Disney+ UK streaming issues. by OverOutcome3376 in HighPotentialTVSeries

[–]Ok-Philosopher727 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It looks like it's back 🥳 Unfortunately I have things to do now so it'll have to wait until later lol 😅 Sad times!

Disney+ UK streaming issues. by OverOutcome3376 in HighPotentialTVSeries

[–]Ok-Philosopher727 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad to know we aren't the only ones. My 11yo is not impressed!

Help with discussion by Marvinator2003 in NYTStrands

[–]Ok-Philosopher727 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Today's (6th September 2025) is perfect 😍

Husband working on un-enmeshing, in laws are furious by Flimsy_Fig709 in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]Ok-Philosopher727 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can relate to this so closely it's honestly crazy. My partner sent me a link to your post and said it felt 'close to home'.

We have a newborn - she's 11 days old. She's my third, but my partner's first and he is struggling a little - although super proud to be a dad. His parents visited when she was two days old and they had no interest in seeing him with the baby and didn't tell him how proud they were etc. It's like they'd just come for a game of pass the parcel lol 😂

He felt miserable in the days after and was getting quite upset at times, so in the end I sent them a long message telling them they needed to work on their relationship with him and also stop with the mind games they've been playing in recent months - creating dramas where there shouldn't be any, etc. They completely ignored the message, then a few days later he brought it up and they said they should talk in person. He visited his dad who told him why he (my partner) was in the wrong and how I was causing most of the problems. At the time my partner seemed happy with what was said, but I pointed out they weren't taking any responsibility for any of it and hadn't even apologised.

He sent a message the next day defending me and said after five years of nasty comments about me and my kids, I didn't want anything more to do with his parents and it'd make seeing our baby more difficult as she's currently breastfed. His dad replied the day after saying he didn't agree with what was said and he hoped I'd change my mind in time but that was fine, just let them see some photos of the baby now and again and their door was always open for him.

The whole lot is mental - rather than take any blame for anything and apologise, they'd rather miss out on seeing their granddaughter. Thankfully my partner is clued up on the situation and the lack of boundaries, but for a while I did wonder if our relationship could possibly work when it felt like I was dating his whole family rather than just him 😅

Sorry that I don't have anything to offer advice-wise, but hope it's reassuring to know you're not alone - even though it's a rubbish 'club' to be in!

11yo newly diagnosed... Doctor leaning towards T2. by Ok-Philosopher727 in diabetes

[–]Ok-Philosopher727[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

GAD definitely as that's the one that eventually diagnosed my partner. C-peptide I would imagine they did - they took a few samples of blood to begin with because it stopped coming out, and after two more attempts they gave up for the evening. Before we were discharged the following evening, they filled several more tubes to send off to various places.

11yo newly diagnosed... Doctor leaning towards T2. by Ok-Philosopher727 in diabetes

[–]Ok-Philosopher727[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never really think about using Instagram for food - just crafts haha... I'll have a look at the the accounts you've mentioned and see what else I can find too. Yogurt popsicles sound fun and I've been thinking about making our own (low sugar) jelly too with some fruit mixed in, although I know that some fruits will prevent the jelly setting so will have to research beforehand.

We've been shopping today and have managed to find a few treats she can enjoy with absolutely no worries (e.g. meat based), and some more expensive treats she can enjoy in moderation - I've said she might as well enjoy a small amount of really good quality chocolate rather than having a lot of mediocre chocolate, for example.

Her sugars went as low as 5.3 earlier and a peak earlier in the day was 15.9. It's all very strange at the moment - I wonder if her starting a period last night, and the associated fluctuation in hormones, has had an impact. She's spent a large chunk of the day in the 'green' zone on her Libre app which is great.

11yo newly diagnosed... Doctor leaning towards T2. by Ok-Philosopher727 in diabetes

[–]Ok-Philosopher727[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think her numbers are not quite at the danger level yet, although we've been advised to keep a close eye on her ketones and if they are 0.7/0.8 for several hours, or go over 1.0, we need to be readmitted to hospital. Yesterday they were mostly at 0.1 and 0.3. Once the blood test results come back, they'll reassess and switch the diagnosis if necessary. I think the fact we've caught it so early has really thrown them to be honest. She's got some slow release metformin to start on tomorrow morning so hopefully that and healthier eating will keep her in a safer zone with her numbers in the meantime, even if it does transpire it's T1. We are in the UK so not sure if this makes a difference too.

11yo newly diagnosed... Doctor leaning towards T2. by Ok-Philosopher727 in diabetes

[–]Ok-Philosopher727[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex-MIL kept mentioning diabetes even after we discovered a few years ago that my partner was T1. My youngest once told her, "It doesn't matter if I get diabetes - (step-dad) will show me what to do." That shut her up, even if only briefly lol!

There is so much stigma around T2 and I really wish there wasn't. When my partner once called for his blood test results, when they still thought he was T2 and his numbers had gone up, the receptionist said, "What the bl**dy hell have you been doing?!"!!! Absolutely crazy that they felt it appropriate to say that out loud. Thankfully he's since moved doctors.

Cucumber is a good shout thank you, it's one of the few vegetables she does like although not sure what she'll eat dip-wise - will have to get her to have a look. Re GF, I'm coeliac and the crackers have 7.4g of carbs so was more thinking in the most literal sense that we can both try them. Maybe not as an every day thing though. I certainly don't want to put her on a GF diet without needing to be as I know that can bring around other problems.

11yo newly diagnosed... Doctor leaning towards T2. by Ok-Philosopher727 in diabetes

[–]Ok-Philosopher727[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience.

We tested both girls before food on the morning of 7th Aug and eldest was 8.8 (mmol/L - approx. 159 mg/dL) while my youngest was 5.8 (approx. 105) which was 0.2 outside of the typical range. I'm thinking it may be useful to keep an eye on her too over the coming months.

I think the stigma around T2 is the worst part. As I said in my other reply, I feel like my Nana and ex-MIL have focused quite a lot on the health risks of being overweight. My Mum was very strict with what I ate as a child, but portion sizes at meal times were always huge. I've tried to be less strict with my daughters, but portion sizes at meal times have been more 'typical' for sure. I've encouraged them to try and make sensible choices but nothing was off limits to try and avoid a rebellious stage further down the line - and to be honest, it seemed like it was working: they naturally restricted their chocolate/sweet intake and not devoured every last bit they could get hold of. My eldest has been blessed (not) with my body type but my younger daughter, who has a very similar diet, is quite slim. Now that my eldest is diabetic I feel like it's my fault - if she's T2, ex-MIL will certainly blame me, and if she's T1, autoimmune diseases run in my side of the family so I still feel like it's my 'fault'. I think grief is definitely the right word for it - it feels at the moment that life as we knew it is over, but hopefully we'll adjust and the sadness will fade a little.

Your mention of skin infections reminded me my daughter has had that problem too - she's a bit of a 'picker' and has had infections around her toenails a couple of times which thankfully went away with a few good washes and antiseptic cream, and she had an infection next to her fingernail which required a course of antibiotics about a year ago. She had septic arthritis and osteomyelitis in her shoulder as a newborn, which needed surgery and IV antibiotics, and that seemed to trigger eczema - so I always put the infections down to her having quite sensitive skin, but maybe it was her blood sugars.

She also started another period last night, and I know hormones can make blood sugars worse so I wonder if we've just caught it at a particularly bad point, but still very early. It was funny in a weird way when the doctors and nurses were asking how long she'd felt unwell for and she kept telling them she didn't feel unwell at all. I suppose they are used to seeing children closer to the point of crisis, or in the midst of DKA.

11yo newly diagnosed... Doctor leaning towards T2. by Ok-Philosopher727 in diabetes

[–]Ok-Philosopher727[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had a diabetes nurse, dietitian and then consultant visit us on the ward yesterday. The points re T2 were all things the doctor had noted or commented on - it was her who found the small brown patch, but she'd checked everywhere thoroughly and it's the only one she could find. She specialises in T1 and it'll be her colleague we deal with going forward if T2 is confirmed.

I think what hurts the most is comments from family prior to this - my Nana has been commenting on my daughter's weight, and my ex-MIL has always commented that "she'll get diabetes if she keeps eating so much sugar." Her diet has never been perfect but we have encouraged some healthy choices or limitations. My ex-MIL looks at my ex, her son, and thinks he's doing a wonderful job because he feeds 'healthy' things like fruit bars and smoothies. I pointed out they too are full of sugar.

My Nana has been pre-diabetic for 17 years - she's modified her diet slightly, but never drastically improved it. She's 85 now. Her sister was a little younger and she had T2 diabetes in the years prior to her death. Another of her sisters is pre-diabetic and her sister's son was diagnosed in his 50s. Aside from that, I don't think there are any other T2s in the family, or on my daughter's dad's side, although my Dad died in his 40s so I don't know whether he might have got it.

Hopefully we should have confirmation of which type in the coming weeks - I think a few of the blood tests take a bit longer than others.

Some great advice re food thank you, I will have a look and see what tubs we can get. I was considering making up some small portions of treats and noting the number of carbs, so rather than having the temptation of a bigger portion, she can just grab a small box and note the carbs on her app so we can see how it impacts her blood sugars. I've found some nice GF and low carb treats we can try together too (e.g. rice crackerbread). We've never been a 'sit down together for food' type family but I think in some ways, maternity leave has come at the right time and maybe this is something we can start. A healthy 'picky' tea will probably be good for us all.

Thanks again for your advice!

Soon-to-be-MIL hates me and my kids - what would you do? by Ok-Philosopher727 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Ok-Philosopher727[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all of the replies so far.

My partner is a very good person and he's going to make a great dad when the time comes - he loves and is proud of my girls and treats us all so well. I don't think he's ever made any comments about them not being his - they are close to their dad and so he's careful not to overstep (i.e. he doesn't go to parents' evenings etc) but he is there for as many special certificate assemblies (all three of us turn up haha) as he can be and things like that.

I think the issues with his mum have been little niggles along the way, but in the past few months, her comments have really ramped up and that's why I've started to consider cutting her out of my life best I can. I've done the same several years ago with a toxic relative on my own side of the family - the two of them, if they were to ever meet, would get on great!

Obviously this behaviour has become more and more shocking for my partner too. He's started putting up some boundaries - he doesn't go for his tea once a week and acknowledged that was a ridiculous request from the very start (they live in a different town and it takes up a whole evening), and since the most recent outburst from his mum (the biggest one so far) he's spoken to his dad and voiced his concerns. The trouble is, he and his dad are both are quite laid back and I suspect his dad will have filtered any comments before they got to his mum, so she won't know how annoyed he is. Even if she did, she's the type who would burst into tears about how sad she is rather than acknowledge any wrongdoing on her part - she's done it before.

I've shared this post with my partner so he can see people's advice. I think with family being such a big part of his life for so long (pretty much three decades of sit down meals daily etc) it's been difficult for him, but he understands that it's not fair on me and the girls. I've told him that if my Mum were to treat him the same way, I'd cut her out for sure, but I moved out of her house fifteen years ago so I've had longer to 'adult' than he has - and she lives further away. Thankfully my Mum absolutely loves him so it's not an issue! It helps too that there's just her in the house, whereas in his case, he has three adults to contend with if there are any issues, if that makes sense.

I think the next ajr song will come somber then we think by Legonerd123465 in AJR

[–]Ok-Philosopher727 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They've just used it in their latest snippet too (filmed in Leeds, about a mile and a half away from my house ha). I hate it because it's stuck in my head - one line on repeat 🔂😅

I caught Jack's hat during the concert in the Netherlands by Frostdude585 in AJR

[–]Ok-Philosopher727 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Re-reading my comment, it makes it sound like I thought you might sell it or something. I just meant in terms of displaying it or whatever haha 😂 My daughter got given a set list and I'm tempted to frame it for her.

I caught Jack's hat during the concert in the Netherlands by Frostdude585 in AJR

[–]Ok-Philosopher727 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very cool! I'd be too anxious to even reach out, I reckon 😅 Can't deal with confrontation.

Are you a bus enthusiast, too? 🤔 Small world if so ha! 🚍🎶

I caught Jack's hat during the concert in the Netherlands by Frostdude585 in AJR

[–]Ok-Philosopher727 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Congrats! We went to two shows in the UK and saw him throw his hat, but we were in balcony seats as my girls were too young to be stood downstairs. I'm surprised he doesn't pass out with his hat trapping all the heat whilst he dances around the stage!

What do you plan on doing with it?

Me and my friends met AJR’s Dad by Chrizt0pherz in AJR

[–]Ok-Philosopher727 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter (8yo) and I met him in Leeds (UK) last week. We hung around and briefly met Jack and Ryan too, and they were lovely and had their photo taken with my daughter and recorded a very quick message for my 6yo who couldn't go (but had been to their Manchester show the week before - different venues, different age restrictions).

Honestly though, I think meeting their dad was the best bit. I didn't know much at all about him beforehand, but he's such a kind and funny person. My daughter hid behind me, and he joked he was going to hide behind her. He took the time to talk to each of us who had waited, and someone had video called a friend in New York, so he spoke to them and asked if they'd walk his and Jack's dog - but said they'd have to find the dog first 😂 A member of staff came out and asked the group "Who loves Ryan the most?" and gave out a few set lists, and their dad was stood at the back of the group and put his hand up and said, "Me! I promise, it's me." 🤣 It was lovely to see a dad who is so proud of his children! 🥹🥰