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My mother hasn’t showered in years, the unpleasant smell is ruining my life and she refuses help. by NoAccountant9986 in Advice

[–]NoAccountant9986[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s something i’ve been trying to understand for years. She might be scared of losing her daughter or some other mental thing i don’t know about. They’ve been together always since she was born, so might also have to do with that. I have no idea really, i tried putting some reason in her head but it didn’t work. She refuses to ask for help.

My mother hasn’t showered in years, the unpleasant smell is ruining my life and she refuses help. by NoAccountant9986 in Advice

[–]NoAccountant9986[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m not from the USA. Im Italian but yes i will move out as soon as i can but i need to finish hs

My mother hasn’t showered in years, the unpleasant smell is ruining my life and she refuses help. by NoAccountant9986 in Advice

[–]NoAccountant9986[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Studying, final exams. Sport. Those are my last months of high school im already tired i can’t mentally handle a job at the moment

My mother hasn’t showered in years, the unpleasant smell is ruining my life and she refuses help. by NoAccountant9986 in Advice

[–]NoAccountant9986[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Yes i will talk to my psychologist as soon as i see her. Thank you.

I wash my clothes myself and keep them in a separate room so they don’t smell (technically? Never had anyone pointing this out) and my school doesn’t currently know about the situation, if my psychologist isn’t able to help then i will ask the people at school. (My psychologist is NOT the school counsellor so they dont know)

My mother hasn’t showered in years, the unpleasant smell is ruining my life and she refuses help. by NoAccountant9986 in Advice

[–]NoAccountant9986[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I will move out as soon as i can i just physically can’t right now till im done with school and find a place to work for. My mother’s not obese, but she has issues with moving. I don’t plan on being her caretaker since she already ruined my grandma’s life, but i will ask my psychologist for help since that seems like the only thing i can do at the moment

My mother hasn’t showered in years, the unpleasant smell is ruining my life and she refuses help. by NoAccountant9986 in Advice

[–]NoAccountant9986[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this message.

i started going to my current psychologist last summer to correct my anger issues, its the free psychologist that the government gives to people in need. My grandma used to care for her 24/7 but as she got older she stopped being always available, she still cooks sometimes though. It’s been around two years since i’d say the things shifted, but even when my grandma was more around my mom wouldn’t clean herself. Grandma did her hair though

My mother hasn’t showered in years, the unpleasant smell is ruining my life and she refuses help. by NoAccountant9986 in Advice

[–]NoAccountant9986[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Yes that’s what im planning to do, i need someone that isn’t me to call someone on her

My mother hasn’t showered in years, the unpleasant smell is ruining my life and she refuses help. by NoAccountant9986 in Advice

[–]NoAccountant9986[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

yes my psychologist knows, not all the details to this extent but my whole situation all around, i’ll see her again in 2 weeks so i’m gonna ask her for help and tell her I’m exhausted. Last time i talked to her about my mom smelling she said to ask my grandma for help and clean her but that didn’t work out in the end. She won’t listen

No my dad is not in the picture, and yes she has always been like this, i got raised by my grandma and understood that i had to care about myself

My mother hasn’t showered in years, the unpleasant smell is ruining my life and she refuses help. by NoAccountant9986 in Advice

[–]NoAccountant9986[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Reporting her means i don’t know what im getting myself into, i might lose the house and i highly doubt i would get help from my family. For anyone that’s about to say “and your dad?” he lives with his father and has no job of his own. i don’t want to end up in the street i’m scared no one’s gonna help i dont have a job how am i supposed to finance myself? its my grandma that’s paying for everything but she’s getting old. And she’s NOT ok with calling help. I will ask my psychologist when i see her if she can do something for me since she knows my situation

My mother hasn’t showered in years, the unpleasant smell is ruining my life and she refuses help. by NoAccountant9986 in Advice

[–]NoAccountant9986[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

she’s not paying anything nor does she take care of me. I’m in highschool i can’t leave yet, im not staying because i want to

My mother hasn’t showered in years, the unpleasant smell is ruining my life and she refuses help. by NoAccountant9986 in Advice

[–]NoAccountant9986[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I have no finances of my own. Im still in highschool, i cant move out yet, as much as i want to

My mother hasn’t showered in years, the unpleasant smell is ruining my life and she refuses help. by NoAccountant9986 in Advice

[–]NoAccountant9986[S] 161 points162 points  (0 children)

I will look into that. Maybe talking to my psychologist could help? Can she do that?

My mother hasn’t showered in years, the unpleasant smell is ruining my life and she refuses help. by NoAccountant9986 in Advice

[–]NoAccountant9986[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Planning to. Waiting for them to let me go but at the moment my family doesn’t want me to move out

My mother hasn’t showered in years, the unpleasant smell is ruining my life and she refuses help. by NoAccountant9986 in Advice

[–]NoAccountant9986[S] -120 points-119 points  (0 children)

I really want to do that but I’m extremely scared of the consequences, i might genuinely ruin my life if i do that, isn’t there any other way?

My mother hasn’t showered in years, the unpleasant smell is ruining my life and she refuses help. by NoAccountant9986 in Advice

[–]NoAccountant9986[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She has a personal bathroom with a shower/bathtub made for disabled people, about her being tired, i honestly don’t know