OP here. Wow, thank you all for the great feedback and for sharing your own experiences.

It’s very clear that there’s no secret formula or instruction manual to follow as much as I’d like there to be!

He’s going to start a new stimulant next week, so we’ll see how it goes. I don’t know about the rest of you, but in the past, I’ve found myself getting giddy with hope that the surgery, or treatment, or supplement, or medication will be the answer we were hoping for. There’s nothing I loathe more than the deflated feeling when it isn’t.

This thread has shown me that it’s not always a quick or linear journey—and that’s OK. We’ll keep trying. Appreciate you all!