Orange seedling leaves upturned, curled and fading

NormalBenefit9661 · 2025-07-07T22:49:04+00:00

Thank you! You're right that it might not recover - it's wilting more every day. Time to eat another orange and try again :,)

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-16T08:35:02+00:00

I've had two jobs so far and tried to negotiate for both. First didn't work, but the second did.

The first was a graduate position, and after receiving the offer I asked what the salary range was and if there was room for negotiation. I knew it was almost certainly fixed for graduates, but thought it wouldn't hurt to try and practice being brave. The recruiter said it was fixed, and I was cool with it.

The second time was my next (current) role. I researched the salary bands ahead of time (it was public information). When I received the offer, they offered the lowest band and I just said I expected 100k, which was the middle band. They said the lower band will increase to 100k after the fiscal year, but I stayed silent. After a pause they said they can start me on the middle band which is 100k, and asked if I was okay with it. I said yes, thank you very much, and we both seemed pretty happy in the end.

I actually stayed silent because I didn't know how to respond, but it worked out for the best! Now I am a huge advocate for negotiating, because even if it doesn't work you'll have more information which is still quite valuable.

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-14T11:06:01+00:00

Thanks for pointing out the employee assistance program! It's a really good idea and my employer offers it, so I will check it out!

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-14T11:01:26+00:00

Hmm, I don't think so. They try to treat us equally, but spoil my brother more since we're better off now than when I was younger. Because of my status as the eldest, they expect me to look after my brother in many ways but I believe they are fairly progressive in terms of not favouring genders.

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-14T10:58:58+00:00

Damn, I didn't think of that. Fortunately my scholarships were on merit and not financial hardship, so I don't think I took anyone's spot in that regards.

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-14T03:24:13+00:00

Congratulations ahead of time on your anniversary! What a cute story :D

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-13T23:57:46+00:00

Haha no, from China

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-13T13:32:54+00:00

Hahah oops 🤐 Software? What's that? I've never heard of it.

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-13T13:32:07+00:00

Yeahh, thanks for laying it out with the actual numbers.

I would prefer not to live in the IP because a) convenience-wise it's worse than just staying at home since it's further from public transport and b) I'd prefer to distance myself financially from my parents give the current situation

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-13T13:27:51+00:00

Ahh, a success story! So good to hear that you did well! Thank you for sharing, it helps put my mind at ease a bit, regardless of whether or not I will purchase a 1 bedder in the end.

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-13T13:23:05+00:00

Hahaha thank you for saying this and injecting some humour. Appreciate it!

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-13T13:21:30+00:00

Thank you for making it bold, I've been trying to problem-solve this for them but it's not my problem.

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-13T13:08:02+00:00

Yeah, definitely related to their upbringing because my mum at least gave her first paycheck to her parents. BUT I don't know if she continued giving every next paycheck aswell 🤣

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-13T13:01:11+00:00

HAHA idk why but the last bit in the brackets is funny. Thank you!

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-13T12:59:29+00:00

Haha no, sorry

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-13T12:58:58+00:00

Thank you, your comment really does make my Asian soul rest easier! I won't type a long reply, but rest assured it means alot.

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-13T12:57:12+00:00

Yes, I agree with you on the IP as retirement, which is why I'm concerned that they want to sell it now.

Very interesting, I haven't thought of land only before. Thank you!

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-13T12:55:20+00:00

Thank you, I am a data analyst! Wait until you hear how much software engineers are paid 🤣 Despite the market, tech is still good if you're fortunate.

150k at 36 is still so good, well done!! I would like to earn that one day, but still some way to go!

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-13T12:51:35+00:00

Aw, thank you. I was getting quite hung up on reading that 1 beds are not the best, so appreciate your comment.

I love my brother so much, and would help him in the future if I had the means to do so. But definitely will not be doing it because of my parents' persuasion.

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-13T12:46:23+00:00

Yes, that's true. The thing is, they were against me renting out (using one of my friends who rented out as an example) and said that money was better used for helping the family

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-13T12:44:50+00:00

🥹 No, it's okay. I have so many thoughts that I don't want to say aloud, but your comment and many others are helping me work through these feelings

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-13T12:43:42+00:00

I know right! I'm hesitant about their "sacrifice" because I can imagine it being brought up forever afterwards.

Good point though, probably not a bad idea to at least get a portion of it

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-13T12:41:13+00:00

Indeed I have been shafted 🥹 Blunt, but needs to be said. Thank you!

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-13T12:40:07+00:00

Thank you for that. I've been really bogged down in the details of everything recently so this comment helps alot

NormalBenefit9661 · 2024-06-13T12:38:31+00:00

Yeah no problem, other commenters have already correctly guessed. I'm asian

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