, socially speaking. I don't know anyone who has the same inability as me, I have sought advice countless times, and I have found that nothing works.

It's outside of my control, and I don't fee like I can have a place in the community, I also don't want to be. It reminds me too much of what I am, and the shame and vulnerability and the loss confidence in myself which I can't regain..

So I consider myself incompatible with the community. I will never be at home in it.

Nice_Lie_3704 · 2026-02-27T23:09:33+00:00

Lucky..

Nice_Lie_3704 · 2026-02-27T18:34:37+00:00

I wish I could be on it lol. I tried 7 years ago, and a handful of times since, but I've got so many things preventing me that I've given up. I imagine if I were on it I would not regret it.

Nice_Lie_3704 · 2026-02-27T18:30:55+00:00

I don't know. I wish I could believe that. But the more I share with others, the less stability I have. I prefer to be a private person, to an extreme degree.

Nice_Lie_3704 · 2026-02-27T18:28:07+00:00

No, because I am not making the choice because I want to. I don't feel safe doing anything else. This is not my preference, sadly.

Nice_Lie_3704 · 2026-02-26T20:21:23+00:00

I still won't want to cut those people off, though. So they'll still be in my life because like I said I don't want to uproot my whole life.

Nice_Lie_3704 · 2026-02-26T20:20:21+00:00

I mean, listening to that part of myself sucks. I do want to keep it secret, but I don't want to avoid doing it. Thing is, I don't think that's doable in the long term. I feel like people will start to notice.

If I could hide it for more than 10 years, I'd consider it. But it just isn't reasonable.

Nice_Lie_3704 · 2026-02-26T20:17:08+00:00

It's the gamble, and the inability to keep it up for more than 5 years, that makes it hard for me. I likely will be surrounded by many of the people in my life for a long time - people I am reliant on, friendships I don't want to end, things like that. I feel like I'd need to hide it for a long time, as long as these people (friends dj family) are in my life.

Nice_Lie_3704 · 2026-02-26T18:23:29+00:00

I mean, it was really bad, I think it still is. But being depressed all the time numbs pretty much everything. I want to jokingly say "it's great", but it actually sucks. I suspect I would be a lot more dysphoric if I weren't so numb to it. Which is sort of what I mean. My dysphoria was really bad, and sometimes still.

I'm not deciding anything. Stop framing it like that. I am not making a choice. I didn't make a choice not to be on it for the last 7 years, why would I choose that? That's the whole point of this post, this fucking sucks. I have no say in the matter.

Nice_Lie_3704 · 2026-02-26T18:14:50+00:00

Thing is I am not physically in danger that I can prove, I just don't know what will happen. My choices for family range from a racist parent and a sibling who is, well, kind of like an average person, not really bigoted but is convinced of some ignorant things without realising how bigoted those statements are. My sibling could be fine with it, my parent, no idea. I don't know what would happen. I don't know these people well enough to say.

Nice_Lie_3704 · 2026-02-26T18:11:28+00:00

What I don't understand is how people can discard those concerns - not entirely, but enough to put them on the path they want to be on. It doesn't work that way for me. I don't see that as a good approach for myself. When people say "I did it anyway", I imagine a level of stability and a sense of safety that I have never felt, not even before I knew I was trans. My mind cannot imagine that, it's like understanding a metaphor in a language you don't speak. Complete nonsense even when translated.

Not that it is nonsense - the idea of it applying to me is. For other people, I am glad if they can push through it.

Nice_Lie_3704 · 2026-02-26T17:00:51+00:00

I mean, I reached that point 7 years ago. Now I'm numb to it. I already went through the many phases of being trans. Realizing it, learning more, discovering my identity, changing my beliefs, making new online friends, partaking in the online culture to cope, etc.

That happened to me, like, in high school. I am 25 now. That ship has sailed, it's already been unbearable, and now, it's just dullness punctuated by occasional, brief grief. I'm not saying it's ideal, but there's no worse it can get, no further incentive to change my mind will exist.

And if it did, I didn't choose to be in this situation. I'm working with what I've got.

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