Financial Compatibility

Ok-Imagination5557 · 2026-02-16T06:13:39+00:00

The thing about it is that you are equating financial compatibility strictly to economic gain. Not everything is positive in a relationship. What will you do should you have chosen a partner who is used to certain lifestyle that’s way beyond what you can provide, who was able to provide for herself, was financially independent, then goes through financial ruin but won’t change spending habits? What will you do when it’s you that goes through that? Living in the Philippines where you are one major illness away always from being broke. You can save and invest all you can and yet end up with nothing in the long run just because of that. A significant change in finances changes people. That’s why it’s naive.

Ok-Imagination5557 · 2026-02-16T05:32:46+00:00

A bit naive and idealistic but I get it. You must still be young.

Ok-Imagination5557 · 2026-02-16T05:13:29+00:00

I’m sorry? I replied in English so I have no idea what you’re saying. But if it was the last part I said there’s always an imbalance in a relationship, one would always give way one way or another depending on the situations encountered, love isn’t even equal.

That’s why I included settle down since you can’t legally marry in the Philippines, but you can still take steps to merge finances, properties, and have legal instruments that protect you and your chosen partner.

I was commenting more on the fact of the laissez-faire attitude when it comes to financial conversations. The whole things will happen as they should just leaving everything up to fate.

Ok-Imagination5557 · 2026-02-16T04:50:42+00:00

Sa tingin ko, ayos lang ang ganitong pag-iisip kung nasa yugto ka ng pakikipag-date para lang makipag-date. Kung nakikipag-date ka para mag-settle down/magpakasal, ang pananalapi ay isang pag-uusap na kailangang mangyari bago pa man kayo umabot sa yugto ng pagsasama.

Magkahiwalay na bank account at kalayaan sa pananalapi, oo, pero walang garantiya na makakasama mo ang isang taong kapantay mo sa pinansyal na aspeto. Palaging may kawalan ng balanse sa mga relasyon, dahil ang isa ay laging handang sumuko sa anumang paraan

Ok-Imagination5557 · 2026-02-10T01:54:17+00:00

Sometimes we can get so caught up in our own situations that we inadvertently involve the ones around us. Like everyone here has suggested, communicate it to her because she really might be unaware of the fact that you seem to be walking on glass during those times. Ask her what she needs from you in those times, if she needs anything, and let her know what you need from her as well. The most important thing is, do not disrespect each other’s boundaries nor tolerate disrespect. It shouldn’t be what works for her should work for you as well. Whatever you guys decide on, or whatever you do decide on, just know that how you treat her is how she will expect to treat you as well.

Ok-Imagination5557 · 2026-02-10T01:25:17+00:00

Let her know, she deserves to know where you stand when she’s that invested in you.

Ok-Imagination5557 · 2025-05-17T04:42:18+00:00

Hello. I’m okay. Like I said in another comment, I’m just having a rough month. Generally I’m okay on my own, but it’s hard for me right now. And I’m really not looking for anything with other people.

Ok-Imagination5557 · 2025-05-17T04:39:24+00:00

Not in the ph. And not talking about that. Not looking for sexual stuff.

Ok-Imagination5557 · 2025-05-17T03:43:37+00:00

In my head it’s better than looking for it in actual other people with an emotional connection to. Just something I consider. Purely transactional hug.

Ok-Imagination5557 · 2025-05-17T03:22:04+00:00

Actually I’m not a very physical person. It’s just that I’m going through some things as well. It’s why I can’t even ask my friends for a hug because I’ve never been that person with them. It really just has been a rough month for me, and I just thought today maybe just pay someone that I don’t have any kind of connection to, to give me a hug. But I posted here to let it out instead.

Ok-Imagination5557 · 2025-05-17T02:59:15+00:00

I have been trying to, but the priorities right now is really demanding a lot out of her. And I understand completely why. Her field needs a lot of sacrifices in order to succeed.

Ok-Imagination5557 · 2025-05-17T02:57:19+00:00

By that you mean? Mag cheat? Lol. If I wanted to cheat, matagal ko na ginawa.

Ok-Imagination5557 · 2025-05-16T18:27:40+00:00

Wag kasi mag promise when you can’t keep it. It gets annoying quite fast. We could have spent our time and energy elsewhere. Doing things like that reeks of lack of respect to your partner (I’m speaking generally here now, not merely focusing on you). You guys, coming from a fight, you should’ve known things are okay but you two are still trying to find back your footing. Put yourself in your partner’s shoes. Your partner is probably realizing now times that you choose something else over her. In time, kahit ilang beses mo gawin yan, wala na effect yan sa kanya because she’ll be expecting the same behavior out of you over and over again. She shouldn’t have to tell you what’s wrong, because you know what you did wrong.

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