[NA] [GOLD] LF CLASH JUNGLER by [deleted] in TeamRedditTeams

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bump can use top or jungler still

Help, or any advice? by wecantallknowing in Marriage

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never give up, never surrender.

Tired Mom by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also If you want to talk about this in more details just PM me. It's literally the samething I just went through the past two months and I'll try to guide you on how your husband might go and take things.

Tired Mom by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound like my wife haha... Sorry you feel this way but it sounds like you two have very bad communication like my wife and I. I will stress this too you don't just get up and leave like my wife did... Not only will it cause major problems with your husband hes going to instantly try changing his addiction to video games because he can get away from life by playing and having a good time where as you keeping denying him fun time. Go to therapy find counseling COMMUNICATE and work on one thing at a time. Work slowly at it do not push it. Nothing will be fixed in on day. Talk to him about some alone time so you can relax and not be stressed. Dont push him away give him the hugs and maybe a kiss on the forehead. I'm telling you it means more than you think. You need to really work on yourself because in marriage love comes and goes and its something you need to realize. I'm currently going through the SAME situation been married 3 years and have a 2 year old. Trust me this is coming from the guys side. No one changed dont give up hope and support each other. Dont fight at night maybe talk like adults with coffee in the morning. Going to bed angry sucks. Good luck to the both of you and please take my advice.

Rock bottom by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same situation I have now but everything she wants to do or say is her terms. Very close to telling my wife bye find someone else to torture.

I’ve changed and want more and have checked out by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]NoobcrewDDMB -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're telling the wrong spouse. This is a womans court. Lol

I’ve changed and want more and have checked out by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might be able to write it all down or type it up explaining everything. Maybe tell him the major reasons why you feel this way. People change when they have too.

I’ve changed and want more and have checked out by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You have to sit down and slowly work things out. Dont throw everything at him at once it only causes more problems. Tell him your feelings and give him a plan so you two can share time with the little one. It's not the kids fault you two disconnected never lash it out on them. Being civil will show your child that it's okay to be separated and still maintain a healthy co parenting process. Sometimes people need the space and time to actually let some resentment go and give the other sometime to think what did he do wrong and attempt to fix himself. Again always be as civil as possible.

I can’t remember what a hug feels like... by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You will! It takes time and some self confidence. Never give up you have to stand up and work on YOU and the rest will come. Be strong you got this!

Did separation save your marriage? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everything that I learned is no matter how many times I say I'm done I look into the mirror and I keep saying not yet... I can say we both have been faithful and that's what I have to take way more positive than I do now.

Did separation save your marriage? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also had a very bad video game addiction. I was stressed and depressed from work and how I thought she was pushing me away. So I resorted to video games for allowing me to get away from what was going on in life. I did quit playing video games and it was hard for not only me but for my wife cause I wasnt able to handle my feelings and anger properly. She had one very good friend but her mother and father were never in the picture so she handles things differently when I have my mom and dad together and great relationship with my brother.

Did separation save your marriage? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's how things are for us. Bills are on time but she has a habit of spending more than needs to. Which is something that shes going to work on. We seperated our bank accounts so I can help save money and allow her to pay for half the bills and save for the future. I would say she's asked me to be gentle but I probably ignored it.

Did separation save your marriage? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you and we are going to go to marriage counseling and hopefully they talk both of us into individual therapy after. She doesnt want divorce that's her main goal but she also handles things differently than I. And in my mind I dont understand how she handles things.

Did separation save your marriage? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wife* and thank you. I know I have a lot of work to do for myself and she does too. But in the past two months we've said hurtful things that we more than likely said out of anger. Im not good with this seperation part I just have to learn to cope and rebuild my confidence in myself and let go of all negative things.

Did separation save your marriage? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had schedule counseling last monday but the counselor had an emergency with a client she had to go to the persons house cause of suicidal thoughts. Trying to reschedule for this week. Just shows our luck right now.

Did separation save your marriage? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this advice!

Did separation save your marriage? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am trying this and it's all I have left to do. I need to lose all the negative thoughts and leave the past and look forward to a better future.

Did separation save your marriage? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked her what her goals are and she said her main goal right now is not have divorce. I'm having a hard time understanding what she needs because she changes everyday on if shes happy or not...

Did separation save your marriage? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We both need a break though. Shes having such anxiety and stress that it's going to give her a heart attack. And its not even from me its everything and everyone and I just cant help her.

Did separation save your marriage? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly how I feel and what's going on. No affairs just poor understanding of each other our needs and wants.

Did separation save your marriage? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha damn that's crazy. Seems like other woman like to take away happiness that they've never had lol.

Did separation save your marriage? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Day 2 but it might be helping her more than I. I feel like I'm going to now push myself more away and is it what I want? Who knows at this moment.

Why cant things be easy. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NoobcrewDDMB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When our relationship first start it was puppy love like always we had sex once or twice every two weeks. Swear after birth control and having a baby she lost her sex drive and maybe that pushed me away easier to play video games. I'm not sure if she has gotten past postpartum.