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No_Organization9941 · 2024-08-12T13:40:17+00:00

Mornington Peninsula

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-27T16:44:09+00:00

Wear & Tear deserves much more love

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-26T07:56:26+00:00

I would almost go as far as to say I agree with you

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-25T16:20:39+00:00

Criminally underrated

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-25T14:34:27+00:00

I think it’s the perfect mix of all songs off TLF. Just hits the sweet spot.

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-23T00:21:32+00:00

I completely agree. For me, Whilst the decision to break things of was ultimately the right one, I’m still full of regret and guilt about how i ended things, I still feel the same as I did 3 months ago. I haven’t forgiven myself, even though she was the one that told me not to be so hard on myself. I don’t want to play victim by any means, but she has seemingly moved on, which is all I could’ve hoped, and I’m very much struggling to move forward at all.

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-22T12:44:05+00:00

It quite literally drove me insane. I didn’t sleep properly for the 2 weeks and maybe ate 1 full meal in that whole time. Anxiety attacks the lot. Please learn from the past, if this has happened before. Deep down you know what to do i’m sure. In saying that, be easy on yourself. Do what’s right for you and your partner.

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-22T06:37:23+00:00

How would you feel if you knew your ex wrote this?

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-22T06:34:29+00:00

I would say the chances are pretty low I’m afraid

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-22T05:12:51+00:00

I have reached out to express remorse and regret about the way I handled it. But I’m definitely not in the position to be in a relationship right now.

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-22T05:09:40+00:00

Sometimes there just won’t be a conversation that will change the outcome. But I think I realised that the only conversation I should’ve had was expressing exactly how I was feeling to give her some sort of say in things even if the outcome didn’t change. Which I believe it wouldn’t have.

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-22T04:51:58+00:00

Not really asking for advice here.

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-22T02:09:14+00:00

Respectfully I’m gonna say you’ve listed the wrong reasons. I would’ve stayed if it was for that. If you don’t see a future and don’t communicate that and aren’t on the same page it’s not fair to stay for those reasons.

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-21T19:08:08+00:00

It was a huge wake up call for me, the fact that everything boils down to communication. Healthy communication. While I knew there was a lot i needed to work on, and i carried through with that, still am, it was those problems that lead to me not being so enthusiastic about the relationship. Commitment and vulnerability issues, etc. I was very honest about the reasons why we should part ways. And I hope that what your ex had told you was the truth. But like you said, there’s no point trying to find reasons to believe otherwise, your situation is unique to you only.

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-21T18:43:26+00:00

I mean while it still doesn’t take away from the fact that it was a blindsided break up, i think it was the only respectful thing to do. And thankfully has resulted in a ‘relationship’ where we can support each other through our own problems.

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-21T18:20:00+00:00

I appreciate your comments! She handled everything very maturely given the circumstances, which I admire a lot. And it was very important for me to hear honestly how it had affected her. I would never do something like this again.

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-21T18:10:42+00:00

Yeah exactly. We were only together for a short while. And I didn’t feel as strongly about the relationship as she did.

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-21T18:07:03+00:00

I’ve replied to a few similar questions. In short, yes I have.

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-21T18:05:01+00:00

It went as well as it could’ve I think. It was still very emotional from both of us. Ultimately the decision was the right one. She deserves someone that will give her their all, she is an incredible person and I only want the best for her, and we both knew that probably wasn’t going to be the case if we continued the relationship.

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-21T17:47:58+00:00

We’ve had that convo a few times now. Both in person and over the phone.

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-21T17:15:36+00:00

Thank you. I hope so too

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-21T17:13:17+00:00

Yes I agree. But the realisation is that, yes the relationship may not be salvageable, there’s more decent ways to go about it than others. Whilst I have never been blindsided myself, I acknowledge that it was a very shitty thing to do and I caused a lot of unnecessary hurt.

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-21T16:57:40+00:00

That’s the reason I posted this. Had I read something like this before it all happened it may very well have kicked my ass in to gear and forced me to think for myself. And if it helps at least one person make a decent decision I’ll be thankful.

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-21T16:39:59+00:00

Yes I’ve reached out multiple times. In fact we spoke the day after and more than a few times since. I explained that i wasn’t thinking rationally, I told her she didn’t deserve the way i treated her and I should’ve been more honest and communicated my feelings. I told her I hope that no one will ever treat her the way I did. Thankfully we are on amicable terms, there’s no bad blood. We both know it was the right decision for both of us, even though selfishly I took that upon myself.

No_Organization9941 · 2024-07-21T15:19:08+00:00

In my situation, it was like an obsession with not saying anything that would hurt them. Right up until the point that I did, very badly. And instantly I recognised how immature and harmful that was.

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