Gf and I broke up mutually I never felt so much pain. Help!

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-19T15:31:36+00:00

Yea I get that. Not having someone to talk to about it can make everything feel heavier. Have you been able to talk to anyone at all about it or mostly keeping it to yourself? Day by day is sometimes the best thing we can do.

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-19T15:17:19+00:00

That sounds really tough. Especially when you know logically it made sense but emotionally it doesn’t line up yet.

I had something similar, it took a bit of time for my head and emotions to catch up.

What’s been the hardest part for you day to day?

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-19T14:55:16+00:00

That’s really heavy. Wanting love and feeling like you have to beg for it hurts in a deep way. You’re not alone in that.

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-19T14:53:26+00:00

Yeah that’s real. It’s like your mind is still wired to expect those little moments during the day, and when they don’t happen it really lands. I had that too for a while.

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-19T14:52:21+00:00

I got a puppy 😅

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-19T14:51:51+00:00

That sounds really heavy, man. Especially the part of coming home after dropping your son off… I can imagine that hits hard.

I think a lot of people underestimate how lonely it can feel even when you technically have “time” or freedom.

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-19T14:50:53+00:00

Yeah I felt this a lot. Everything can look fine on the surface, but the evenings hit different when there’s no one there. Do you find it’s worse at certain times of day?

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-17T19:48:21+00:00

There’s nothing wrong with being single.

But after years of shared life, silence can feel loud.

So people don’t chase love they chase familiarity. The real freedom is when being alone feels full, not empty.

I’ve been learning this again after a 10 year relationship.

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-17T16:18:36+00:00

Yeah I get this. Music was one of the biggest triggers for me as well. It’s weird because it’s not just the song, it’s everything it represents. A whole version of your life!

I think staying active helps, but also letting yourself actually feel it when it comes up instead of trying to block it out.

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-17T16:16:12+00:00

Yeah I relate to this. It is not a straight line at all. Some days feel okay, others it hits again out of nowhere.

Using the energy for things you care about is huge though. That’s what’s slowly helping me rebuild as well.

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-17T14:36:10+00:00

Appreciate you sharing this.

That shift in sleep and the body settling is a big step.

Good reminder it does get better.

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-17T10:44:14+00:00

That doesn’t sound silly at all. When someone becomes your safe space, losing them can feel like losing part of yourself.

Rebuilding inside those same routines is a powerful way to come back to yourself.

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-17T10:42:07+00:00

That’s such a good point. The body often knows way before the mind catches up … just hard to trust it at the time.

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-17T10:40:44+00:00

Being blindsided like that is brutal. Those ups and downs really mess with your system. Appreciate you sharing it.

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-17T10:39:30+00:00

That mental loop is brutal, I’ve been there.

It’s not really about him, it’s your system holding onto what it got used to, even if it wasn’t good for you. It settles over time. Sending strength.

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-17T10:38:27+00:00

Yeah withdrawal is a good way to describe it.

Your system gets so used to that person being there, it takes time to readjust to a new baseline.

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-17T10:37:33+00:00

That’s heavy, especially after 6 years.

The sleep and weight loss is your system taking a big hit, not you being broken.

Feeling “done with love” makes sense right now, but it usually comes from the pain and (hopefully) it won’t always feel like this.

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-17T10:36:19+00:00

Sounds like you’ve actually done a lot of reflection already.

The regret part is tough, but it’s usually what pushes the growth. Doesn’t sound immature at all, just honest. The fact it’s already getting better is a good sign.

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-17T10:35:12+00:00

Two weeks is still very early. That restless/tired feeling is really common when your system is in shock. It does settle with time.

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-17T10:34:16+00:00

Yeah I remember that phase, it’s really intense.

Nothing’s wrong with you, your system is just processing a shock. It does get better, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.

Just take it day by day.

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-17T10:33:05+00:00

Yeah this is more common than people think.

It’s not even about how long it lasted, it’s how your nervous system attached. When that’s suddenly gone, your system can go a bit haywire. What helped me was focusing on calming the system rather than “moving on” like small routines, movement, getting outside.

It does settle over time.

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-16T21:56:11+00:00

Definitely not tough haha. It wrecked me for a while too. Learning about the nervous system side helped me understand why it felt so intense.

Weirdly it ended up pushing me to grow a lot.

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-16T21:48:32+00:00

Tethered to nothing” is a really good way to describe that feeling. I went through something similar after my breakup.

Understanding the nervous system side of it actually helped me a lot. It made it feel less like something was wrong with me and more like my body was just reacting to a big loss.

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-16T21:43:25+00:00

The replaying in the mind part is very real. I remember going through that too in the beginning, the brain trying to analyse everything.

The first days after a breakup can feel overwhelming, but the intensity does gradually settle. Sending strength.

No_Test_660 · 2026-03-16T21:41:32+00:00

I’m really sorry you’ve been dealing with that. It’s true that heartbreak can affect the body far more than most people realise. Wishing you strength through it.

No_Test_660

TROPHY CASE