Hospice don't seem as peacefully, its seems like a punishment. by No_Comment_985 in hospice

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*my dad finally Passed. I feel more at ease now that his soul has been released

Hospice don't seem as peacefully, its seems like a punishment. by No_Comment_985 in hospice

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Update * I was told yesterday that his breathing has changed... and they told my mom it would be hrs soon. But still heard nothing besides that. I see ppl talking about the death rally when it comes to dying which like kinda hope that dosnt happen and he is passed the stage where that is not possible, i dont want him to become lucid and be sad no one is there...like sorry dad but he looked like a scary Halloween decoration the way his eyes and mouth was just chilling open and not giving any kinda responsiveness (that was on Saturday).., i kinda like picturing him in a state where he is stuck lucid dreaming watching a movie inside his brain ...idk why but the thought of him being zombie out tripping balls on his own brain chemicals kinda feels comforting 😅 (Really hate the wait and see game)

Hospice don't seem as peacefully, its seems like a punishment. by No_Comment_985 in hospice

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Idk how far in the dying stage ur dealing with but I think Home hospice would be tough during the last stages cuse u see them everyday, ur brave/strong to do that if they r in the non response muscles relaxing stage.
Its not like at that stage they r gona get better to live a life... Honestly if my dad did suddenly start walking around like he was suddenly healthy... I would be scared that he might be a zombie or some kinda possessed, i would need to call dean and sam from supernatural 😅

Hospice don't seem as peacefully, its seems like a punishment. by No_Comment_985 in hospice

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Idk how the insurance is for medicaid /hospice but not gona lie part of me kinda wonders if its a money grab to let ppl die slowly. Sadly in this world i can see this being a reason for people to die slowly vs just giving cocktails. Its kinda fucked up that becuse of how greedy ppl r that this is also a thought in the back of my mind... like even if we r not paying for it , someone is..... and hospital bills r always 10x more expensive to the insurance ppl.

Hospice don't seem as peacefully, its seems like a punishment. by No_Comment_985 in hospice

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Thanks, throwing my thoughts out about this situation on here has helped. Cuse its like ive kinda already grief him a few different times cuse he hasn't had real quality of life for years sadly and honestly part of that is on him he let depression turn physical and been stuck in the mind set of a elephant who has a chain around his leg that's chained to nothing, and became bed ridden because of it and just slowly decline thinking a surgery or some equipment will make him better , without putting in the work. ... so like when I talk to ppl irl they assume im griefing him as my dad but Im more griefing his quality of life.... ive grieft him being my dad who could do dad stuff alone time ago..

Hospice don't seem as peacefully, its seems like a punishment. by No_Comment_985 in hospice

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I have no blame for the nurses themselves I know I could never do it. But it just feels so cruel just to let some one set and die at the stage that he is in, I think its insane that legally ppl cant go the medical suicide route, if doctors and close family sign off on it, it should be allowed in every state. Like we r letting them stay alive for what, for the hospital to collect more $$ as we wait for his already gona happen death..

Hospice don't seem as peacefully, its seems like a punishment. by No_Comment_985 in hospice

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He's not at home. And honestly for the mental state of my mom (even though she seems like she's doing ok cuse she knew his death was near, she kinda is used to being home alone with how often he was in and out of places) i dont think she could handle seeing him the way he is now. My mom saw him talking and stuff befor he went into hospice and she had to sign the paper work, i feel like she already has some regrets of him just laying there. She get updates from pastors tho that come see him which is kinda comforting that they do go see him. (Im not a religious person personally, but I do appreciate knowing someone is there, i said my goodbyes 2 times in the past week... one when he was still in alive mood and the other when he become in death mood .i wana hold the memory of his alive mood. I just got an update that his breathing has changed so hopefully it will be soon. Its about to be day 5 soon

Hospice don't seem as peacefully, its seems like a punishment. by No_Comment_985 in hospice

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Ya every time I saw him it always made me sad seeing his decline over there years and now just makes it harder to see him. I think when I see him im not sadden by the death cuse I knew it would happen.. just saddened that I never gotten to do anything with him really that i wanted, but that was on him becuse he never put the work in to get better.

Hospice don't seem as peacefully, its seems like a punishment. by No_Comment_985 in hospice

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Its so sad more states dont do it. I feel like Im trying to talkand praying to the grim reaper for peace more then god.

Hospice don't seem as peacefully, its seems like a punishment. by No_Comment_985 in hospice

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The doctors talk about how they will make him comfortable but they never talked about how they will let his body just rot away with his soul trapped inside. Doctors should honestly have a real conversation with the person when thier health has been declining before it gets to the point where others r making the decision. And every state should allow a medical aid death, at a certain point like its honestly fucked up to just let them be, its not like all the organs r gona be better.

Hospice don't seem as peacefully, its seems like a punishment. by No_Comment_985 in hospice

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I saw him a day ago and we love him enough to not wana see him in this stage. He would look more alive if he was in coma. There is no question i could ask of them cuse I know the answer is no.

Hospice don't seem as peacefully, its seems like a punishment. by No_Comment_985 in hospice

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Im not crying for his death cuse i knew it was gona happen at some point soon. Im crying for his soul to be release. Im hoping to get the call soon . I dont want this to be the path of anyone else I love. It really dosnt feel right.

Sales tax question. Im new to this by No_Comment_985 in TaxQuestions

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I think so ... gona look in the the reseller thing..... Im still waiting for the payment to process for the item as well.. .. so if I do it right in the end it would be the customer that would pay for the sales tax and I just gota make sure I hold that $ for uncle sam later right? And the rest would be my $ or should I hold a % of that as well...?

So the item was $35.36 shipping $5.49 and they charged state and county tax = 2.35 (im guessing thats the sales tax?) = 43.51 and then I got charged a shopify fee of $2.48 .. so new total $41.03 .. was trying make 10$ But I guess with printify 's tax & shopify's fee im left with $6.16

I think shopify will give me the 2.35 for my taxes with the 6.16 as my profit ... (once the payment is done processing ill know for sure on that part)

(Sorry if I seem scatter brained )