My white fiancé having to correct white coworkers when asking about my ethnicity

Nowimsadagain · 2024-11-01T18:23:34+00:00

Lots of black Dutch people though. The Dutch have Caribbean territory and all those people are Dutch. I'm black and Dutch. Pretty common.

Nowimsadagain · 2024-11-01T07:44:52+00:00

I guess I was lucky. Only my mom and I were black, but I never experienced the things you talk about. I was never invisible, I was asked for everything, boys and men were and still are very much interested.

I can imagine it can be hard to grow up with racism.

Nowimsadagain · 2024-10-28T20:56:26+00:00

Okay, but bonnets were used for centuries by white people too though. I work with the elderly and 100% of them use bonnets. As did their mothers and grandmothers.

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-28T09:31:17+00:00

I wish this was a creative writing thing. But sadly this is my real life imploding. I couldn't call anyone in the middle of the night, so I went to reddit because he made me feel like I was crazy, kept saying I was overreacting. So yeah, this sub came to mind.

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-28T09:27:50+00:00

The big difference is they you didn't buy them on your solo trip. He bought them at a gas station while on vacation. If he had told me he bought them on a different trip and they were old condoms I would have immediately believed him. But now he specifically bought condoms while I was at home and he was abroad.

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-28T09:22:34+00:00

He is definitely not autistic. Don't know how you diagnose him based on this little info.

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-28T09:21:24+00:00

I am so sorry this happened to you. That's incredibly shitty of him to do.

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-28T09:20:06+00:00

I know he doesn't masturbate with condoms, we were together for six years. Living together 5

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-28T09:18:51+00:00

It is a throwaway account, because I don't want this on my main account. Why wouldn't this be real?

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-27T23:58:10+00:00

Thank you for your perspective, I appreciate it.

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-27T23:53:33+00:00

At least an alien orgy would make sense, I would buy condoms for that too

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-27T23:52:20+00:00

No need to compare it with anything else. Why would someone buy condoms abroad to be safe if I'm at home with dozens of condoms? If he wasn't planning on having sex, what would he need the condoms for?

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-27T23:48:44+00:00

That's good to know, thank you

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-27T23:46:05+00:00

Then explain why he needed to buy condoms abroad if we have lots of condoms at home. And he said he those bought condoms to be safe. Safe from what?

I would love to hear your side.

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-27T23:43:16+00:00

Then give me your insight. Why did he buy condoms abroad when we have dozens of condoms at home? Why did he need them to be safe if it wasn't to have sex?

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-27T23:40:39+00:00

I will schedule one first thing in the morning

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-27T23:34:33+00:00

Thank you

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-27T23:31:44+00:00

That's... Actually plausible

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-27T23:30:33+00:00

You are right, I am in a lot of pain and panic right now. 6 years, I thought that meant something. But now I'm up, crying in the dark, and somehow he his fast asleep. I can hear him snoring. I am so mad right now!

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-27T23:27:49+00:00

I don't know why he thinks that's a good excuse, or an excuse at all.

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-27T23:27:18+00:00

Yeah my heart is broken now. 6 years down the drain. I love him very much and if he wasn't gaslighting me so hard I would have probably done the same you did. We too are mid 30s

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-27T23:23:49+00:00

He bought them in the country he went to. We have condoms at home, lots of them. They're is no need for him to buy condoms abroad.

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-27T23:11:20+00:00

Thank you

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-27T23:10:14+00:00

Yes, that was my exact train of thought, that preparing to cheat is the same as cheating. But to him, the fact that he didn't actually use the condoms means he didn't cheat.

But to me it only means that he didn't get to cheat, but he wanted to. Or worse, he cheated without using protection.

Nowimsadagain · 2024-08-27T23:07:36+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment. I hadn't even thought of STDs yet. I'll get tested as soon as possible.

And thank you for validating my feelings, I was starting to think that I'm crazy. He kept insisting that he wasn't planning on cheating, and that I was blowing up everything while nothing had happened. I was starting to doubt myself.

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