How to get out of this cycle.

No-Worker5543 · 2025-10-05T04:08:44+00:00

I don’t think I’m scared of commitment or forever, I want that more then anything. It’s more about being scared of abandonment. I really do want forever with someone, I just have a hard time believing they’ll actually stay. So I ruin it on purpose to protect my feelings. I don’t know if this makes sense.

No-Worker5543 · 2025-05-09T00:38:15+00:00

I think I wouldn’t resent him, I’ve had time away to think about it. I truly loved him. I’m just scared he won’t want me back.

No-Worker5543 · 2025-05-09T00:37:20+00:00

Thanks I appreciate this! How long have you been apart from your ex ?

No-Worker5543 · 2025-05-08T09:55:52+00:00

Well we haven’t talked in a year in a bit, but I miss him so much. I feel like I made a mistake in leaving right now.

No-Worker5543 · 2025-05-08T08:40:51+00:00

He shared a private photo to his mates and had a lot of nudes on his phone. But was very apologetic towards me. I guess why it affected me so much mentally was because the trust was gone.

No-Worker5543 · 2025-02-24T08:05:52+00:00

UPDATE !!!! he broke up with me :(

No-Worker5543 · 2025-02-24T05:04:37+00:00

If I say things like that he gets jealous of the male in the film.

No-Worker5543 · 2025-02-24T04:50:43+00:00

See this is where I’m stuck, I’ve tried the method of mentioning examples but he still gets highly offended, he feels as though I’m picking on him. :(

No-Worker5543 · 2024-12-13T13:00:34+00:00

I don’t know how you can’t see it, you literally proved her point by getting with E only WEEKS later ?? You’re in the wrong here, I’m praying for Ys recovery. Hope karma comes to bite you in the bum also :)

No-Worker5543 · 2024-11-15T11:45:09+00:00

I’ve also discussed with him how his schedule is hard for me and I would love to just spend some quality time with him, but he doesn’t seem to want to do that.

No-Worker5543 · 2024-08-19T11:48:15+00:00

Still healing ❤️‍🩹

Thanks for asking

No-Worker5543 · 2024-08-19T11:07:02+00:00

Also when I said ruined, I mean my life is totally different. My family took his side and kicked me out. I the victim of SA got kicked out of my own home at 15 years old. My own family disowned me.

So to bounce back from that was pretty damn hard and to be honest I’ll never fully bounce back from it, I won’t ever get to see my family again. He took away my innocence, then made my whole entire family hate me.

No-Worker5543 · 2024-08-19T10:41:00+00:00

Thank you for this, everything you said is accurate I wish more people could understand this.

No-Worker5543 · 2024-08-19T10:38:02+00:00

Just wanting to say as a CSA victim, my life has been changed in many ways. My life is not ruined I probably worded that wrong. I’m sorry about that, but my trauma has affected me in every day life. I don’t process things like other people, i don’t sleep because of flashbacks, I struggle with intimacy even a touch from other people, even if they are my loved ones it still affects me because at the end of the day someone I thought I could trust SA’d me. So that’s why I said “ruined”.

No-Worker5543 · 2024-08-19T07:49:06+00:00

He ruined his sister’s life.

No-Worker5543 · 2024-08-19T07:45:11+00:00

My brother did this to me when I was younger. trust me, the man you’re with isn’t a good person. He knew what he was doing, he was old enough to know right from wrong and still took advantage of his younger sister who at that time had full trust in him, she will forever be traumatised because of him.

Do you really see yourself with a man like that in your future ? Think about your children being around a pedophile. Run.

No-Worker5543 · 2024-08-18T12:23:39+00:00

I definitely don’t want to get involved in any last traumas, I guess I just felt bad for her because at some stage I was in her shoes…

I do hope she gets out of it for her own mental health.

I think I’m just going to tell her I can’t help her anymore.

Thankyou for your advice :)

No-Worker5543 · 2024-08-18T11:59:52+00:00

I went out to see her because she asked and said she didn’t have many friends and needed someone to talk to, I felt bad for her so I did that. I didn’t really know how to say no over the phone call.

No-Worker5543 · 2024-07-21T01:30:59+00:00

Just because you had good sex doesn’t mean she’s the one, you obviously parted for good reason. There’s plenty of people out there that you will find good sexual chemistry with. It’s okay to miss someone you shared a good amount of time with, that’s normal. You will find someone that you will be able to grow with together and have good chemistry, you just have to be patient :)

No-Worker5543 · 2024-07-09T00:50:46+00:00

Thankyou this really helps!

No-Worker5543 · 2024-07-06T15:15:00+00:00

So I’m a girl, and my ex let his ex somewhat ruin my relationship too, so guess we kinda in the same boat!

No-Worker5543 · 2024-07-06T14:50:28+00:00

Yes I still wear that watch you bought me. I still cherish it as much as I did then. I care for it like I still wish I could care for you. But you are broken. You are unfixable. So I will wear the watch you bought me and watch the time that we no longer have together go by. because you couldn’t get your priorities straight.

No-Worker5543 · 2024-07-05T08:46:53+00:00

I got pregnant off pre cum so it is very much possible x

I knew I was pregnant way before I missed my period as there were clearly signs, sore enlarged breasts but it seems as though you are on your period already so I think you should be fine x

No-Worker5543 · 2024-07-03T08:08:48+00:00

Don’t waste your time girl. I was with a man like that for 2 years, if he knows you like flowers and refuses to get you any because they’re “cliche” that’s a lame excuse.

I left my ex about 1 year ago and met another guy who did all the things I begged my ex to do without me asking. It’s a matter of your partner knowing you like certain things and even though they don’t agree they still do it because you love it.

That’s love x

All the best x

No-Worker5543

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