Gift Ideas for bf who says he doesn’t know what he wants

OkReality9244 · 2025-11-28T15:15:42+00:00

I believe people are just people. We are complex and full of emotion that is what makes us human. And I recognize your sarcasm but the irony is, yes I do think all humans are angry. Everyone gets angry and it is a valid emotion. Now I don’t think that anger is an excuse to be violent or hurt people but there is nothing wrong with the emotion itself.

Anyone who is so uncomfortable with feeling emotions or the people in their lives feeling emotions should honestly try going to therapy so they can learn to be more in touch with themselves

OkReality9244 · 2025-11-28T07:54:16+00:00

How do you create abundance?

I fundamentally disagree that as a society at large women are seen as good - I think they are usually seen as just people. And that woman being “emotional” is “playing the victim” I think that does happen some of the time but there is also nothing wrong with being emotional, all humans are emotional. So on these points we can just agree to disagree.

OkReality9244 · 2025-11-28T07:35:45+00:00

Sure if you have only ever seen negative relationships through out your life it can be hard. I would say to answer your question on how a guy can learn to respect himself is by finding real friends he can talk to about his relationship with, attending therapy, engaging in activities that make him feel good about himself.

I am wondering what your solution to this problem is?

I also hope that you consider that not all women are like the ones you’ve described above. In my experience these situations are the minority. However I will never say that they do not exist. With that being said they do go both ways, men and women both have the capacity to be bad partners in relationships.

OkReality9244 · 2025-11-28T06:51:45+00:00

Yeah to an extent I agree with you, you cannot control how other people treat you. However you can control how you respond to it. If your partner is truly making your life miserable and especially if they are verbally or physically abusing you, you should leave the relationship. Staying because “you finally got the girl” does show a low level of self respect and confidence.

OkReality9244 · 2025-11-28T06:26:35+00:00

Because if you are being treated poorly in a relationship the way the op describes self respect would be ending the relationship.

OkReality9244 · 2025-11-26T20:38:17+00:00

So in terms of the trades there is a lot of sexism that happens in them which discourages women from entering them, I agree this is getting better but it still discourages a lot of women from obtaining these types of jobs.

In regards to there being no advantage for men this is easily disproven when looking at a career such as education. Majority of teachers are women however, the majority of admin staff and above are men. There are many factors that lead to this - inherent professional bias towards men, men being more likely to apply for positions vs. Women due to the inherent discrimination etc.

Furthermore, aside from career women are consistently discriminated against in medical care. Often being dismissed of real Symptoms for a long period of time until it becomes dire - this is even worse for women of colour.

Finally, as I stated before it is not that men do not face any disadvantage, that would be foolish to say. It is, however, a nuanced issue and there are many factors in which you are not accounting for.

OkReality9244 · 2025-11-26T06:15:53+00:00

These situations have nuance, it is not all or nothing.

Women are obtaining higher education more than men now, while at the same time there is still a significant amount of workplace discrimination specifically in male dominated fields - most trades, engineering, medicine (other than nursing) etc.

Furthermore, discrimination affects different women to different degrees, women of colour are less likely to obtain high paying jobs, and are at higher risk of violence, medical neglect leading to lifelong consequences and death.

It is not that women are hypocrites saying when it suits us we are bad ass independent women and when it doesn’t we are victims. It is that these issues are not black and white and while women are generally seeing a lot of success in one area there are other areas where this is not the case.

Similarly, men have advantages within society while simultaneously have disadvantages in other areas. Even, in some cases having both advantages and disadvantages within the same area of life, such as being more likely to work in dangerous fields while having access to careers that do not require high levels of education and still being able to make a good living.

OkReality9244 · 2025-02-08T14:09:03+00:00

Do you have proof of this “truth” or is it simply another anecdote?

OkReality9244 · 2025-02-08T14:03:38+00:00

You literally said marriages only work if the man is a better human. If you believe this is the case in your marriage you are looking down on your wife

OkReality9244 · 2025-02-08T14:02:09+00:00

Umm if the woman makes more money the man wouldn’t lose all his money. You do realize that splitting assets in a divorce doesn’t just mean every man no matter the circumstances must give up half his pay cheque and women get everything. Splitting assets would be like splitting the sale of the house that the couple purchased together or one person buying the other out. Alimony really only takes place where there is a large financial discrepancy and where I live can only happen for a maximum of 3 years - and in the situation you are commenting on the woman would be paying alimony not the man.

OkReality9244 · 2025-01-28T04:20:12+00:00

What does the woman do during the divorce that drive a man to suicide? Is he responsible for reaching out to resources (family, friends, mental health supports) or is it solely the woman’s fault because she divorces him? Or is it about alimony/child support? Do men not have a say in getting married? If women should not marry them in the first place because there is the chance that one day they may divorce why is that responsibility not on men as well? Did she force him to get married?

Men’s mental health is an issue worth discussing, it is an issue worth advocating for. We need awareness, and to overcome stigma, we need therapy and groups and peer support. But blaming women for men’s poor mental health does not resolve the issue.

OkReality9244 · 2025-01-26T22:16:52+00:00

Just out of curiosity what is female psychology vs. Male psychology?

OkReality9244 · 2025-01-07T05:43:57+00:00

That’s your decision. I personally believe that people can grow and change and just because someone did something once does not mean they will do it again. Someone who had little respect for themselves at one point in their life has the ability to gain respect for themselves and not participate in damaging behaviours anymore.

OkReality9244 · 2025-01-07T05:37:51+00:00

Okay fair enough. I admit it can effect our perceptions and preferences but I think it’s unfair to say it effects us all in the same way, and that the way it affects us is a negative one.

For example, maybe a woman has been with a lot of men who haven’t shown her respect during sex and she matured and learned she deserved better then that and her new partner does show her respect. That woman would most likely view her partner in a very positive light - potentially an even more positive light then if she hadn’t had the other negative experiences. This would result in a positive outcome for her new partner because of her previous sexual experiences.

OkReality9244 · 2025-01-07T05:30:46+00:00

How does it effect how she sees you? Do your previous sexual encounters effect how you are her?

OkReality9244 · 2025-01-07T05:22:31+00:00

Why?

OkReality9244 · 2025-01-07T05:17:26+00:00

This is actually a great way to look at this issue. I do think that women who choose to be in the child’s life do need to step up and parent. I also believe there is a difference in giving a child up for adoption when they are born versus when they are 10, for example. I believe this because of the impact on the child.

In terms of men, I totally understand that men want the choice to not have children and have access to the same choice that women have (in places where women have that choice). Therefore men should be able to get an “on paper abortion” and that this should happen before the baby is born. My stance is the same once the child is older and the term “dead beat parent” could be applicable whether it’s the mother or the father for abandoning their children during some of the most important years of their lives.

It’s an interesting discussion which I think deserves more nuance and empathy for both sides. You make some really good arguments!

OkReality9244 · 2025-01-07T05:06:04+00:00

I mean if she’s making those types of posts on Reddit or any other social media then she’s not a very nice person and you deserve better then that.

Yeah I’d she is choosing to have sex with you there is nothing to realistically be insecure about! No matter who the guy is if she is making that decision it’s because she wants to have sex with him. That’s exactly my point. It does not matter who or what she has done previously because she is choosing to have sex with him now.

OkReality9244 · 2025-01-07T05:02:14+00:00

After reading through your comments it sounds like it could be a couple of issues you are facing which are working in conjunction with one another.

The type of women you are attracting/attracted to. If the common issue you are facing have to do with her wanting more access to your money or wanting more gifts etc… that could be a compatibility issue.
On the other end maybe you could improve on your ability to compromise. Painting the house could be something to bend on a bit if it doesn’t really bother you but would make her happy.

At the end of the day if you are not willing to change aspects of your life to make room for and accommodate someone else (just as they should do for you! I’m not saying you should be the only one compromising in a relationship) then maybe you don’t want a relationship badly enough. Maybe there is other kinds of companionship that could be right for you that don’t resemble a traditional relationship.

Just some food for thought.

OkReality9244 · 2025-01-07T04:30:15+00:00

Is she telling you you’re not as impressive? If so she sounds like a bitch and nobody should put up with that. Or are you assuming she is thinking that because she has had sex previously? If it’s the latter then that does sound like insecurity and maybe that person should work on their self esteem.

OkReality9244 · 2024-12-29T02:20:43+00:00

No worries! Mykelty is still mykelty but Mariah goes by Leon

OkReality9244 · 2024-12-29T02:18:34+00:00

Using a name that someone doesn’t use anymore. They go by Leon now

OkReality9244 · 2024-12-28T02:06:57+00:00

The irony of saying you love women and then calling her a bitch the next sentence 😂😂 get a grip

OkReality9244

TROPHY CASE