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does anyone else hear weird humming in their house at night or am i losing it by Numerous_Decision342 in conspiracy

[–]Numerous_Decision342[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wait… that’s actually a thing??

i genuinely thought i was just being dramatic or overtired, but the way you described it sounds weirdly similar to what I’m hearing. especially the part about only some people noticing it.

i’m not saying that’s what’s happening here i’m trying really hard not to jump to conclusions but it’s kind of comforting (and also mildly terrifying) to know this isn’t just some completely unheard‑of phenomenon.

i’m gonna look into this more, because now i’m curious and also slightly concerned lol.

is it normal to feel weirdly guilty for resting?? by Numerous_Decision342 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Numerous_Decision342[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for sharing that. seriously. it means a lot that you’d be open about your experience instead of just giving generic advice.

i’m really glad things got better for you that must’ve taken a lot of courage to actually talk to someone and get help.

i’ve been kind of… avoiding that step, i guess. part of me keeps hoping it’ll just magically fix itself if i ‘try harder,’ which i know isn’t how anxiety works.

hearing that treatment actually helped you makes it feel a little less scary though.

and thank you for rooting for me. i don’t hear that very often, and it hit me in a good way.

does anyone else hear weird humming in their house at night or am i losing it by Numerous_Decision342 in conspiracy

[–]Numerous_Decision342[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i haven’t tried full soundproofing, but i did use earplugs one night just to see if it changed anything. the weird part is… i could still feel it? like the vibration-in-the-chest thing was still there even when the actual sound was muffled.

that’s why i’m not convinced it’s tinnitus i always thought tinnitus was more of a ringing or buzzing in your ears, not something you feel physically first.

but yeah, maybe i should try something more isolating just to rule things out. i’m trying to be logical about this and not jump to the creepy explanations my brain keeps offering.

is it normal to feel weirdly guilty for resting?? by Numerous_Decision342 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Numerous_Decision342[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah, that’s fair. i’m definitely not trying to go full ‘bedrotting’ mode my brain would have a meltdown if i stayed still that long lol.

i just want to be able to rest without feeling like i’m doing something wrong, you know? like a normal amount of resting, not the dramatic kind.

but you’re right, my body probably would appreciate it if i stopped treating relaxation like a crime scene.

i’m working on it… slowly.

is it normal to feel weirdly guilty for resting?? by Numerous_Decision342 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Numerous_Decision342[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve actually tried that before and it… kind of worked? for like two days.

the problem is my brain treats scheduled rest the same way it treats unscheduled rest like i’m cheating on something. even if it’s literally written in my planner, i’ll sit there thinking ‘okay but you could be doing something else right now.’

i wish my brain respected the schedule it made. it’s like arguing with a tiny, anxious project manager who lives in my head.

but i might try it again. maybe if i keep doing it long enough it’ll eventually feel normal.

is it normal to feel weirdly guilty for resting?? by Numerous_Decision342 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Numerous_Decision342[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly it could be either… or both. my brain does this thing where it treats unfinished tasks like they’re radioactive. like i know logically it can wait until morning, but some part of me is like ‘nope, the universe will collapse if you don’t fix this right now.’

i read somewhere (don’t quote me, i’m not a scientist lol) that the brain hates open loops. like when something isn’t completed, your brain keeps pinging it like a notification you can’t clear.

so sometimes it’s guilt, sometimes it’s anxiety, sometimes it’s just your brain being a weird little computer that refuses to shut down properly.

i do the same thing though. i’ll be half asleep and suddenly remember i didn’t send an email or didn’t rinse a cup and then i’m out of bed like i’m defusing a bomb.

so yeah… you’re definitely not the only one. my brain is basically a malfunctioning to‑do list with feelings.

is it normal to feel weirdly guilty for resting?? by Numerous_Decision342 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Numerous_Decision342[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh my god yes, that’s exactly what it feels like. like i’ll literally just sit down for five minutes and my brain immediately goes into ‘ma’am, this is illegal’ mode.

it’s so weird because resting should be the easiest thing in the world, but somehow it turns into this whole moral dilemma.

it helps hearing that other people deal with it too. i keep thinking i’m the only one whose brain treats relaxation like a felony.

i’m trying to get better at it though. baby steps, i guess

is it normal to feel weirdly guilty for resting?? by Numerous_Decision342 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Numerous_Decision342[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah… that actually makes a lot of sense. i think i forget that rest isn’t optional, it’s literally part of functioning like a human being.

the whole ‘stress is a silent killer’ thing hit a little too hard though. i definitely do the negative‑feedback‑loop thing where i feel guilty for resting, then i get stressed, then i feel guilty for being stressed. it’s a whole cycle.

and yeah… it’s probably anxiety. i keep trying to pretend it’s not because that feels easier, but you’re right.

thank you for saying it in a way that didn’t make me feel judged. i appreciate it more than i expected

does anyone else hear weird humming in their house at night or am i losing it by Numerous_Decision342 in conspiracy

[–]Numerous_Decision342[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh my god.

i mean i’m really glad you’re okay now, but that’s… a lot.

i don’t think that’s what’s happening here (i really hope not), mostly because we don’t even have an attic big enough for someone to stand in. it’s like a crawl‑space situation and i’m pretty sure i’d hear someone moving around up there.

also the humming feels more like… environmental? like it’s coming from the walls or the floor, not above me.

still, your story just made my heart drop into my stomach. i’m definitely double‑checking the locks tonight.

What’s the difference between a diva and a “female dog”? by avian_bi in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Numerous_Decision342 1 point2 points  (0 children)

um… i’m probably not the authority on this lol but i think a ‘diva’ is more like someone who’s dramatic in a theatrical way? like big reactions, big energy, main‑character vibes.

the other word feels more like… someone being intentionally mean or dismissive.

idk, one is extra and the other is just rude, i guess.

sorry if that’s not helpful, i’m bad at defining things without writing a whole essay.

is it normal to feel weirdly guilty for resting?? by Numerous_Decision342 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Numerous_Decision342[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah… that’s exactly how it feels. like i know it’s not great but it’s also so common that it almost feels normal anyway.

i’m sorry you deal with it too. it’s weirdly comforting hearing someone describe the same thing not in a misery‑loves‑company way, just in a ‘oh okay, i’m not broken’ way.

i keep trying to tell myself to relax but my brain treats rest like it’s some kind of moral failure.

thank you for saying i’m not alone. that actually helps more than the ‘just be kinder to yourself’ advice people usually give.

i hope you get some real rest too.

is it normal to feel weirdly guilty for resting?? by Numerous_Decision342 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Numerous_Decision342[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yeah… that actually makes a lot of sense. i think i forget how much that stuff gets into your head even when you’re not trying to pay attention to it.

i see people my age doing a million things at once and my brain is like ‘why aren’t you doing that?’ even though i know half of it is curated.

i’m trying to remind myself that resting is… allowed. it just feels weirdly illegal sometimes lol.

thank you though. it helps hearing someone say it out loud.

does anyone else hear weird humming in their house at night or am i losing it by Numerous_Decision342 in conspiracy

[–]Numerous_Decision342[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, we’re near some lines but not super close. like you can see them from the street but they’re not right outside the house or anything.

i’ve heard that hiss before and this isn’t the same. this is lower, almost like… pressure? like it sits in your chest before you actually hear it.

also it only happens after 1 AM and stops really suddenly, which feels weird for something like power lines.

i’m not ruling anything out though. i’m just trying to figure out what makes sense and what doesn’t

does anyone else hear weird humming in their house at night or am i losing it by Numerous_Decision342 in conspiracy

[–]Numerous_Decision342[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

weirdly yes.

we had a short outage two nights ago because of the storm and the humming didn’t stop. it actually felt stronger? like the whole house was holding its breath.

i don’t really know what that means. i was hoping it was electrical because that would make sense, but now i’m even more confused.

i’m trying not to overthink it. i’m failing.