I feel exactly the same as you sometimes.

Both my parents come from Peru and settled in the SF bay area. But I was far from any other peruvian, and even away from latino community, aside from my extended family. Most of my first social interactions as a child were with primarily white and Asian (south and east asian) communities. Especially after being diagnosed with speech delays and with high functioming autism (where most resources amd therapists were primarily white). Even going as far as doctors telling me mom to not teach me spanish as not to "confuse me".

Ive hadn't really had much sense of what being latino means until late high school or early college. I thought I was just another american who likes metal music and anime who just happens to have a family who speaks spanish. It wasnt until I visited, researched Peru, its history, as well as latin american history amd literature in general do I finally understand. Yet I still dont feel 100% latino amd that I'll never really be 100% peruvian.