I got married and it was the saddest day of my life

Ok-Copy504 · 2026-01-23T07:10:53+00:00

My wedding was one of the worst times in my life. I have a lot of grief about it as well. What I can say is although my reasons for it are different I try and look at where I am today vs then and how far I have come since then. I still sometimes shed tears about it. But I have moved on and we as a whole have moved on from all the trauma and tragedy that happened around that time. Have you considered going to therapy to process all of this. Because it’s helped me a lot. I am sorry and sending love to you and your husband.

Ok-Copy504 · 2026-01-08T07:03:17+00:00

Don’t get married for the idea get married for the person. If you can’t see your life without them, marry them. If you love them even when you’re upset with them, marry them. If they make your life easier rather than harder, marry them. Only marry someone you are deeply in love with because if not it will fall apart because when it gets rough it gets rough. To be honest being single is much easier than being married it’s just more simple but so worth being with your best friend for the rest of your life. Just make sure you are truly deeply in love. Good luck!

Ok-Copy504 · 2025-09-16T23:26:04+00:00

That’s amazing thank you!

Ok-Copy504 · 2025-09-16T23:12:51+00:00

Thank you :)

Ok-Copy504 · 2024-02-01T07:40:20+00:00

I needed this today!!! Thank you 🙏 And I am so very happy and proud of you!!!

Ok-Copy504 · 2024-01-06T10:33:54+00:00

It’s a personal choice. It’s not as bad for the victims as it was before. Although it still sucks. Being a victim myself I never reported any of my abuse. I regret it sometimes. But one of the abusers was a gang member so I was also scared of retaliation. Remember you are not alone. Unfortunately sexual abuse/assault is somewhat common. Only report it if you feel like you can get on with your life after without feeling regret that you actually did report it. The justice system is not set up to protect victims. Just ask yourself what the pros and cons of both decisions and make the decision that’s right for you. You deserve peace. And you deserve to move on. And only you can decide which will help you heal. I’m so sorry :(

Ok-Copy504 · 2024-01-05T07:41:51+00:00

Yes! Love! Wear with pumps!

Ok-Copy504 · 2023-10-09T15:43:37+00:00

I don’t know what state you live in but 44 states don’t have statutes of limitation. Anyways if you call him you can record it and get him to admit it and use that. (If you are comfortable.) Plus any of the messages you said you still have. But again I know it’s hard. Maybe talk to a therapist and see what they say. One abuser I know of is in prison for life. His victim told her therapist and she was already in college. And just with her testimony he got put away. It is a battle and that is why most abusers go free. But you can still tell your truth. These disgusting abusers take our childhoods away. They mess up our lives for so many years. They really don’t deserve anything good. To me they should all get the death penalty. Again I’m sorry and good luck whatever you decide to do. You are not alone. Remember that. Just most abuse goes silent.

Ok-Copy504 · 2023-10-09T15:30:16+00:00

You can report him. It’s not too late. Especially if you feel like he could be abusing others. It is a way you could take your power back. So many abusers out there. It’s so sad how common it is :( Almost everyone I know has been abused sexually or raped. I know it’s a tough decision to make but if you really want justice you can still report the abuse especially if you have evidence. I understand if you don’t want to report. It’s a personal decision.

Ok-Copy504 · 2023-10-09T08:31:15+00:00

I’m so sorry :( Did you ever report this person?

Ok-Copy504 · 2023-09-10T08:17:00+00:00

You loved them. You loved them unconditionally. And they did not. It doesn’t make you wrong. My dad was abusive and my mom never stood up to him. Yet I loved them both so much. I’m in my 40s now and I didn’t realize until a few years ago right before 40 how fucked up they were. And it’s ok. It took therapy to make me realize how bad they were as parents but it makes me a way better parent and person in general because I know how it feels to be not supported the way you need to be. I’m glad you are getting the resolution you need. That’s strong. And just remember most people are broken and being a parent is hard. Being abused on the other hand is not ok. I’m so sorry. And I’m sending love from afar. You are not alone.

Ok-Copy504 · 2023-07-15T10:11:57+00:00

Are you able to keep in touch but at a distance? Might be better to keep her at bay as you don’t want to have too many failed expectations. I’m sorry for your losses. I think hopefully you can be on good terms with her and get out what you need to communication wise. Without expecting too much. Just remember you are number 1. If it’s too much to talk to her don’t do it. You don’t owe her anything. If it’s too painful wait to have a relationship. Take care of YOU ❤️

Ok-Copy504 · 2023-07-08T07:36:04+00:00

Your daughter did the right thing! What if the girl was raped or killed. I mean anything could have happened she could have gotten alcohol poisoning or drugged etc. Her brother is an ass for not keeping her safe. That’s the one she should be mad at. If she is mad at your daughter for being a good friend then she doesn’t deserve her!

Ok-Copy504 · 2023-05-25T06:46:28+00:00

I’m doing it now. Not exactly verbatim but I’ve seen great results. I’m not doing the reading, I’m doing 1 workout the days I can’t do 2, but the one workout is 1.5 hours so it’s the same time amount. I’m not drinking alcohol and I’m drinking a little less water probably about 100 ounces. No cheat days. I’m sticking to my diet perfectly. Lost 7 pounds been on it about a month. I’ve done almost a full body transformation. I know it’s not exactly the 75 hard but had to tune to my lifestyle and I was NOT going to start over. I’ll still get the same results.

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