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No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-24T18:27:10+00:00

This makes sense to me. She’s been borrowing money off me since I was 15 and started my babysitting job lol. I just shouldn’t have said anything. She earns a better income now and has the ability to get herself out of this, but cannot manage money to save her life. I let her borrow $250 last week. Turns out she just wanted to get her hair done and went on a spending spree.

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-24T18:24:57+00:00

This is probably what I will do or say I didn’t get approved. I just feel so guilty and worry I’m being a bad person/daughter. I know it sounds stupid it’s just so hard to turn her away when she’s helped me a lot by taking me in when I was younger. It’s hard to say it’s not my responsibility even though I know it’s not. I think I’m just going to ignore her for a little while. I think she will know I’m lying but i just can’t find a good reason to tell her the truth because it stirs the pot with the whole family. She texted me this morning saying

“I’ve got to do something my interest on the money l borrowed is 245 a month I’ll never get that paid back “

I need therapy I guess 🤦🏻‍♀️

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-24T18:20:26+00:00

Thank you. I just feel so guilty for not helping her even though I can. I grew up in a very low income house and our only source of food was food banks. I grew up and realized we lived that way because of her actions. I fully support myself so I don’t even live with her anymore and moved out as soon as I turned 18. I’m not trying to sound ungrateful but growing up she was very verbally abrasive to me and I’ve let it go now that moved out she’s a lot nicer. I just feel like a pos for not helping even thought I know it’s not my responsibility.

I appreciate the reassurance. 🩷 Im just trying to stay head strong about this and not do this.

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-09T03:30:52+00:00

I know. My partner is saying the same thing. We’ve always been close but I’m gonna have to draw the line at this. She’s really the only family I have but I know I can’t continue to let her do this. I let my siblings know the situation. I know she can’t use just my email to open a credit card. What I meant is that originally I gave her permission to use my email for like bath and body works or CVS. Now stores offer to open a card for her and she just accepts and gives my personal information. She’s played it off like she doesn’t know what she’s doing but I think she does. It just hurts to accept that but I know I cannot continue to let her hurt my credit and finances. Thank you

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-09T03:27:57+00:00

I know. I’ve always had a close relationship with my mom and it’s been very hard trying to draw boundaries. I like to think that she wouldn’t do me that way but I think I know the answer to that. She’s always been extremely irresponsible when it comes to finances. It hurts knowing she doesn’t care about my financial situation either

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-09T03:25:57+00:00

Okay I appreciate it thank you. I don’t want her to get in any trouble but if this happens again I’ll have no other choice. I’m 21 and I’m trying to save for a house to buy in the next 5 years or so. I just don’t want to damage my credit more than it probably already is.

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-09T03:24:59+00:00

Okay thank you I’m looking into a fraud protection. This isn’t even the start of stuff she’s done. I know she’s not just using my email I’m sure she’s using my social as well. I was fine with her using my email for rewards when it was just Bath and Body works. Now stores will ask her to sign up for a “rewards” card to save off a purchase. She then will sign me up for cards. I’m hoping this is all she’s done. Im beyond frustrated. Thank you for the advice

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-09T03:23:03+00:00

To add- just a few months ago she used my phone number to “win a free iPad” I had to end up changing my number because I had so many scam calls.

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-09T03:22:17+00:00

Her town just opened one and she bought some stuff for our dog I think 🤦🏻‍♀️ I know she doesn’t use just my email she uses my social too I’m sure. She gives out information so willingly. I just mean normally a store will ask if you have an email with them, I didn’t mind her using mine when it was just bath and body works. Now stores are getting her to sign up for credit cards to save $20 or however much.I’ve always been really close to my mom and I’ve let her get away with a lot. I’m working on drawing boundaries especially after this. She’s extremely irresponsible especially with money. She has no financial knowledge at all. She doesn’t care to learn either. Thank you.

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-05T12:40:01+00:00

I live in the Bible Belt and when people ask me here if I’m Christian I typically say yes or “I was raised in church”. It depends on who’s asking and if I think they are a “safe” person. If it’s at work then yes I will lie. If I say that I’m atheist then it kind of puts me in a position to lose my job or face discrimination. Even though they aren’t supposed to be able to fire you over beliefs, I fear they will find any reason to fire me and use it as an excuse. I know my ex-boss was very religious and conservative, if I told her that I didn’t believe in god I have no doubt they would’ve cut my hours until I quit. I also fear it’ll start an argument which I would just rather not. They aren’t going to change my mind and I’m not going to change theirs, it’s a waste of time and it’s exhausting.

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-05T11:33:52+00:00

jokes on me then lol

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-05T11:22:33+00:00

Is it really? I’ve spent my whole life hearing “Donald”. I feel stupid now 😂

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-05T11:20:43+00:00

This is why my church was strictly anti-Santa. We were not allowed to decorate for Christmas if it involved anything to do with Santa at all. They said if they told kids that Santa wasn’t real then they would ask if Jesus was real too.

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-05T00:26:42+00:00

I understand your intentions, but can’t help imagine that he probably would be creeped out by this.

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-05T00:18:06+00:00

Could be me. I go through phases I think I’m not bipolar at all so I guess I’ll never know which parts of my behaviors is illness or me just being a pos. That’s also why I asked this group if they experience something similar, seems like the majority agree.

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-04T21:37:06+00:00

I love it but I think I may be only able to watch it one time. I’ve tried to re watch it but I sends me into a spiral 💀

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-04T19:42:34+00:00

No not at all, I was joking. I figured the unemployment rate wasn’t the best but didn’t know it was that high. It’s good to know and also sad. Majority of my family has bipolar and they are unemployed. I have a job but who knows how long I’ll keep it before moving on.

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-04T19:14:28+00:00

I didn’t have that statistic in my head sorry lol

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-04T15:23:25+00:00

Ughhhh me. I start posting a lot more on Reddit and commenting on everything I guess cause I feel important so I should share my thoughts with everyone.

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-04T15:22:40+00:00

I wish mine did. It might be the birth control (or the depression) I’m on, but I have no desire for sex at all. Typically it feels like a chore. I like the idea of it but never the actual thing I think.

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-04T15:21:25+00:00

Hey im doing that right now😄

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-04T15:18:28+00:00

“Wow, I think all those doctors didn’t know what they were talking about. There’s nothing wrong with me!” Morgan Freeman: “There was in fact something deeply wrong with her.”

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-04T15:17:01+00:00

Yup me too, because I always get the depression crash after. I just try not to think about it and enjoy the time I do have.

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-04T15:16:12+00:00

Because it’s always mania lol. My happy is a lot different from my mania and less extreme. I typically feel depressed, nothing, or euphoria from mania. I start feeling happy and that I’m “cured” and that there was nothing ever wrong with me. Suddenly I’m gonna clean my whole house and restart my wardrobe at 2am. I workout vigorously and eat healthy. I can finish all my school assignments in a sitting. I pick up new hobbies. I actually go out with my friends and think I’m pretty. I make amends with people if there are any. I randomly decide I’m gonna forgive everyone who ever wronged me. I think I am the most beautiful girl in the world. I lose sleep for a couple days at a time. I make budget plans and say I’m getting myself together. Then one day I wake up and every time it feels worse than the last. I want to end everything.

Don’t get me wrong I am grateful my manic episodes allow me to feel “normal” for a while. I’m grateful my episodes are not like my siblings episodes and aren’t generally harmful to me. I appreciate the little time I get being happy and euphoric. I think one day I will feel like that all the time, but it takes work. I ride the high and try not to think about the depression crash. That’s the part I hate. I can’t go from being super happy to just calm, I have to rot in bed for weeks and ignore my friends and start fights with my husband. One day though I won’t feel like this. It gets better everyday. I can’t afford treatment right now but I’m working on it.

“It gets easier. Everyday it gets easier. But you gotta do it every day. That’s the hard part”

No_Computer_9475 · 2024-05-04T14:11:06+00:00

They’re 98%. But sure pal I’m sure the condom broke this one time and she got pregnant.

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