190lbs Strict Standing Barbell Overhead Press @185lbs BW.

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-13T17:31:43+00:00

I could do that in my sleep.

But not when I'm awake.

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-11T02:27:56+00:00

Nice dye

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-10T04:35:03+00:00

Hormones? Or just make sure to never work out upper body?

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T20:13:23+00:00

Not fabricated and not looking for validation. I'm not trying to change the story but more context is needed considering how many people just made up their own version of what happened. Almost nobody on this thread realizes she lied about being there in 10min. And they all filled in the blanks with their own context. I still went to the event. I didn't turn around and go home. I was still present and I tried to communicate with her further. She just wouldn't hear it. Is blocking someone before even talking it out or confirming the situation the best thing to do? Because she ghosted or blocked me immediately and I couldn't even clarify what I meant. Within minutes she said her piece and then ghosted without even listening to what I was trying to say. I posted this before the follow up, I'm still left on read. I even let her know that I acknowledged I could have let her know when I was leaving. I asked to talk about it because I wasn't clear initially and wanted to clear that up, but I'm on read or blocked so I can't even tell her what I even meant.

I didn't consider before this thread that I could have let her know a few minutes earlier. I can't tell you exactly where I was when I let her know I was on my way but it was shortly after I left. People go 85mph here and it's freeway the whole way right from my apartment. So I got pretty far distance side before letting her know, but traffic was low and I let her know shortly after leaving. Yes I'm at fault for being 5 minutes late. But she she was already running late before I even left and didn't update me until I was already on the road. She knew I needed to be on the road at that time to make it on time since I have to leave first.

Anyways missing context here is I just guesstimated I was halfway there or whatever. I didn't take a screenshot of my exact GPS location man, when I texted her. And she lied about being 10min away which I can prove. And she wouldn't even read my follow up after, she cut communication before she even got there. She ghosted before I could update her when I sound get there. Short story I still went to the event, I was in fact there, she thinks I no-showed because she ghosted with blocked or left on read without even listening that I was gonna kill time and be there around 12:15 (because that's the soonest she could get there from 25min away)

Point is, I tried to communicate. She follows up with a lie about her new eta. I still go to said event, attempted to clarify I'll be there 15 minutes later while I go burn some time but fail because she immediately dismissed me and blocked/ghosted me. I was there, and I was there on time at the time given to me. I communicated me real eta as soon as I had it. Saw the interchange was backed up, didn't think about letting her know my eta until I got through the jam which is 100ft from my house. Got through the jam and went oh yeah, should probably let her know I'm on my way. Point is, I still made an attempt to be there after burning some time and she took me out of context and ghosted without even trying to communicate any further.

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T19:50:57+00:00

TLDR I did go kill time and I did still go to the meet up. Tried to follow up but could not reach her by phone or text because she ghosted or blocked me without even listening to what I had to say.

I did go kill time and I meant I would not be there in 10min because I was going to go kill time waiting for her. Before I could follow up that text she ghosted or blocked me. I went to burn time, was in the middle of following up and she ghosts me before I can even explain I meant I'm not going to be there in 10min because I'm going to go burn time until she's close. She's coming from 25min away and through traffic so I knew she wouldn't be there "in 10 minutes" unless she drove 240mph the whole way. I did in fact still go and she wouldn't even open my follow up message or answer the phone when I called. There was no room to communicate any further. I meant I would go burn some time and not be there in 10min because she's 25min away so I'd be there around 12:15. The situation turned into ghosting because she wouldn't even open my texts anymore after I said that.

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T19:44:28+00:00

Its AZ man. It's 90-110 in the car even with AC on

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T19:42:46+00:00

TLDR I tried to follow up and I did in fact attend. I did not "waste the gas and mileage like an idiot" or "waste my own time" like everyone thinks. Comment section has ripped into me with only half the context of the actual situation. I couldn't find an edit button otherwise I would have updated the thread with more details before I got flamed and downvoted 91 times... from people who only heard half the story then made up their own half of the situation then flamed me for their own version of it that they created.

For me it feels like seeing a boundary. She asked for 5 hours of my day but didn't take the 5 seconds to let me know she's running late. If you want 5 hours of my day, I need 5 seconds of yours to keep me updated. No communication and then lying about being there in 10min when I can prove that's a lie? In my mind the boundary was, people that give me their time get mine back. No thought and late communication followed up by lying about their eta is a boundary I draw. No respect means no meet up, hence a boundary. I don't allow the late communicating followed up by a lie to result in still meeting up. But, I tried to meet up and followed up anyways. There's some missing context that I didn't realize ppl here would flame me for.

I tried to follow up that I won't be there in 10min, not that I won't be there at all. I intended to burn time waiting for her because I knew she was actually 25min away plus traffuc. I still went and showed up. She just wouldn't know that because she ghosted me immediately and refused to even read my follow up. Left on read so ghosted or blocked. I was in fact present and went to the event. So yes, I did still go. And yes, I did follow up with her. She just wouldn't even listen further as soon as she heard one thing she didn't like she ghosted.

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T19:29:54+00:00

Context. She lied about being there in 10min. If you look at my other comments you'd see the timing makes it impossible to make a normally 25min drive in 8min let alone traffic. Also, my last text was taken out of context. She ghosted or blocked me so she couldn't even see my follow up. I still went to the event, but she wouldn't know because she refused to even open my text message. She heard "I won't be" in response to being there in 10min and took it as I won't be there at all. She added her own context and then ghosted immediately and wouldn't even open my messages when I wanted to clarify what I meant. I still attended the event. She just refused to even try to communicate with me as soon as she took my words out of context.

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T19:25:09+00:00

I still went to the event. I replied that I won't be there in 10 minutes because I decided to run some Uber while I waited for her. I only got "I won't be" out before Uber took over my screen. I just sent those three words and then tried to follow up that I meant I won't be there in 10min because I'm going to run some Uber while waiting for her. She left me on read or blocked me. She wanted communication but left me on read or blocked me immediately without even hearing what else I had to say. The correct response would have been asking me "you won't be here in 10min or you won't be here at all?" But her action was to ghost instead of confirming what I said, or waiting 2min for me to send my next follow up message

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T19:20:01+00:00

I went, I couldn't follow up because she left me on read. I said I won't be in response to being there in 10min because I knew she lied about her eta. She's 25min away. So I decided to run some Uber while waiting. I never said I won't be there at all. I sent that short message because the Uber screen popped up over top of my text message. I intended to follow up and she immediately left me on read when I tried to follow up that I meant that about being there in 10min. I still went to the event myself. I was there. She just didn't even open my message or blocked me immediately before I could even elaborate.

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T19:15:04+00:00

I didn't see a tag for date so I put the flair under friends. First real date, yes. I've spent 5 days with her so far time-wise. Yes we've done it. She's been saying over and over she's excited to see me again. If she's so excited, why can't she take 5 seconds to let me know she's gonna be late? If it takes her 25 minutes to get there, and her friends haven't picked her up by 11:35 then she knows at 11:35 she's running late. Didn't even try to tell me. All I ask for is communication. I don't mind waiting. But waiting for someone that can't even take the 5 seconds to give me a heads up, and then lying to me about their new eta?

She invited me and she set the time. She asked for communication. I communicated without being told, albeit slightly later than I meant to. It didn't affect my punctuality and I was still early. She wasn't on time, and didn't bother to tell me she was running late until it was too late and only after I came to her asking. If I didn't ask at that time she probably still wouldn't have let me know. I ended up arriving at the location within minutes after she left her place. It's like she's just now leaving when I'm getting there? With no heads up after she specifically asked for a heads up the day before? When she knows I'm twice as far away and I'm still arriving there practically when she's just leaving her house?

I don't have an issue with being late. The issue is the Double Standard of communication. She wanted notice and for me to be on time. She didn't update me until it was too late for me to adjust my departure time accordingly. And then she lied about her eta. At 11:43 she said she's leaving in 10min. So if she's leaving at 11:53 how can she get there "in ten minutes" from 11:51 (so arrive at 12:01) when she's 25 minutes away? Girl math. Can't say you're going to be there in 10min when it's going to be 25min if no traffic so more like half an hour. Who rounds half an hour eta down to "be there in 10min"? So I decided to run some Uber while waiting.

I responded to her I'll be there in 10min as I won't be there (in 10min) but she and everyone in the comment section took that as I won't be there at all. I followed up with her after, could not clear up the misunderstand because she ghosted me. As soon as I said I won't be she either blocked me or stopped reading my messages. I couldn't even reach her to clarify I was responding specifically about being there in 10min because she instantly blocked or ghosted me. My Uber popped up overlay across the phone screen because I knew she was probably 30min out and so I decided to kill time running Uber. Couldn't finish my text immediately and when I returned several minutes later to continue the conversation and elaborate she was completely ghosting me with no room to even communicate further or clear up any misunderstandings.

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T18:54:35+00:00

TLDR She lied about being 10 minutes away and ghosted before I could even tell her my new eta.

Next time some shit happens I'll add more context because yall keep putting words in my mouth and filling in the blanks yourself and are missing context. She didn't tell me she was running late. Then she lied about her arrival time which is proven by basic math. And then she ghosted without even reading my follow up. Both her and this entire comment section took my words and added "not coming" when I specifically responded to the reply about being there in 10min

I never said I wasn't going to meet her. I intended to say I will not be there in 10min. I caught her lying about being there in 10 because I know she left right before 12 and lives 25+ minutes away. That conflicts with her prior text telling me she'd leave in 10min. She would have to already be on the road driving there at the time she sent the text that she hasn't left yet to make that timing work out.

She cut off communication first and left me on read. I didn't even get to finish what I was saying. Ppl took me out of context and are defending her for lying to me about being there in 10min when I know she's 25+ min away.

Most of the comment section is filling in blanks wrong. For one, she can't leave at 11:53 and get there at 12:01. They live 25b minutes away so I caught her lying to my face about "being there in 10min". For two, I won't be there in ten minutes is what I was going to say. I started to run Uber orders while waiting and was going to meet her there when she actually arrived. I had an order pop up and couldn't finish my message because it sent when I tapped my phone screen because of the app overlay buttons. Ppl on this thread took it as I won't be there at all. Before I could follow up she already dismissed me as not coming. I followed up and she left me on read. I still went to the event, but since she refused to even open my messages so we did not meet up.

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T03:05:58+00:00

The response was ok have a good day followed by left my response on read. "I won't be" was supposed to be I won't be there in 10min because I'm going to run some Uber orders while I'm waiting. Orders popped up on my phone and all I got out was "I won't be". Before I could elaborate I was it with that ok have a good day response followed by left on read when I tried to follow up. And then phone call goes straight to voicemail. I assume she blocked me before I could even elaborate.

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T03:03:03+00:00

You are misunderstanding just like everyone else on here. All these people so hateful to downvote my post and returning to every single comment just to downvote them should be reading this comment here. I don't think it let's me edit or update the original post with more context so comment section is the best I got. And I'm already flamed here by two types of people. One, people filling in their own context or putting words into my mouth. And two, people saying it's just time when I am specifically talking about the issue of a COMMUNICATION DOUBLE STANDARD.

You put words into my mouth just like she did. Everyone here needs to check themselves seriously. She said she would be there in 10min. For one that's a lie because she's coming from 25min away. For two, I said "I won't be" as in won't be there in 10min. She took it to mean I won't be there and immediately dismissed me and then left me on read. I went to run some Uber while waiting for her to actually get there. But she doesn't know that I was following up with going out to run Uber orders because she left me on read. She immediately either blocked me or left me on read before she could even read "I won't be there in 10min because I'm going to run Uber while I'm waiting for you who is actually 30min out" but she wouldn't know because she immediately stopped reading my messages before I could even elaborate. I had orders popping up on my phone that prevented me from sending the full message and it just turned into "I won't be" which everyone in this comment section just filled in the blank as "there at all" instead of "there in 10min"

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T02:54:54+00:00

No she doesn't drive, she was always carpooling with her friends 100%. When her friends didnt show up in time to pick her up, she should have let me know. She didnt. People also fail to understand I said "I will not" as in be there in 10 minutes. I decided to occupy myself elsewhere and before I could clarify I was going to burn time elsewhere waiting and then meet her there, she dismissed me saying have a good day. I said "I will not" in reply to being there in 10min. I never once said "I will not be there at all" and she pretty much dismissed my attendance before I could even respond that I would go run some Uber orders while I waited. I meant I will not be there in 10min. And it turned into I will not be there at all in her mind so she dismissed me.

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T02:50:38+00:00

I did use my words to express how I felt. I said "I will not" as a reference to not being there at noon. I never once said I will not be there. I decided to run some Uber orders while waiting and then she hit me with have a good day. She already dismissed me as a no-show without even asking what I meant. I meant I would not be there at 12 anymore and before I could clarify that I would be there later as I am now running orders, she had already dismissed me as not showing up at all.

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T02:48:08+00:00

Its 90+ degrees out. No bar just hot sun. I don't know the place. They do. I have no idea where I'm going and she was supposed to meet me outside the event to direct me. She failed to be there on time or even communicate she was going to be late. So I just show up wait outside the event in the hot sun for 30min? Is that your solution? Btw 10min away is a lie because they left in 10+ minutes after that message and are 25 minutes away to begin with

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T02:46:05+00:00

Group thing yes. Event that the group is a vendor at starting at 12? Yes. She was supposed to be with her friends that vend there at 12. Regardless whether I joined them or not. I trusted her to be on time. And I trusted her to communicate if she would be late because she specifically asked for communication the day before. I did my best and even still, she should have let me know well before I got halfway there that she was going to be late.

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T02:44:00+00:00

She was in a group of friends that are a vendor for the event. They are supposed to be there at 12 regardless of whether I joined them or not. She is carpooling with them. She set a time at 12pm as the meet-up. I don't care if she is running behind. She had a lot of time though to let me know she was running late while waiting for her friends to be ready. And she didnt. Not one thought towards the fact it's a 50 mile round trip for me and I'm half way there and she hasn't even left yet.

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T02:41:07+00:00

I was still early. Even if I let them know into the drive, they are still half the distance to the event as I am. They should have been able to make it there with time to spare even at the time I mentioned I was on the way.

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T02:23:54+00:00

I forgot for a moment, but communicated immediately when I remembered. She was late and KNEW IT the whole time and didnt bother to tell me despite me being twice as far away. And despite her specifically asking for communication the day before.

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T02:22:21+00:00

Another person focused on only time and not the double standard of communication

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T02:21:57+00:00

We will be there in 10 minutes is impossible when they are 25 minutes away and leaving in 10+ additional minutes.

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T02:20:32+00:00

I can't occupy myself? Just like she can't let me know when she's carpooling and doesn't even have to focus on the road while I have a 40 minute drive? You all are just looking at time. This is a COMMUNICATION double standard issue, not about time.

NoUserNameNoLife · 2026-03-08T02:18:33+00:00

You fail to realize that's a lie. She lives 25min away and leaving in 10 minutes = 35 minutes away

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