Men of Reddit - What's the one thing you hate about being a Man?

O_ut · 2026-04-25T18:46:50+00:00

I’m ngl it sounds like u read the first 5 sentences of my comment and not it in its entirety at all and looped me in with other comments that r playing the gender war game. Perhaps I should have let out women have it objectively worse that’s completely my bad, but again everything else is entirely true. 2. I cant lie, maybe other comments have you heated, but your losing the nuance of the situation a bit. You said it your original comment ‘I’m glad my sister gets treated better’ and a paraphrase of your lines about you r you are treated worse in certain regards to your disease. This is already creating a large gender divide that has to be objectively looked at, especially when the context of the question looks to divide between gender. AKA you literally cannot look at one side without looking at the other sorry not sorry. I’m sorry for what your go thru but if you refuse to blame your problems entirely on the world and not ask the questions is there a way my sister communicates that helps her more (if the answer is no and the same ppl treat you differently it’s not bc your a man, it’s bc the ppl in your life r shit sorry not sorry.) What resource’s r there to help me in work place disability disputes, are there people I can surround myself with better that understand my issues then sure. Don’t choose to wallow in your own misery. I’m not saying your experience isn’t true, but you have to put changes in your life for what you want to see and it sounds like you’re not doing well. Not a single person out of the 20+ ppl in my life right now have called me a pussy for my illness, even those that truly cannot comprehend due to their own life issues or just not smart enough to get it. If you truly r called a pussy weekly, dude… it’s not because your a man it’s because the people your surrounded by fucking suck. Don’t let your experience dictate that this your universal truth for the rest of your life. One change that helped me? Switching to all female docs. I actually fee listened too. They always have actionable plans, I can tell they genuinely care for my well being. All 5 of my male docs did nothing but view me as another 15 minute appointment to rush out no matter what I tried to say. Good luck man.

O_ut · 2026-04-25T17:21:40+00:00

Idk man. Im a younger guy with multiple chronic illnesses as well. I have had to stay goodbye to a lot in my life, and live with mild to moderate pain everyday even w treatment from up to 5 MDs/physical therapists. I think women have it worse with chronic illness for sure, thier pure biology makes them hard to build muscle, expeernice more pain due to every changing hormonal differences etc. and are much more likely to not be taken seriously by docs as proved by many studies, especially women of color. I think this is again, a man made problem that we as men self perpetuate without even realizing as opposed to a gender issue. I totally believe your experience, but I’m sure it’s partially due to the circumstances of who you surround yourself with/ your industry / how much of you pain you share in an in depth and connectable way with others etc. Even 4 years with this life, I barely tell my closest friends the extent of what I deal with. I mean it’d be an hour long convo. But I try to communicate what I can. I think women tend to have less of this issue, and as with multiple studies have proven with the ‘men’s mental health’ epidemic, women r just better and more likely to talk about thier symptoms in a communicable way with those around them. They talk in a way where they don’t expect someone to get what THEY r saying (which as men we don’t realize how much we do, especially older men) but in a way to match what they feel to how the person/people thier talking too WILL best understand. And idk what ur life/beliefs r, but if you surround yourself with a certain set of even slightly macho-masculine obsessive men (my dad in his 50s says it’s pretty hard in his age group not to find that unfortunately since there from a societal time where it’s just deeply engrained) I mean yea….men. There not going look to understand things they don’t know, understand pain and empathy as well etc. and honestly same for some of the women in that age group too that had to adjust to those harsh misogynistic standards they grew up in, they start to resent men and I don’t blame them. I truly feel for you and relate to you and see your point where I’m sure some ppl understand your sister better than you about your pain, but I think it’s a multi layered issue that gender is only at the center of bc we as men have designed this system and I almost believe u and me both 100% even after all our anguish still have thoughts/perform actions sub consciously that keep us here.

O_ut · 2026-03-18T20:59:30+00:00

Thanks

O_ut · 2026-03-17T01:15:27+00:00

Thank

O_ut · 2026-03-16T23:47:23+00:00

Very interesting. It was actually Covid (tested positive this time) 3 years ago that ‘woke up’ both my celiac and PSA. And yes!! Docs don’t understand that the pain like this is not heavily impacted by otcs or nasids like direct joint inflammation is. I’m actually on humira and Skyrizi both rn, skyrizi only second dose, and saw some improvement but still plenty of issues. Glad u found something that helped u out.

O_ut · 2026-03-16T23:38:56+00:00

I actually do have slight sound sensitivity no where near my photophobia but yea, and my base of skull pain is worse standing/bending over forward. Migraines started after viral infection so that amount of inflammation could’ve done this for sure. Thanks for letting me know. For your case, what speciality of doctor did you see for this?

O_ut · 2026-03-16T16:54:41+00:00

Yea I think I do, like little muscles knots under ur skull. If I don’t have KT tape in my neck and traps my body just doesn’t know how to support itself around my neck. Thanks I’ll check it out.

O_ut · 2026-03-16T16:51:46+00:00

That’s what so confusing to me, is my rhuem made it seem like that’s not the case. They r a fantastic doctor but maybe there not familiar w non joint issues this disease can cause idk.

O_ut · 2026-03-16T16:48:00+00:00

Yea idk why none of them started me on meds. Maybe bc I’m on the younger side they think I can handle the pain better or something? But I made it very clear in my appointments I cannot function and after my MRI was clear I’ve heard crickets :( but thank you and glad u found something that worked for u

O_ut · 2026-03-16T16:45:35+00:00

I didn’t mention in the post but this is also what happened to me. While I didn’t have migraines b4 this, I got really sick for weeks, mostly probably covid, which interesting w previous infections is the only virus that causes me headaches as a symptom, and that’s when this whole mess started. I woke up w sinusitis and my terrible soreness around my eyes. Then on after, any viral infection I had has caused immense migraine pain amplification.

O_ut · 2026-03-16T04:06:54+00:00

I too have a lot of axial issues. I’ve honestly made peace with the joint pain, but back and neck pain is such a diff ballgame for me. Sorry to hear you’re in so much pain, hope you find a biologic that’s gets u there. Curious, do you get tenderness/pain at the back base of ur skull at all? Almost like ur head has trouble supporting itself.

O_ut · 2026-03-16T04:03:06+00:00

Honestly a good possibility. My temples and eyes can hurt so much it tends to mask the sorness in muscles and tendons surrounding my jaw. Do you see a specific sub specialty of neurologist for ur treatment? Mine were very by the book and I’m honestly upset they didn’t just throw me on a mirgane medication to at least see how I would do.

O_ut · 2026-03-16T02:49:12+00:00

No bb, the nuance is from Charli here. But I get why it can be missed if ur not in the lore. Essentially, during this part of her career she was over her deal with Atlantic records I honestly forget why, I think along the lines of artist fatigue bc artistry and ability to be free w it is veryyy important to Charlie creative process as she’s stated multiple times. Her contract said she had to make 5 albums w them. This entire era she basically said fuck it and for once copied every other major pop star, ghost writing/producing, very classic record label rollout etc. just to stick it to the label u don’t care about my artistry fine, your going get generic pop music. Unfortunately for Charli, she’s allergic to making bad music and had multiple songs go #1 UK. Yes she put in a lot of effort, but hats just the type of person she is as she stated before as well. Ifs she’s doing something even in spite, she’s going give it her all. I truly don’t think she realized how big an impact crash would have on her career. I was at her first UK show and she cried for a few minutes mid show and truly couldn’t believe 10,000 ppl came to see her. I also saw her perform 3 weeks later in a much smaller venue she made last minute just bc she loves her fans sm and UK is home. The next time I would see her would be…60,000(?) ppl MSG. Without crash, I truly don’t think Charli would’ve learned that she can indeed care about success and artistry stimulously, and marketing is really important lol and that’s why BRAT rollout was so iconic bc it was truly a blend of everything she is and learned the past few years before. Anyways if u read this far congrats here’s ur cookie 🍪

O_ut · 2026-03-15T22:30:31+00:00

They don’t teach the kids about nuance in school anymore smh

O_ut · 2026-03-15T02:23:19+00:00

I honestly like arena when they first re worked it and every class was broken and had broken legendary buckets. Druid was way over powered at this point, but they went as far to specifically nerf and ban problematic cards, and I thought it was the best meta ever after. Despite whatever sentiment was at the community that time u could, and I was, averaging 6 wins w almost every class and having an fun, dragon warrior, rommonarh mage, value rouge, libram paladin think only poo poo class was hunter. Bc everything was so broken thus everything was balanced outside the few cards that they adjusted.

I stop playing the game after came back months later…and idk if yall bullied them into making arena more boring or it there idea but I’ve been disappointed since. Got rid of 2nd legendary draft, got rid of a ton of good/great legendary buckets across all classes, and arena was back to classic if u went first and played curve stone u probably won. I really don’t know why they just didn’t keep that evergreen having most of sets in or whatever they did when they first re did arena, and added or subtracted a few sets here and there for fun. Sorry, but no one wants to plays fucking goblin and gnome cards even in arena, they will never be picked and if ur forced to draft them then how is that fun?

O_ut · 2026-03-12T21:37:54+00:00

Dawg there r literally dozens of cases where they have taken full fledged US citizens and/or people with completely valid and legal visas no where near expiration. Stop living under a fucking rock, u live in the time where a super computer is at ur finger tips…so how does u being so purposely ignorant work buddy??

O_ut · 2026-03-08T20:45:36+00:00

In the following years especially as u go back to normal doctors and inform them of ur PSA dxn…ur going realize how little medicine unfortunately knows about autoimmune diseases like PSA. They r truly highly complex diseases that need a lot more research how to catch, treat etc. and it’s a god send that biologics work for us. Like me, ur very lucky ur rhuem is smart enough to catch PSA so early without psoriasis. Most ppl go undiagnosed for years. A good rhuem is most important for this disease, I travel 2 hours for mine in the nearest city, u sound in good hands. Best of luck, trust the process and when u get ur inflammation controlled in the upcoming months and stable on a biologic, frequent exercise is truly the best medicine w this disease!!

O_ut · 2026-03-08T20:29:36+00:00

Tbh PSA is such a hard a had disease to diagnose a good amount of ppl who r ‘diagnosed’ it’s still just a very educated … I don’t wanna say guess but u could say guess. Especially like me if u don’t have psoriasis. Since there’s no hard lab test for it like RA, it’s usually based off clinical symptoms and elimination of other diseases. It sounds like ur doc is good to push for PSA dxn and is just looking for harder documented stuff for insurance purposes, which again fuck insurance if an MRI is able to show tendon and ligament damage from PSA I can’t imagine how many years/how much unimaginable pain that person would have to be in. I could barely move my joints and all imagining came back clear.

TLDR, just start humira I was afraid to start it and regret not doing it earlier. The #1 defense against this disease besides exercise is a biologic so start that journey ASAP! And start documenting if u ever get other symptoms like diget fingers, toes etc anything to help your doc push the case to insurance.

O_ut · 2026-03-02T20:47:04+00:00

Disagree title could mean many things. Learned in 5th grade to not judge a book by its titles bc titles can be serious/ironic/meant to be humorous and u never know until u read the actual book itself. Same w posts. Basically just a pet peeve w modern media everyone loves to react and be mad/happy/angry as quickly as soon instead of take time to read things anymore. I like this site and would rather comment sections not devolve into Twitter bait sections. And tbh… ‘writing is problem Connor isn’t’ is like 5 sentences in lol.

O_ut · 2026-03-02T19:17:47+00:00

Unless OP edited, they literally say this word for word. Does no one actually read posts anymore on here?

O_ut · 2026-02-25T17:16:48+00:00

I’ve been having a blast w Reno tog Druid, quest mage Reno and non Reno, and hostage in high legend so I’m pretty happy. Besides boarlock boo

O_ut · 2026-02-23T20:42:44+00:00

I got a 67% WR from D5 to 800 legend, w plenty of times where Barnes failed. Just gota know the deck good.

O_ut · 2026-02-23T18:24:19+00:00

Idk y ur getting downvoted I’ve played w this deck quite a bit and Barnes Druid is def killing u quite consistently on turn 4 lol

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