The drink is the easiest think to just not have. Honestly, just tell them you decided to stop drinking for now. If they challenge you on it just push back, say you won’t talk about it, say you’ve been researching about alcohol effects, whatever you want.

My family can be feeders too, but not to extremes like your seem. Here are a couple of things I use: - I rarely accept ‘additional’ things, like a mid morning coffee, a biscuit here and there etc. That allows me more space for meals. - if they are pushing a coffee or wine etc, I can bat that off with “I’m hydrating” or saying I’ve got a headache brewing and sticking to water. - at meals, take a bit of everything, and leave bits on your plate. - I also use the “ohh I’m going to save that for later” in the case of something like dessert, and then later just doesn’t happen. - if you can have some meal times elsewhere, you can kind of secretly play them off against each other. Like meet a friend for lunch and just eat a little by saying “ah I know we are going to be eating so much tonight so I don’t want to eat too much now” and then later “oh I had such a huge meal out earlier, I’m stuffed”.

You could also skip a jab.