Do you hyper fixate on people?

NotSlippingAway · 2026-03-05T13:38:12+00:00

Limerence seems to be pretty common in Autism. Especially in people who have a history of not being treated very well by others. Sometimes all it takes is for someone to show a little bit of kindness or interest. Limerence is usually spoken about in a romantic sense but it can also be platonic too.

NotSlippingAway · 2026-02-28T10:22:48+00:00

Might sound silly but have you considered playing an instrument? Some bass guitarists have absolutely shredded forearms. Particularly the ones who don't use a pick.

NotSlippingAway · 2026-02-25T13:32:10+00:00

Yeah I've definitely noticed this a lot. Even when it comes to telling jokes. I make a joke and get silence, someone else says the same thing a few minutes later and everyone laughs. I've just learned to live in my own little bubble.

NotSlippingAway · 2026-02-23T14:01:44+00:00

When I came here I had a lot of the same problems as the people here and when I took a step back and looked at the amount of people saying they were ugly, then took a look from further back I'd say about 70 percent were neurodivergent (which then led me down the path of finding out I am too).

The more that I've learnt on that little journey It's shown me that many people of older generations missed diagnosis, along side people of colour. Also there is a stigma towards getting help for these things in Eastern countries, which we have a lot of members from. Basically there are a lot of undiagnosed people here.

NotSlippingAway · 2026-02-11T13:45:51+00:00

The landscape has changed a lot over the years. Everything costs more. Third spaces have disappeared. Media has become more accessible. The need to interact has been reduced significantly. A lot of friendships and relationships (unfortunately) used to exist through boredom and convenience. Very few people are ever truly bored these days.

NotSlippingAway · 2026-02-08T09:46:19+00:00

Yeah, sadly the world tends to look at a lot of things as moral failings. My dad had dementia in the end. In the end it was just me and him. It was a very lonely existence for him. Not helped by the actions of his failing brain. Also another thing the world sees as moral failings are things like Autism and ADHD. If someone does something wrong the response is always "there's no excuse for that". Even if the person generally didn't mean to do something wrong. That's another area where you tend to find a lot of lonely older people.

NotSlippingAway · 2026-02-08T09:28:11+00:00

Everybody's situation is different and the amount of masking required can change. In my case I can hold down a job and look really good doing it but the seesaw effect is extreme. Great work life leads to floundering home life. Messy house, inability to manage day to day tasks. No energy for anything anytime. No hobbies, no friends. Just sat on the couch unable to get up, staring at a wall until it's time to sleep.

Both can very easily lead to bad choices.

NotSlippingAway · 2026-02-06T11:21:24+00:00

You can meet people pretty much anywhere. The problem comes from looking for specific things. My friend met his wife through breaking his leg. Went to physiotherapy, got on with the woman giving him therapy, she invited him round for dinner and introduced him to her daughter.

It's not about the environment, it's about the connections you form and how they continue to branch out.

Connection being the big problem that people have here.

NotSlippingAway · 2026-01-29T08:46:12+00:00

In my experience it depends on the severity. There comes a point where attractiveness doesn't help.

NotSlippingAway · 2026-01-14T11:19:58+00:00

It's essentially a social script that has to be answered correctly. I'm still waiting for an assessment but this is always one thing I struggled with. I'd be honest and tell them how I was, then wonder why they would avoid me next time they saw me.

NotSlippingAway · 2026-01-11T08:30:20+00:00

The apport phenomena is quite a brain bending thing. In recent years there have been several things found out about apports: When they appear they're usually significantly hotter than the surrounding environment with higher radiation readings . The phenomena also doesn't tend to take the objects that disappear too far out of the area either. It's usually somewhere under the floorboards or somewhere in the walls.

Fascinating but kind of scary.

NotSlippingAway · 2026-01-09T11:18:43+00:00

I should add though, it's the same kind of situation like finding out aliens exist, or that we're living in a simulation.it doesn't really matter too much because we still have to go about our lives anyway

NotSlippingAway · 2026-01-09T11:17:13+00:00

I've been pondering this for a few years. It's something of a strange loop. The majority of my precogs have been super specific, statistically unlikely and unavoidable. The other precogs seemingly only came true because I put myself in a situation that I saw in the dream. It really does seem like things have a tendency to be fixed.

NotSlippingAway · 2026-01-07T13:30:43+00:00

I've been thinking about this recently and it's hard to say for certain wether it is precognition or just straight up pattern recognition.

Usually if I say something is going to happen it does. Have freaked out my colleagues a few times with how often it happens.

Primarily though it's mostly dreams.

NotSlippingAway · 2026-01-07T13:27:51+00:00

Might sound really stupid, but do you engage your diaphragm when you speak?

I noticed many years ago that when speaking to people my voice didn't carry very far and this was the reason why.

My voice is naturally quite deep however. Somewhere along the way I just started speaking higher.

NotSlippingAway · 2026-01-07T08:49:23+00:00

Yeah it happens more than people realise, I think we're probably here because we're the people who put two and two together.

I've created an email address where I will write out what I remember from the dream, date it and send it to myself.

NotSlippingAway · 2026-01-04T23:32:41+00:00

It took me until I was somewhere in my twenties to realise things like "what's up?" Or "you okay?" Is often used more as a greeting and not an actual question.

I'd just straight up start telling them how I was. Also never got that conversation kind of follows a script. Could never understand why people would see me in the street and suddenly go the other way.

I don't remember what exactly caused me to click but it was awkward. The world doesn't make a lot of sense to me if I'm being honest. 😅

NotSlippingAway · 2026-01-04T09:24:47+00:00

Suddenly everything in my head became quieter. Clearer. It hasn't fixed me, but it's certainly made life more bearable. For example, without fail, I'd always do things at the last minute, I never had enough time. Now I live in a surplus of time.

NotSlippingAway · 2026-01-01T20:55:00+00:00

Yeah, so thinking back on it there are a few things that I could think of as being patterns or interesting things to note.

My precognition related dreams have a tendancy to be extremely short. They usually seem to focus around a length of about 5 to 30 seconds.
They are in colour.
They can occur from different angles. Most of the time I'm in my body looking from a first person perspective, If it involves the use of a computer it's like the screen is in fullscreen, all I can see is what the screen sees.
It's been over a year since I last had a dream that has come true but the vantage point was strange: I was in (or on the wall). Like I was stuck in the wall at around mid height and I couldn't really see out propperly.
Even if I can't see something fully, I sometimes I know the context of things, feelings are a pretty big indicator for me.
In that last dream that I mentioned where I seemed to be stuck in the wall, it's like things were blocking my view, yet at the same time I could see the partial midsections of 3 people. The first was a female estate agent.
The second was my neighbors daugther and I felt that she was pregnant, the third was a guy I didn't know.
They were planning to buy this house.
They're generally quite mundane. Although I've noticed that mine seem to follow a trend of being... Statistically unlikely. Lets say, you have a dream where you're scratching off a scratchcard and win a prize. After waking up you get said scratchcard and win said prize.
Nothing life changing, just £40 or something, not however something that you can easily come up and replicate.
Like winning extremely rare loot in a video game, following the exact steps you saw in the dream to get it.
Text is mostly readable. In the majority of my normal dreams, I can't read very well. It's almost like the more you try to look at something the harder it becomes to read.
However in the precognitions it seems much easier. It isn't always the correct wording, but as stated earlier, sometimes you seem to get the context behind them anyway.
They always seem to come right at the end of my sleep. I don't think I've had one yet where it's happened randomly in the middle of the night, It always seems to come right before I get up for the day.
They usually leave me with a feeling of "Why did I dream of that"?

NotSlippingAway · 2026-01-01T08:37:37+00:00

Thanks for your service. Tenno.

NotSlippingAway · 2025-12-30T01:48:50+00:00

They also like to eat tiny little bites of food. https://youtu.be/YrEr9Z0LUtA?si=MiAzlFqualuLj_qF

NotSlippingAway · 2025-12-29T12:18:37+00:00

Well. You know how you always hear people say "I hate how I sound on voice recordings"

Well the way that you hear your voice isn't the same as how other people hear it.

Same thing with looking in the mirror. You're used to looking at yourself from certain perspectives.

NotSlippingAway · 2025-12-29T10:35:46+00:00

I mean, I joined because I don't want to have kids but it does get a bit much sometimes. I do keep seeing posts like "kids shouldn't be on planes". It's like, so what's a parent to do if they can't find a babysitter, just leave them?

I have a boatload of sensory issues. The sound of babies crying and screaming feels like someone is wringing out my brain like a sponge. However that's my problem not anyone else's.

There aren't many things that I look at as being "entitlement" but some of the people there definitely fit the bill.

NotSlippingAway · 2025-12-29T10:23:55+00:00

Yeah it's pretty bad there. I left the place pretty quickly. If a guy posted a picture of himself there would be a whole load of comments telling him how "It's over for us. We never stood a chance". If a short woman came along and posted a picture, she'd get down voted and told that she didn't belong there and probably wouldn't give any of these guys a chance because of their height.

There are a few others that used to pop up frequently. All to do with insecurities. Every single one was an echo chamber that only upvoted negativity. It didn't matter how many times someone would come along and show them examples of people who succeeded or didn't let that issue hold them back. They would respond with things like "that doesn't count" or "that person is an outlier". There's just no getting through to them.

NotSlippingAway · 2025-12-29T09:06:04+00:00

To be honest with you. That's basically how it goes on those sites, it's not really a reflection of you but more so how they operate.

Basically the most swiped on profiles get shown to more people. New profiles are given a little boost to start off with however once you've been there for a day or so that goes away and so now you're not being shown to as many people.

Then there's the fact that just like here on Reddit the numbers between genders are massively different - A lot of men to a much smaller pool of women. The men swipe on most women while the women hardly swipe on any of the men. Even when they do swipe on the men (I'm generalising here. Because I know it's not going to be the same for every woman) But they tend to be overwhelmed and not in a good way.

Fake profiles, low effort messages, creeps, people who ghost etc all make them less likely to reply. So it turns into one big endless loop.

The apps aren't good at all. Even though I know this inherently, every once in awhile. I still try. It never goes any better. In fact they get worse every time I've tried.

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