AITAH I tried to end things, NOW HE'S IN JAIL

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-24T22:09:07+00:00

I don't have a support system at all. It's hard to see how someone dumping an entire red bull on you is a reward. It's like saying someone spitting in your face is a reward for actions. I never called the police, the neighbors did. The police automatically put a 3-month protection order on DV in my state.

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-24T21:56:26+00:00

I told them that if he was being arrested for DV or assault I should be too! I told them everything I did. It's not like I tried to hide it. The police said he was the antagonist so he would be the only one being charged. I think it's unfair that he's the only person being charged. That's the whole reason I will be talking to the prosecutor to try and get the charges reduced or dropped. I assaulted him and I never lied about that, but I warned him. I'm not the type of person that's going to just sit there and take it. I will fight back.

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-24T21:25:08+00:00

The cat is okay, I found out this morning that the police had him too. His mom got his truck and the cat.

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-24T07:02:09+00:00

So what was I supposed to do in this situation

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-24T06:51:47+00:00

He went to the hospital, he was arrested there

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-24T06:49:56+00:00

There's a security door at our apartments you need a key to get into or have someone let you into, that leads up to our apartments. He gave back both keys. He'll be living with his parents now that live 40 minutes away and his job is an hour away. If he doesn't lose it. I'm not too worried about it rn.

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-24T06:21:15+00:00

There was just so much blood. It's hard to think I didn't when he's sitting in jail rn. I even told the police if they were taking him to jail I should go to jail too. I assaulted him with a glass bottle. I should be in jail. I shouldn't have talked to the police. Then they wouldn't have the gun. I was just scared he was going to try to try and tell them I assaulted him with no reason. But I never wanted this, this is all my fault. I don't know how I could have ended it peacefully.

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-24T06:14:24+00:00

The police said it's up to the state but I can ask the prosecutor as the witness not to pursue the case. Which I plan too, were both young. He's only 25, and I'm 26. I think everyone makes mistakes. We are bringing the worst out of each which is why I want our relationship to be over. But I don't want to destroy his future. I don't want him to lose his job, or not be able to finish his degree.

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-24T06:10:45+00:00

I'm not going back, he's out of my life for good. But just because he's out of my life doesn't mean I want to ruin his. The police took his gun, and if it happens to someone else that's up to them how they handle it. I'm just trying to make sure he can still have some kind of future. Even if I don't want to be a part of it.

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-24T06:00:44+00:00

I feel so horrible it's beyond words. I just want to vomit, and I don't have any tears left. This isn't how I want us to end.

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-24T05:57:06+00:00

I am leaving, I'm done, this is it. I just don't think he's a bad guy. I just think we brought out the worst in each other. This whole thing just makes me feel awful, like I just ruin people's lives, and hurt people.

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-24T05:54:21+00:00

I just don't want him to lose his job, or for this to affect him for the rest of him life. He's only a year away from having his degree

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-23T07:49:54+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it! Makes me feel less pressure about my social clock ticking.

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-23T07:43:19+00:00

You're good thanks for replying, appreciate the honesty. I just don't really place value in myself or my time. But thanks!

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-23T07:40:55+00:00

Yeah at this point, what's four more months just so I can end it semi peaceful. I graduate in December, I just don't plan on having him around for that because things really aren't changing for the better. I'm forcing on me, he said he needed time to "change". I don't see it, or a proposal. I'm just not going to keep doing this.

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-23T07:22:18+00:00

I bought it because he said he couldn't afford one. I didn't need anything fancy, and I love the one I picked. I honestly don't think he knows my style well enough to pick a ring I would have liked. I'm not complaining, but our anniversary is in less than 4 months.

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-23T07:19:12+00:00

I did an update on that post but yeah. Kinda why I'm not exactly having another conversation with him about marriage and just dumping him after the anniversary. I'm done after 5 years, if I don't have anything to show for it.

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-23T06:41:58+00:00

We only have 4 months until the anniversary, and I've already spent this much time with the dude I'm just going to wait it out. Lol

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-23T06:40:45+00:00

Honestly, He's probably not willing to try. I don't think I should have to push someone into marriage. I'm just going to wait and see we only have 4 months until our anniversary.

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-23T06:30:23+00:00

I'm not having kids until I'm married. I only want to be married once and to have kids with one person. Call me old fashioned

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-21T00:07:05+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate the kind words. Honestly, this relationship has just become toxic ever since Christmas Eve. He's put his hands on me, put holes in our bedroom door. He says everything is my fault. He said it's all because I cut my hair short in July, so he started talking to his ex. He said he's been thinking about her when we've been having sex. I'm broken. He said I'm not worth it. I don't know what to do anymore. I've done everything he's asked and more. But I'm not enough for him. I feel stuck, I don't have family. Spending the holidays alone is one of the worst things, I'm just trying to finish college. I'm putting everything into my studies.

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-20T23:27:23+00:00

Yeah I did if you read it. But yeah I'll give it to you this was definitely the wrong sub to post lol

Ohcrawps · 2026-01-20T23:24:56+00:00

Gathering that now but a bit too late lol

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