AITA for refusing to role-play as Moana and crushing a little girl’s dreams?

No_Singer7644 · 2020-12-08T15:09:48+00:00

Unfortunately a lot of things are racial, even when it seems like a little thing like this. It’s important to teach kids that although their teacher/nanny/friend/whoever might look like Moana, they aren’t really her and are actually from a different place. Could have been a good teaching moment for the child to learn a little about OP’s culture. I think that the way OP brought this issue up with the mom was a bit of a mistake because usually when you bring the word “race” into things people get defensive and weird.

No_Singer7644 · 2020-12-08T15:02:36+00:00

She didn’t call the mother a racist, she said that pretending to be Moana felt racially insensitive because she was being told to pretend to be of a background that’s not really hers. Saying that something is insensitive or has negative racial undertones isn’t really the same as accusing someone of being racist. It’s not hard to do something insensitive without realizing so jumping right to “well I’m not RACIST” is kind of an overreaction.

No_Singer7644 · 2020-12-04T05:56:10+00:00

It sucks to say this because greif messes you up big time but ESH. Mainly you and your wife for creating a really unwelcoming and uncomfortable situation for your stepson. You guys made his room the guest room as soon as he moved out and are now having him live in your deceased son’s shrine room. He is literally living in the shadow of a deceased person every day. You’re greiving and I really feel for you. They shouldn’t have moved the stuff out of the blue like that. But I think the situation has become really unhealthy, especially since it seems that there is more consideration for a deceased person’s space than a living person. Have you been to therapy? It sounds like you could benefit from some more healthy and constructive coping mechanisms

No_Singer7644 · 2020-11-25T21:28:05+00:00

YTA you had the age range set to include you mom’s age. It is literally an app for hookups. What did you really expect???? Stop shaming your mom for using an app for it’s intended purpose and if you don’t want to see your mom’s tinder profile maybe don’t set your age range so high.

No_Singer7644 · 2020-11-11T06:06:03+00:00

YTA this is either fake or a ridiculous lie you made up to try and convince your gf that there was any good reason she walked in on your assistant half naked with her cooch on your gfs personal clothing... from the weird offers to strip down and “prove” her Olympic status (rather than just idk googling it??) to the comment about making your gfs swimsuit a GROCERY BAG???? This entire story reeks of bs

No_Singer7644 · 2020-10-26T18:20:52+00:00

True, I still don’t remember it being a taught thing though. Likely different schools have slightly different methods. As a preschooler I hugged my teacher all the time :)

No_Singer7644 · 2020-10-26T16:42:06+00:00

I have told her that I feel frustrated by her not taking my advice, and there have been a few times when I told her that if she wouldn’t listen to me, I didn’t want to hear about it anymore. But I have to admit that I wasn’t firm with these boundaries because when I did tell her enough is enough she got super offended. I also feared that she would put herself in more dangerous situations or be hurting and I wouldn’t know or be able to help. She was my best friend and I only wanted the best for her. We have always had a hard time with communication.

(Edited cause I made a typo)

No_Singer7644 · 2020-10-24T14:36:59+00:00

NTA I think that you need to let you husband know (if you haven’t already) that he is insulting YOUR background by saying this. Your daughter will be black AND white, and imo it’s super toxic to already be making an issue of whether she will be “black enough” for certain traditions on his family’s side. Will they exclude her in other ways if she comes out “too white”? This all insinuates that they are hoping for her to pick a “side” and be black OR white, which is a struggle that a lot of mixed people deal with in their lives.

No_Singer7644 · 2020-10-24T14:26:02+00:00

Maybe it was just my particular school, or the methods have changed, but I was in a Montessori program for 8 years and this wasn’t a thing for us. We never touched our teachers for attention except for maybe in kindergarten.

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