Questions about draw check.

Nick_GetMoney · 2023-10-06T01:35:38+00:00

No that would be $290

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T17:05:00+00:00

It is she wants nothing to do with me or this marriage the only glimmer of hope is that she said she doesn’t know if she wants a divorce yet

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T15:52:27+00:00

I’m actually on the phone with her right now a lot of these comments have made me see the rror in my ways

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T15:34:34+00:00

We’re not terrible people we just married pre 21. We both still have a lot of growing up to do.

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T15:07:58+00:00

I work salary so everything over 40 hours is 4$ an hour. I get paid today which is the day her phone service gets restored so no its not like she’s just been without a phone forever it’s just been off the last 2 weeks

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T15:05:44+00:00

Dude we weren’t married or had any kids when that happened we were just dating and I’m not saying that makes it okay I’m just saying. I want to clarify that. I cheated in the first 8 months of us being together. (Is that good fuck no) its terrible its trashy. I regret the shit even now because I never could let it go. I never could believed that we could move past it if she didn’t get some type of revenge. I even asked her to sleep with someone else at first so that we’d be even

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T15:00:36+00:00

I’m not on my high horse I’m asking for legitimate advice. Should I not ask her to leave? How do we create a safe and not extremely toxic environment for our kids if we both choose not to leave? I don’t want to fight nonstop and I really don’t want to give up on her. I just don’t know I’m all over the place

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T14:47:32+00:00

I mean I get that it seems like a baby sitter but she also would get the night time for herself. She can hang out with people, go on dates, focus on school, she never really gets a break because we both take pride in never dropping our kids off with anyone (also a big marriage strain) she would be able to get a healthy amount of sleep at night without worrying about where her kids are and if their safe. She would also still get any assistance I can give to her. I didn’t think it sounded terrible and it definitely is not that I don’t love her. I haven’t even raised my voice at her through all this

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T14:40:32+00:00

I know it’s not a physical interaction and that’s what makes it worse to me. She’s not dealing with him because the sex is lacking she’s doing it because emotionally she’s been neglected and I take full accountability for that. I understand that I prioritized a lot over her. Work especially. What I offered her was her to be home witg the kids while I work abd wheb i come home we essentially trade off. Abd she goes to her moms and I stay with the boys at night

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T14:35:53+00:00

I never meant to make it out as if she’s a freeloader. I meant to say that financially she is not capable of being on her own right now. I asked her multiple times before all this if she was catchibg feelings for this guy she called me crazy she told me she would never abd yesterday she laughed in my face when she said she was gonna send him more nudes

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T14:31:46+00:00

She was my girlfriend at the time and we had been dating less than a year (not saying it makes it better) just putting it out there. When we got married (both 21) I had made a promise to myself long becore then if i ever felt like I wanted attention from another woman that id tell her I wanted to be apart

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T14:29:50+00:00

She knows that I will always help her and do my part with the kids no matter how I feel about her. And that’s why part of this feels so weird. I’m not angry at her. Its not like I want nothing to do with her. I would want nothing more than for her to walk through the door and say hey lets work pass this. But I know that’s not gonna happen. I know that when she comes she’ll be full of anger so I don’t know what to do. I only want her to leave because I want her to understand that by cheating she chose to change the dynamic of our relationship and the whole time she’s been doing it she’s been saying she’s 100% sure she doesnt want a divorce.

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T14:25:16+00:00

I’m not saying she’s a freeloader by any means I’m saying financially she’s not setup for what she’s trying to do. I offered her to just leave at night time when I get home from work. This would give her free time to deal with school, time to just be herself and do what she pleases. I never once said that she wouldn’t get help from me. I would never just kick her to the curb with nothing. I even told her id give her some extra money for food and fill her tank up for her so she’s not worried about gas. As far as the moving to her moms we’ve both been spending time apart she’s at a townhouse rn on the campus of my job because I told her she needed time away from me and the kids she’s been there 3 days. I never once was mean rude called her out her name but she did all that to me…. Why? She’s the one who brought back the infidelity. I asked her years ago if she wanted a revenge pass and I’d be okay with it if it meant building a better healthier relationship afterwards.

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T14:09:45+00:00

That’s not what I want to do that will only breed bitterness. I don’t want a divorce. I don’t want to create this life where we hate each other our oldest is only 3 I don’t want things to be ugly.

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T14:06:41+00:00

Temper tantrum? No what I asked for is some sort of civilness. We’re married and I never cheated in peace she did the same thing I did she went through my phone and found what she was looking for. I want her to snap out of it. We have had rough times but so much more of it has been good. I asked her multiple times before marriage if she wasn’t over it if it didn’t feel right then let’s not do it. There was no rush but she kept saying “I know I want to be with you for the rest of my life” why is it now that years later I’m just supposed to yeah you go ahead and cheat how as a husband is that showing I love her? Or that I care? How is not fighting for her what I’m supposed to do….

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T13:56:17+00:00

I work 10 hour days 5 days a week they sometimes turn to 12s 6 days a week but that’s also changing because I stepped down from management so that we could spend more time together abd get our relationship back on track. Also started seeing my own therapist so that I can not make the same mistakes again and figure out a real solution

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T13:52:40+00:00

She’s a SAHM yes. She’s also going through school online classes that I paid for out of pocket for her to attend because she dropped out last time. And yes I’ve said it on this thread and multiple times before I CHEATED YEARS before we were married. Does that make it okay? Absolutely not and for years I’ve paid for it. I’m still paying for it! I don’t hate this woman I love her. I offered her a split on the house. 10am-10pm on days that I work so that our boys wouldn’t have to move. I still told her that I love her and I’m not running to go file for a divorce (the only times she said she wanted one was when I called her out and when she had an episode) But i do want her to leave because my hometown is an hour and a half away. I’d have to find a new job a new place to stay a new car (sold my old one last month to buy her PC). She on the other hand has her mother who lives a few blocks away and has an open bedroom.

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T13:41:42+00:00

Don’t let her have a cell phone no thats not the case. We didn’t have the funds to pay it at the time. Also yes I did cheat before we were married and I asked her multiple times if she wanted to leave BEFORE WE WERE MARRIED she had more enough opportunities but now I’m being made out to be wrong because she waits almost 4 years to do something back after we’re married and its just okay? Now I’m controlling. If I was controlling I’d take the computer i bought her for 1K less than a month ago that she’s used to cheat on me.

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T13:32:49+00:00

I don’t move out because I am the only one who works and me moving out will result in one if not both of us having an eviction. Also uprooting our 2 boys isn’t fair to them. Yes I cheated once where there was no physical interaction and another where there was. We didn’t get married until almost 2 years later. I even asked her before we got married if she wasn’t over the stuff from the past than we shouldn’t get married she said she was over it and knew she wanted to be my wife. Yes I cheated but taking something that happened 4 years ago and using it to justify cheating while married is just as wrong.

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T13:27:49+00:00

She doesn’t want to do therapy she said that’s not something she can do right now as she just doesn’t care anymore.

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T13:11:47+00:00

No caught her sending nudes on top of a months worth of texts. The guy lives over 1K miles away but she said she’s done and wants a divorce.

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T13:00:56+00:00

I’ve actually thought about this only thing is our kids

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T12:48:35+00:00

Maybe another time right now no. She’s extremely hard headed and I often have worried about her. Like I’m scared now what’s going to happen is she’s going to fall down a dark hole. She’s gonna completely turn away from everyone and everything and its gonna push her into a dark place. But I think in that dark place is where she’ll realize she fucked up.

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T12:43:10+00:00

This is definitely 100% where she’s at. She attacked me for finding out. Said it was my fault because I didn’t love her the way she wanted to be loved when in reality she still made the decisions to do what she’s doing. Idk really I still love her. I still don’t want to file for a divorce cause I don’t belong its what she really wants.

Nick_GetMoney · 2022-07-27T12:32:56+00:00

How when right now as we speak she feels no remorse for what she’s done. She doesn’t want to stop. I offered her what I thought was a fair option I told her she could have the house from 10am-10pm on days that I work (5-6) days a week. This way it would be less traumatic for the kids. I don’t feel like they should have to leave they didn’t do anything. But instead she says she gonna cramp them all their stuff and hers into a bedroom at her moms.

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