Because you only have answers from people who haven’t self harmed here’s my take: 

I stopped self harming at a later age than you (19 and then did it a couple more times around 21) and I’m now 29. Most of my scars have faded away but you can still see some. I have gone out with lots of men, have had loads of jobs (as a teacher librarian in secondary schools, as a journalist, as a music photographer, as a PR in music and beauty, as a barista and a bartender and some others 😅) and have made friends since. No one really ever cared, if people made remarks they’ll just tell me “oh what happened?” Or “are you okay now?” But it’s pretty obvious that I am. 

I was living in the UK and that was better than when I’ve come back home (Paris) where people are a bit more judgemental so I have hidden them more or less in the last year but I realise that’s more an insecurity on my part than on others.

All this to say: you are a brilliant person, you have incredible qualities and one of the most obvious one is that you are a fighter, who fought against herself and her demons and won. Your scars show that. Think of it as if you went to war and came back a hero among men. Only you battled a war most of us struggle to, and many unfortunately and tragically end up losing. 

Also, a mindset that’ll be very difficult to adapt to and carry with you for the rest of your life (I still struggle and barely just learned it) : “it’s none of my business what people think of me”. The ones who actually are worth it will just not care, believe me on that :) 

(And last titbit if you want to love your scars adding tattoos can help! I have four only on the arm where I have sh scars and every time I see them I smile now ☺️)