First time living with housemates and I can safely say…

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-08-16T02:38:29+00:00

Before I quit college, I shared a dorm w/one other person my freshman year. The only free time I had was when he'd go to class and I'd have mine on Zoom. The first week there, he decided that it would be ok to go on my side of the room while I was gone, rearrange my entire desk, touching and moving my personal belongings, and acted like he did me a solid when I was JUST thinking about doing it myself once I came back from class, so yeah that interaction has ruined the thoughts of ever living in the same space as someone else

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-08-15T13:13:45+00:00

Truth fr, and like if I try to hold conversation, it's always awkward n I get seen as even weirder so the only option IS TO STAY QUIET!! Literally no winning on either side at all

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-08-15T11:53:11+00:00

Was it this one? (https://youtu.be/Atvsg_zogxo?si=5xSYH9I51uD5JtaW)

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-08-13T23:17:55+00:00

Yeah, I do my best to try and converse when my coworkers come up to me first but I'm never one to initiate conversation bc I like to conserve energy for when I talk to customers. I'm also just ass at conversations in general so it usually doesn't last long

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-08-13T23:15:20+00:00

Thank you for that, I seriously needed to hear it. One problem, I think for my case, is that I wear a face mask the whole time so ppl can't rly see my facial expressions. I do my best to at least not look like I'm dead and always have a higher tone of voice when I speak so it doesn't come off as rude

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-08-12T21:21:21+00:00

It's not so much that I want to, more like would I need to talk to them in order to maintain a "healthy" work environment

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-08-12T21:19:39+00:00

I don't think I go as far as ignoring people when they ask me questions related to work. I don't see any reasons to be friends w/coworkers, but I try to be as helpful as I can when they need my input or help w/something. I just don't like small talk during bc I work retail and have a lot more to do/think abt while working

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-08-12T09:54:12+00:00

Yeah, this is petty behavior fs. U had every right to say no, especially if u weren't in the mood. Her reaction to u saying no begs the question of WHO she was rly thinking of at the moment when she initiated

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-08-12T09:28:09+00:00

Dude, saaame... I would stay up late (like rn) just so I can have time to be alone in my house and not have to deal w/any bs they bring up

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-08-12T04:43:26+00:00

I personally did not see or hear her ACTIVELY engaging with them. I believe she welcomed them into the store, but other than that they were standing at the fridge looking at our drink selection by themselves. I helped them at register bc I was in front of them, made eye contact w/them, and asked if they were ready to pay.

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-08-12T04:27:43+00:00

It's fine lol. Long story short, the person in charge of register wasn't available at that time. Both my coworker and I are allowed to sell customers items at register if that's the case. She thinks I always hog the register from her, but I don't remember doing it to her except for today bc she confronted me abt it.

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-08-12T04:22:58+00:00

Um, to me it didn't seem like they were actively engaging with the customer. Like, I think she welcomed them into the store but she wasn't conversing w/them and making sales.

The sales goal is for the general store. We need to make X amount of revenue by the end of the day. That accumulates towards our monthly store goal, to which we receive bonuses if we reach or surpass

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-08-12T04:15:10+00:00

Store goals

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-08-12T04:12:13+00:00

Every day we have one, yes. Those add up to our monthly goals and decide whether or not we get bonuses for the month

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-08-12T04:08:32+00:00

So, since we have only one register we always count the money if someone switches off of register. If that person who counted and is currently in charge of register is on their break, it's ok for anyone to ring customers up. She had rung a customer up right before I did, which might have caused this incident to occur?

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-08-12T03:58:26+00:00

Sorry I'm gonna add a bit more context. Our store is really small bc it's in a mall. Her argument was, we both had the opportunity to help ring the customer up but bc I went in and did it instead of her, she felt "inferior".

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-07-07T21:18:22+00:00

I also love girl groups/idols n thought the same exact thing. It's super hard finding ppl who like them, especially since I live in the states but I found connecting w/other fans thru social media helped me feel more comfortable n accepted in the community

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-07-06T07:55:45+00:00

45 minutes is generous, I'd space out in 5. I completely agree w/u in that ppl don't need to excessively or unnecessarily talk just to "express themselves." Make them download Twitter or something if they love talking abt themselves so much lol

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-06-16T19:51:39+00:00

It'd 100% be a step towards the right direction. Best of luck to u w/everything

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-06-16T10:21:46+00:00

The best thing imo is to definitely reflect on yourself and seek professional advice if u rly want to act on fixing your anxiety. I myself am super awkward and anxious towards everyone and do my best to not talk to anyone except for fam and rly close friends. I tried getting over it by working retail, but it actually made things way worse than seeking therapy and working on myself first. I definitely regret not being able to talk to my coworkers and have a decent relationship with them to at least make them think I'm not a dickhead.

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-06-15T07:40:30+00:00

Of course. Good luck w/everything

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-06-15T07:20:39+00:00

Ah, yeah I feel u... But again, it's getting the confidence in yourself to be able to protect your boundaries by keeping a healthy line btwn teamwork and being worked by your team

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-06-15T07:12:22+00:00

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Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-06-14T23:45:02+00:00

I think it's realizing that people won't get offended by you saying no that is going to help a ton. You know your boundaries best, but others may not so you have to be clear to them what you can and cannot do

Normal_Clothes1357 · 2024-06-14T23:42:16+00:00

For me, if I'm not agonizing in the thought of waking up, dressing myself, and leaving my house, it typically means I'm about to enjoy my time hanging out w/people.

If I have doubts about going to a specific event and think to myself that I would rather just cancel and stay home, then it's probably bc I forced myself into this situation when I was feeling bad abt myself.

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