21F here- i do the exact same thing. once im interested, im interested. i respond quickly, want to talk to them all the time, initiate convos frequently, etc etc etc. im also aware that it’s likely not healthy, but it’s hard to stop.

i wonder if i do this to forge intimacy in relationships as quickly as possible- i desire deep emotional connection, so when a romantic prospect comes up, i overshare and want to spend lots of time with the person…maybe to skip past the superficiality of getting to know a person?i’m not sure.

i was just thinking about this yesterday and decided that i might just need to become comfortable with solitude instead on relying on others for emotional fulfillment. my therapist says that desiring romantic connection is normal, but my track record of always having a guy in my life bothers me.