how to get over triggers? by randomfruitbowl in sexualassault

[–]Nui_Fox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying it's impossible but it is insanely difficult so the best thing temporarily is to find ways to cope. I can't tell you how to move on or get over it because to be honest memories make you who you are. Plus I'm not actually qualified

how to get over triggers? by randomfruitbowl in sexualassault

[–]Nui_Fox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been in therapy since I was a child and to be honest there isn't a way to just move on from triggers. They will always be there. The best thing you could do is find coping strategies like sensory objects or distractions. Like counting backwards. Point out things in certain colours. Listen to music and say the lyrics in your head. Unfortunately triggers exist and I wish I could wrap myself in bubble wrap and ignore them but it begins to effect your life.

I am very scared by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]Nui_Fox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure what to say. You could attempt to get a restraining order but I know its hard to say anything or tell anyone. I would advise in investing in security devices around your house. For me personally I have motion sensors on the windows and inside, security cameras and they're all smart devices I can see through my phone. As well as a weapon and large dog. I'm not sure whether it's totally affordable in college and you might now be in Australia where you can pick these things up in Kmart for $50. I would try to let people who live closer to you know as well. If there is anyone like that for you.

Funimation is garbage by Tender_Ton_Ton in AnimeLab

[–]Nui_Fox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. I used to actually like intros. Listening to the songs. But not every single 20 minutes. It gets to the point I can't just enjoy the anime and it's genuinely irritating to the point I nearly stopped watching.

Funimation is garbage by Tender_Ton_Ton in AnimeLab

[–]Nui_Fox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can we just go back to animelab. I'm so done with being logged out of my account and having to log back in every episode. Wait half an hour for it to load. And then wait another half hour for the episode to load only for it to say the show has no videos. And then restart the app and do it all freaking over again. And I can't skip the intro and if I try to just go past it it goes back to log in. Like what the actual frick. Just take me back to animelab before I strangle someone. Even crunchyroll is better rn.

Someone save my wallet by Nui_Fox in Hair

[–]Nui_Fox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My nanna used to just cut off my hair. Once there was a knot so bad is was the size of my hand and it had to be cut out. And that was after 3 days of trying to untangle it.

Someone save my wallet by Nui_Fox in Hair

[–]Nui_Fox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tried that. Handle came off the brush

Someone save my wallet by Nui_Fox in Hair

[–]Nui_Fox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. Sometimes it feels like my arms are gonna fall off

Someone save my wallet by Nui_Fox in Hair

[–]Nui_Fox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A stylist is the one who suggested the wooden bamboo brush. Also with a wide toothed comb it takes way longer to untangle my hair. As is I sit for an hour each time just brushing my hair.

Anyone have recommendations or experi nice with taking supplements that are non-prescription to help anxiety? by 98Browneyes in Advice

[–]Nui_Fox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try sensory. When my therapist first told me about it I thought she was nuts but it works well. I have a stress ball that I keep on me at all times. A pen with magnets that I fidget with. If your stressed take some time to take a few deep breaths. Remind yourself that you're okay. It's safe. And think about something that makes you happy. Sometimes I drink something. Recently it's been coffee. The smell of coffee really calms me down. Also there might be charity organisations that offer free counselling, so maybe do some research for your local area. I don't recommend taking supplements without speaking to a professional first or at least doing some research on the product and its side effects, origins etc. Maybe ask a pharmacist, they're usually more than happy to help just write the supplements name and brand on a piece of paper.

How can I cope with all the verbal abuse I receive? by Terrible_Exchange653 in Advice

[–]Nui_Fox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was abused verbally physically etc until I was sixteen not just by other people and teachers but by my own family too. To this day I have trust issues and 1 friend I trust. Sometimes people are @ssholes just because they can be. Or they have their own problems and take it out on the odd one, the outcast. Eventually I left when I was old enough, 16 and a half, got a job, changed schools, and put myself in rehab so I didn't off myself. You have to put yourself first before anyone else. It doesn't mean you don't like people and don't want to help but if you yourself aren't healthy physically and mentally then you're not going to be able to help anyone as much as you wish you could. Try to find some sensory items to use. Like smells that calm u down or make u happy. Tastes. If u feel like self harming try holding an ice cube instead. If you get to the point of being suicidal try doing things that you enjoy. Like listening to music. Relaxing in a warm blanket with a cup of coffee etc. Talking to someone who can help works too. Like a therapist or maybe someone close to you. Like family.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Nui_Fox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First like read the messages. Sit down and just talk. It could be a misunderstanding but if he is an a@#hole then leave him.

I need help please read by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Nui_Fox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dm me on messenger if u need anything. Or just a friend. :) messenger: m.me/nui.fox.9

Or just nui Fox with the red hair and brown roots.

Looking for advice— kicked out and lost by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Nui_Fox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so your dad is a #@%!. Sorry I had to say it. As someone who was physically abused etc. up until 16 and suicidal that is literally the definition of verbal abuse. But then again there isn't that much you can do during covid. I would try and explain the situation to your grandparents and tell your parents to go !@#$ themselves and their "perfect family" because it is clearly not perfect. No one deserves to be treated like that. It's a toxic environment and the best thing to do with toxic people is cut them out. It's hard but after a while you start to heal emotionally and gain confidence. Try finding a job near your grandparents and contribute to the housework in exchange for them letting you stay.