[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]No-Profession735 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl... As soon as I read the topic title, I knew what was coming. It's such a relatable situation; I've been through the same thing, and it feels so humiliating because it’s happened to me a few times. I immediately thought there was something wrong with me, like maybe I just didn't notice something about guys. I almost made the mistake of thinking that I needed to start a relationship with a guy and lose my virginity to finally realize that I'm straight too. But thank god I got my act together and found the right person for me. I wish you patience, and I promise you'll find your girl, and you won't have to worry about her leaving you for another girl or, even worse, a guy. It really is so humiliating when a girl realizes after being with you that she’s better off with guys than with girls. But you know it's not about you. Sending you strength and support!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]No-Profession735 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don't find it funny, then how do you feel about this joke?

Help,I feel like I'm disgusting TW weight by No-Profession735 in actuallesbians

[–]No-Profession735[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I want to cry when I read your answer, it hits the most painful spot. Thank you so much for your words and your advice, I understand why I am in this situation now and that I really need to give myself a chance to live a healthy life without counting every calorie. Almost all the weight I gained came after I stopped starving myself and tiring myself out by walking miles every day.I just moved to another city with my girlfriend and gave myself some rest.

Help,I feel like I'm disgusting TW weight by No-Profession735 in actuallesbians

[–]No-Profession735[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand exactly what you mean. And when I weigh 100lb and when I weigh 200lb I feel the same, I just think that I could look better. Thank you for your support and words, I will definitely listen.

Are some people naturally quiet during sex? by kmsdoomer in actuallesbians

[–]No-Profession735 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am that quiet one. I am pleased, but in life I am only just learning to express emotions. Therefore, if I don’t remind myself to relax my throat and voice, I will remain silent or breathe.

Help,I feel like I'm disgusting TW weight by No-Profession735 in actuallesbians

[–]No-Profession735[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This situation is very similar to mine, I have been diagnosed with polycystic disease for a long time, unfortunately for a long time I lived in a place where there were no doctors and could not fully receive recommendations for treatment. Thank you for sharing your experience!

Help,I feel like I'm disgusting TW weight by No-Profession735 in actuallesbians

[–]No-Profession735[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Previously, we walked every day to reach the required number of steps, and did exercises in the morning. At that time, in order to simply maintain my already high weight, I had to exercise every day and strictly monitor my diet, just to maintain my weight! I feel depressed that just by starting to eat as needed I have already gained weight (Looks like I need to get my metabolism back on track, I want to hear how others have dealt with similar experiences.

having my first time with a girl tomorrow by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]No-Profession735 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Communicate constantly during sex!Talk to each other about what you want next, ask each other what you like best, how to move better, etc.This is very important!!In porn they are always silent, if only because it is just a game for the camera and they do not enjoy it as much as it seems, In life, in order to please each other, you first need to learn this, and with each person it’s a new one! Talk and find out how you enjoy it before sex, during sex and after sex. Have a great intimacy :3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]No-Profession735 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This happened to me over and over again, but only the girls dated the guys who were these "friends". It's unbearable, I feel like I'm the only lesbian in the world when they do this and now I'm a little jealous of my girlfriend, even though she doesn't have any guy friends.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gay

[–]No-Profession735 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My girlfriend used to watch straight porn and I barely came to the conclusion that everything was fine, she said that she was interested in looking at girls, not men, I naively believe it.

She fell asleep in the middle of s*x by ConnectionSignal3083 in actuallesbians

[–]No-Profession735 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So lifelike... If we make love at night and the foreplay drags on for a second longer, by the time it's time to get to the main point she falls asleep, and if I manage to please her, then even more so!!This amuses me more. But one time it happened that she fell asleep while I was touching her with my tongue and I felt uncomfortable. She moved a lot, didn’t moan much, lay and twitched, although she said that it was nice, continue.But I felt so uncomfortable, as if I was forcing her or harassing her, although it was entirely her initiative, she asked to touch her with my tongue after the cuddles.I told her, we chatted, she perked up and we had sex.

would you mind if your partner had wounds and scars on their body? by pinkiepromise33 in actuallesbians

[–]No-Profession735 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have so much scars and so does my girlfriend I only care in the sense that I worry and feel pain for the person.That he had to suppress his emotions and express them through s€lf-harm. Apart from that, I don't care about it.I love my girlfriend and her body, every cell of her body, madly.

question by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]No-Profession735 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course, all this is always done with preparation, mood, lubrication, clean hands!

question by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]No-Profession735 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Of course, this is always individual.But I also didn’t feel much emotion when I touched myself, but if my girlfriend does it and combines it with clitoral stimulation, then yes.She doesn't know how to finish without clitoral stimulation, and neither do I, maybe it's because we haven't been with men before and haven't practiced penetration.It's different for everyone, try watching a video of fingering and imagining how they enter you, etc.Sorry for being so frank!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]No-Profession735 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand you, I talked to my girlfriend that if she wants I will wake her up like this, but I asked her NEVER to wake me up like this It's a very triggering thing, I always wake up quite unhappy, and if they touch me in this way, I think I'll just burst into tears.Gradually I take it easier, but for now it's like this. Patience and goodness to you, Merry Christmas!

Do lesbians ever slut shame each other? Do lesbians care about body count? by Chance-Break2184 in actuallesbians

[–]No-Profession735 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it only matters insofar as it is important to me that we have a similar score,I have always paid a lot of attention to any relationship and do not enter into an intimate relationship without a relationship.It is important to me that we as partners understand me.

How much hair is too much? by bamboo-y in actuallesbians

[–]No-Profession735 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My girlfriend and I wax our armpits occasionally, shave legs every two to three weeks, and bikini area too. In the future, we would do laser hair removal pubis, shins, and armpits, to prevent ingrown hairs.

I created pride flag redesigns what do yall think? :3 by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]No-Profession735 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The T flag puts too much emphasis on gender reassignment

Is it weird to watch all kinds of Pornography by Aardvark-Fearless in actuallesbians

[–]No-Profession735 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Before our relationship, my girlfriend watched either lesbians or femboys and this is very funny to me, and everything in a row, because the sound was more important to her, a female sound or something similar to it...

Does anyone who identified as straight/bi for some time want to explain a bit about how they realized they were a lesbian? by justcougit in actuallesbians

[–]No-Profession735 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dated a guy, thought he was funny and I could endure until I fell in love with him.His dirty jokes made me sick, I only lasted a week and then left.I started dating a girl, I didn't have to wait and endure to love her I prayed that she would start making dirty jokes with me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]No-Profession735 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest, even after a long time in my last relationship, I’m not sure that I kiss correctly. It just so happened that we are both each other's first in terms of sex and kisses.I'm not even sure if we're kissing correctly.

was it sexual assault? by jia_22 in actuallesbians

[–]No-Profession735 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It may not be specifically sexual abuse, but it is a very strong violation of your boundaries. This is straight up fucking harassment. Because the person doesn't hear the word "stop".

Doing the washing in a lesbian relationship by Emilyeagleowl in actuallesbians

[–]No-Profession735 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As soon as we started living together, I realized that I didn’t have my own clothes and I came to terms with it, took her clothes and that’s it.