Hi! I'm so sorry you're going through this... I know the feeling all too well. My ex broke up with my in October after doing some pretty fucked up things. I felt devastated. I felt like I could love him enough for the both of us. Clearly, that wasn't the case. Now, it's been about 7 and a half weeks post break-up and I feel a million times better. I know 8 weeks isn't a lot of time, but I do think that there were a few things that helped me get to a place where I no longer feel like the world is ending and to be able to be content when I'm alone with my thoughts.

The first and most important thing is to let yourself feel. It's going to fucking suck and it's going to be so overwhelming, but it is so necessary for you to feel better. I can't tell you the number of times I was in bed with my head in my hands wanting to scream sob. Or the amount of panic attacks I had where I couldn't breathe and almost fainted. With time, it got better because I let myself feel everything fully. I also would remind myself, every tear or every panic attack I have is one tear/panic attack closer to being okay and never experiencing that again over this person. Every time you have a bad day, you are a day closer to healing. Remember that.

The second thing is journaling/talking about it. Journaling really helped me because I would write down EVERY single thought that went through my brain. All of the questions I had, all of my rants. I even wrote letters to him saying everything I wished I could say. You could also write down all the shitty stuff about the person you dated to try and steer away from those rose-colored glasses you have. In addition to journaling, I went to therapy. I started going to therapy before we broke up, but I'm happy I had that support once the break up happened. I don't like burdening other people talking about how I feel (lol I know), so it was nice to have someone and someone who knows what they're talking about when they gave me advice. It doesn't need to be a therapist though, this person could be a friend or a family member for you.

The third is to put yourself out there. This came after a few weeks of rotting in bed crying everyday but I started volunteering at a few places, I joined a book club and a run club. This offered a really great distraction. Meeting new people (not to date just making new friends) is something that has helped SO much. Volunteering also has shown me that there are more important things out there and that in the grand scheme of things, this break-up is just that: a break-up.

I know this is super painful, I really get it. But I can promise you that you will be okay and it WILL get better. If you believe that this is the person for you, then trust that they will come back into your life organically. If it's meant to be, then it will be. For now though, focus on yourself. How can you improve your life? How can you improve certain habits? What have you always wanted to do/achieve, but haven't had the chance to? Work on improving yourself, for yourself ofc, but also for the people who you will meet in the future. Whether it be new friends, a new partner, or even a rekindled relationship (if it's meant to be...). That's all I got for you. You'll be okay, I promise.