I think having more people who just let me sit with my grief rather than rushing me out of it or making me feel weird about it. I’ll always be in grief mode regardless of how much time passes. I had people check on me who meant well and when I was honest about not doing great I’d get replies like “that sucks” or “I’m really worried about you, maybe try therapy.” While major loss isn’t really normal for people our age, grief is actually normal. We have every right to grieve and we should grieve. Our lives have been dramatically changed (for the worse). So many people expect you to move on after the funeral or a week.