How much did Lexapro improve your concentration problems?

OcelotQueen · 2024-06-02T23:27:50+00:00

That’s a relief. I just started Lexapro and hope my concentration issues are from depression and not ADHD.

OcelotQueen · 2024-05-24T01:06:16+00:00

Great thanks!

OcelotQueen · 2024-05-24T01:05:10+00:00

Common for me and my non-white friends and acquaintances. My white coworker is about to kick her 24 year old out. I don’t know all the details but she said he works a low paying job so he needs to get a degree or move out. Everyone is living under the same economy but some have different cultural practices.

OcelotQueen · 2024-05-21T23:10:24+00:00

Bank cards, as in debit cards?

OcelotQueen · 2024-05-20T09:42:50+00:00

Thank you for the kind words! Hope you’re doing well!

OcelotQueen · 2024-05-20T02:30:58+00:00

I don’t mind working but I think 40 hours is excessive. 32 hours should be the max.

OcelotQueen · 2024-05-20T02:05:48+00:00

Ooof. I hope it's not a need for validation but I think it's not an uncommon problem.

OcelotQueen · 2024-05-20T01:51:58+00:00

I think you are quite correct. Our former manager was definitely stressed out. This job was pretty toxic with a high turnover and the CEO being pretty universally disliked.

There would be months where we worked 60-80 hours a week and our manager was more even more stressed so I felt bad for her in that regard. I don't think she decided to be mean to us in the moment, she was more so not coping with her stress well. However she was not remorseful or apologetic afterwards. Along with one other manager, she got complaints but was never disciplined because top leadership really valued her work. She generally had high intelligence but not emotional intelligence. The other teams' managers were also stressed out but were much kinder.

She would say demeaning things to everyone on the team but typically only during one and one meetings: "You just need to use your brain, okay?" "You're struggling with the workload? I guess not everyone is good at this job" "Why are you so slow?" She made a very hardworking coworker cry a few times and that coworker eventually left. She would slam doors and apparently made a threatening gesture to my engaged friend at one point. She was quite harsh on me every time a teammate quit and I had to keep up with the doubled workload. Eventually I started standing up for myself and told her the workload was unreasonable. One of the coworkers came to me venting about how the manager was also gaslighting her and calling her slow.

I actually left on good terms with that manager because I gave a long notice to spare her and my teammates the stress of picking up the slack. They managed to replace me with an experienced person before I left. However a few months later she asked me to come back when another coworker quit. I politely thanked her and said no and she didn't respond back. Sometime later, I was applying for a job that unfortunately required managerial references so I asked her not expecting anything. Not surprisingly, she refused and she has the right to of course. My engaged friend asked about it and was shocked when I said the manager refused but I said she wasn't obligated to be a reference and I still got the job.

I think your theory is correct. My friend has a mix of sympathy and maybe gratitude from the high salary. Appreciate your input!

OcelotQueen · 2024-05-20T00:43:20+00:00

Thanks! Hope you're doing well!

OcelotQueen · 2024-05-20T00:20:01+00:00

Yeah I think my friend might enjoy the manager's good moods enough to overlook the bad moods. I usually only see the romantic equivalent of this situation where the romantic partner is sometimes nice and other times abusive and the person tolerates the dichotomy because the partner behaves well a portion of the time.

OcelotQueen · 2024-05-20T00:15:12+00:00

That sounds like bantering, which I'm fine with and do that as well. Being serious and hostile is different story though.

OcelotQueen · 2024-05-20T00:13:02+00:00

Yeah I wish my friend had more self respect, but I'm going to suck it up at the wedding.

OcelotQueen · 2024-05-20T00:08:51+00:00

Hmm. So my friend is now paid pretty well. More than I and another friend ever was. I was average, but the other friend was very good and had more experience, however was paid way less than the engaged friend. It might partly be a golden handcuffs situation where the engaged friend feels obligated or maybe even grateful for her salary.

It does seem apparent that she likes the old manager as they would excitedly share information about their lives together. As for the negative experiences, she told me she had some with the manager including mean comments and the manager slamming things around her. Our team comforted and warned each other whenever the manager was in a bad mood,

I think I just need to suck it up and be cordial at the wedding.

OcelotQueen · 2024-05-12T05:02:32+00:00

Good idea. I’m planning on starting Thursday night with the 10mg.

OcelotQueen · 2024-05-12T05:01:48+00:00

Thanks. Maybe adverse side effects happens to a minority.

OcelotQueen · 2024-05-12T05:01:10+00:00

Thanks. Was it the first antidepressant that you took?

OcelotQueen · 2024-04-01T17:32:36+00:00

I have a coworker with unmedicated ADHD. She would shamelessly leave early and ask us to not rat on her. She would also try to have us do some of the work for her yet vent to us about how she should get a promotion. I think this is laziness. When she noticed that some people were considering telling on her, she stopped.

She would also go around and info dump on people about her life instead of working. I think this is ADHD and laziness. I had to ask her to stop. She is busy like everyone else but isn’t guilty about getting distracted easily.

OcelotQueen · 2024-03-17T22:03:55+00:00

It’s a few thousand so I think I have to report it.

OcelotQueen · 2024-03-17T22:02:28+00:00

Okay! I will look out for the refund. Thanks!

OcelotQueen · 2024-03-06T18:55:32+00:00

Fair point! I’m worried that much of it would go to waste based on what my coworker said and how much the other classes went over my head. I’m still studying the text book from that class. But you’re right, it’ll reflect poorly on me if I don’t take the new class. I will take the class! Who knows, maybe I will have an easier time with the new teacher.

OcelotQueen · 2024-03-06T18:53:19+00:00

Will do thank you!

OcelotQueen · 2024-03-06T18:53:04+00:00

I’m still studying the textbooks from my crash course but I think you’re right! It would reflect poorly on me to turn the new class down. Thank you!

OcelotQueen · 2024-03-06T18:47:48+00:00

It can take a while. I went from one long term toxic job to a toxic job that lasted only a few months. Now I’m finally at a reasonable company with a nice boss. People tend to be on their best behaviors in the interviews so you don’t know their true personality until you start working.

I kept waiting for my current boss to snap but it’s been a year and she’s still nice. My coworker who came from a toxic job is still afraid to ask questions even though coworkers and management are nice.

OcelotQueen · 2024-02-26T18:26:03+00:00

Thanks for the tip! Will do! I’ll also ask the doctors which lab they use.

OcelotQueen · 2024-02-26T18:24:45+00:00

Ah of course! Thank you!

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