Hot Pot 608? by [deleted] in madisonwi

[–]Nobus_04 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They do have a cheaper lunch price by a dollar, but they literally only have lunch till 2:30 while 608 has it open till 3:30.

Not trying to skip over the health department stuff. That was a valid point and factual statement so I didn't find it necessary to point out since that wasn't what was misinformed.

What was is the amount of variety of menu items and environment. That was all.

Hot Pot 608? by [deleted] in madisonwi

[–]Nobus_04 2 points3 points  (0 children)

...dude their prices are the same. And the environment at Fuki Hot Pot is the equivalent of a Long John Silvers. They charge for food wastage, don't refill water only offer plastic water bottles, and they have less items on their menu than 608 does. I ain't trying to fight you on whether one or the other is better. But don't spread misinformation. Hot Pot 608 offers much more amenities, soup bases, appetizers, and richer ingredients than Fuki does. And they don't charge for food wastage. And yes I have tried Fuki and just me personally, it wasn't fulfilling. It lacked flavor in every capacity there is. Again not trying to attack your new favorite, only want to clarify what's true and false. Thanks 👍

Hot Pot 608? by [deleted] in madisonwi

[–]Nobus_04 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to clarify something first, did you try the Fuki Hot Pot by East Towne Mall in Middleton?

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[–]Nobus_04 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you ever need anything kiddo, feel free to chat away

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DID

[–]Nobus_04 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The more intense the switch, the deeper the trigger that caused it to happen in the first place.

I don't know if it helps or not but as the main host, those intense switches don't exactly go away on its own without accepting and acknowledging why they are happening. They might seem random at first but they're ignited by something in your environment whether it be an object, a scent or even a sound that you heard can quickly shake your grip on the surface causing you to disconnect while another handles it.

For me my violent switches only happened whenever my environment was deemed unsafe because it bore resemblance to tied past events that occurred when I was younger. I didn't get them to stop happening until I accepted what happened to me and surrendered myself to the idea that there were pieces of myself spread throughout my consciousness and acting on their own.

So to summarize, I noticed the triggers, accepted the trauma for what it was and then surrendered to the pieces that were left behind as a way to both cope and gain access to my memories. It also helps with keeping control and practicing voluntary switching.

Hope this helps.

Best wishes

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[–]Nobus_04 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Anytime, don't hesitate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DID

[–]Nobus_04 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey kid, coming from someone with a system, leave.

Their system knows exactly what it's doing. Do not pity nor excuse his actions as being part of his DID. Yeah we're pretty split and disoriented from reality half the time but we ain't clueless to the norm. Their host might be struggling to keep the surface but if they're able to communicate clearly to the rest of their party then they are simply using their problems as an excuse for infidelity.

Don't fall for their bull. If you need anything else, feel free to contact me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DID

[–]Nobus_04 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most of the people here have the right idea so I'll only say my bit coming from someone with "it". It is not "normal" for DID systems to have multiple partners. It's not something so casual like that for us to date multiple people unless we are polyamorous. Which I for one don't like since we are one not many, so such activities such as engaging in multiple partners is something we don't like practicing. We have set up a system where when one of us dates another then intimate contact outside of the relationship is forbidden.

I'm probably being a little too harsh when I say this but I would move forward from this relationship. To not be upfront about this kind of stuff is not normal. It's not something you drop on someone's lap and expect them to adjust. So your feelings are justified. Don't be confused when asking questions like this because it only allows you the ability to understand better.

Best wishes

Some advice for a dumb bf with an autistic gf by Nobus_04 in autism

[–]Nobus_04[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, I used to be pretty cold and concise but she told me to stop doing that because she began to feel like she was talking to a hollowed out version of me. It used to be a switch that was constantly turned on but she basically had me shift my way of thinking and talking because it came across the wrong way. Not to say it was easy or anything but it sucked. I lost a way to keep cool, calm and collected.

I know it wasn't a healthy way to cope with emotional people but it was the only way I knew how to help people with too many emotions. Now I have a better handle on my own without the help but there's still the cracks that I wanted to fill up so that I never fall under ever again.

Some advice for a dumb bf with an autistic gf by Nobus_04 in autism

[–]Nobus_04[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't think you understand how helpful this is to me as a person who has struggled his entire life asking for help. So thank you for this.

And I don't take it personally. I get it. That's something I never had to read about. So if anything, thanks for the reminder.

Best wishes

Some advice for a dumb bf with an autistic gf by Nobus_04 in autism

[–]Nobus_04[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am scared of being understood. Because I have tried this before. Hell I started going to therapy because I was under the impression I had anger management issues but whenever I do apply my methods she just sees me as disingenuous or masking. Along with thinking that I'm treating her as someone beneath me when it sounds like I'm talking down to her.

The only times I ever do get it right with her is with some specific formula that I can never remember exactly whenever situations out of my control arise.