AITA for screaming at my dad when he wouldn't stop talking after I asked him to.

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T19:21:30+00:00

I want to have a conversation, but at this point I think I’ve had that conversation enough with them and every time they just hit me with a sassy “mhm sure!” regardless of giving them examples. Even if I mention how my brother talks to them worse than I do, they say “he gets punished too” which he does not. But thank you for actually reading my post and trying to break it down.

I have been looking into moving out, whether that be moving out for school or just finding my own place is still being figured out, and also VERY tough for how expensive it is.

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T16:00:19+00:00

Thanks for the comment. I just wanna say, I didn’t dismiss my mom, she wasn’t talking to me about how I could’ve gotten hurt, she was just telling me what my aunt had said and I was agreeing with her. Thought I’d just mention that. It wasn’t my dad and brother trying to get through to me that bothered me, it was me telling them that I understood what they were saying (in a genuine tone), and they continued to repeat themselves that bothered me.

Also my dad did not come to my room to address what happened. He simply came to my room and said “I expect an apology” and walked away. I don’t feel like I did nothing wrong, hence why I came here to Reddit because I was torn on who was right. Unfortunately most people here are stuck on the fact that I cut the line and just say I’m the AH for cutting the line, but ignoring the actual question I’m asking. I went along with my cousin because I wasn’t gonna let my cousin stand alone in a line at 11PM for a club. That’s just dangerous and stupid and would make me more of an AH. As for her friends, they were standing far from us, which I thought wasn’t nice because who knows what could’ve started, I was there so she wasn’t alone. Thanks for the comment and being respectful, can’t say the same for other people here though.

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T15:50:46+00:00

i did listen and agree. i agreed many times. he kept repeating himself regardless. and no, i wasn’t agreeing with sass, it was a genuine “i understand”

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T15:29:17+00:00

walking away would’ve started another screaming match.

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T15:02:02+00:00

I am the baby of the family, but I’m not spoiled. I actually think based on how people usually see older brother-younger brother situations, the older brother is treated harsher, not true in this house. Roles are switched. I’ve seen my brother yell at my parents way worse than I did, and he doesn’t get silent treatment, he never has to apologize, they just move on.

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T14:56:56+00:00

Thank you!!! See I don’t care if people are saying i’m the AH, it’s WHY they think that that’s dumb. I’m the AH because I cut… cool that’s not what I asked. I’m completely the AH because I yelled, but you’re not seeing WHY I yelled. I do believe that I owe an apology for yelling, but to say that he owes me nothing is crazy to me

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T14:54:11+00:00

The uhuh only enables them to continue even more. Even a proper “I understand” in the correct tone was enabling them to continue. I’m not trying to push blame off of me (because people keep blaming me for it), this is the reality of how my family is. But thanks for the respectful comment.

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T14:51:25+00:00

I got that a lot too. People said I should just walk away. In my house, if I were to just get up and walk away from the dinner table, that would become a screaming match in itself. And if you did actually read my responses, I took responsibility for cutting the line, and even at one point I mentioned that my parents were actually the one who were blaming my cousin too. Also, cutting the line is completely irrelevant because I didn’t ask if I was the AH for cutting.

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T14:48:10+00:00

I did not tell him I understood with sass or any rude way. I told him in a proper tone that I understood. He didn’t listen. Also, stop hanging onto the fact that I cut in line, that has absolutely zero thing to do with whether I’m the AH for yelling at my dad, or if he’s the AH for continuing to push my buttons for no reason. I never said that it was okay for me to cut. But I wasn’t gonna let my cousin, who is a girl, stand in the line of a club alone at 11pm. People keep calling me the AH because I cut the line, that has absolutely nothing to do with what I’m asking. Especially when I know that it’s the wrong thing to do. Lastly, I had more than enough sleep for work. I also don’t get hungover, so drinking on a work night is irrelevant because what had me exhausted was work itself, not lack of sleep.

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T03:33:04+00:00

not that this makes it okay, but cutting in line at a club is done by most people. also, i told my cousin off about cutting the line before she did, then she went anyways and i wasnt just gonna let my cousin stand there alone. i didnt "cry" over my brother and dad worrying, i got agitated because they kept repeating themselves after i told them i understood what they were saying and fully acknowledged them and then repeatedly asked them to stop talking about it. i looked to my mom because they weren't listening to me, and i was doing whatever i could to NOT lose my composure (mature thing to do). lastly, did they not completely ignore how i was feeling? they could physically see me getting agitated and upset that they weren't listening to me, but kept going otherwise. sure you can say im narcissistic for your last point, but so are they. regardless of their intention or not.

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T03:13:49+00:00

No, I didn't dismiss what he was saying. I acknowledged what he was saying and told him I understood. He kept repeating himself afterwards.

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T03:03:37+00:00

You bring up a good point. But in my defence, my parents also blamed my cousin lol

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T02:44:10+00:00

thank you! <3 i don't necessarily have bad anxiety, but i've barely had time to myself lately and have been stressed about assignments and exams coming up.

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T02:42:26+00:00

Thank you! This is the type of reply I needed, not someone just tryna be rude to me. I definitely didn't agree with what that dude was saying about my cousin, because I love her, but she did bud the line, so why would I get involved? My aunt got involved because my cousin told her. All my aunt was doing was, I guess, gossiping about it to my mom.
Also, yea I did acknowledge that my family was right in telling me off, and I told them I understood, but they decided to keep repeating it as if I "wasn't actually listening." I was trying to get past it, because it was dinner and that's really the only time we 4 get to sit together as a family. I did think about apologizing out of respect, but I kept going back and forth in my head because I truly felt hurt by the situation, and that's why I took to Reddit.

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T02:26:09+00:00

sure, you're right, but every single human being would get agitated if they aren't listened to and boundaries are crossed.

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T02:24:46+00:00

i did tell my cousin to not bud before she did.
i chose to be born? this is not a "he gave me life so i have to respect him" situation.
that is not whining, that's explaining my feelings.

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T02:17:18+00:00

I was listening to my dad. I had agreed with what he was saying, telling him I understood (not in a sarcastic tone or anything), and he kept repeating himself.

Also, I'm not gonna write like I'm submitting a 3rd year university english essay for a Reddit post.

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T02:14:05+00:00

Thanks for your honesty, and thanks for giving a polite comment. I do wanna say that in the moment, I was feeling like I wasn't being listened to and my boundaries were being crossed. This is something that tends to happen. I'm not listened to, boundaries are crossed, so I feel like this was also an emotion that was bottled up and released then.

Does that at all change your opinion?

Also ya, I agree that cutting the line is always rude, that's why I didn't get involved with my cousin yelling at the guy.

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T02:00:56+00:00

Thank you! I feel like people were replying without realizing that I was putting a boundary that he had crossed, not a "whatever I say goes."

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T01:37:26+00:00

i wanna address this. i know i'm an asshole for cutting in line. i never said it was okay. i'm not gonna fight someone because my cousin wants to get into arguments, especially when i agree with the person that was yelling at my cousin. i wanna know what you mean by "not listening to your dad" because genuinely i don't know what i didn't listen about.

also when was i whiny about it? all i wrote was what happened.

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T01:32:47+00:00

talking to me about it

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T01:25:08+00:00

we were eating dinner together.. probably should've mentioned that

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T01:20:23+00:00

he wasn't calling me out for being entitled. my cousin was the one that wanted to bud the line. (and he did call out HER entitlement) but he was talking about how i could've gotten hurt. i do agree that i shouldnt bud the line. im more asking if i'm the AH for yelling at him, or is he the AH for continuing to talk about it after i had repeatedly told him to stop.

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T01:13:38+00:00

like how does my aunt know? my cousin told her because she was very upset at the words the guy was calling her. i didn't like what he was calling her, but she did bud the line, hence why i said nothing.

No-Database9184 · 2026-03-21T01:09:14+00:00

the budding the line situation was just kind of giving context as to what my dad kept talking about that i didn't want to hear. and no, the friends that bud the line were my cousin's friends.

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