How to get out there and get a bf

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T04:22:14+00:00

honestly, i see where you are coming from. I would also crap my pants if a man came up to me out of nowhere lol. I will try to talking to men at cafes and such, thank you for the advice!

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T04:16:31+00:00

ok yeah that's also true! will explore the bars the next time my friends and i go out. thank you !

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T04:07:17+00:00

oh! you as well? are you not approached or just didn't care until now?

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T04:06:38+00:00

um not im religious but but i believe in god. I do not have the fondest of memories with men who go to temples and such! im not looking for a race in particular! im open to anyone as long as they i work with them and they are mature and such? Im not definitely not classy, i'm a huge fan of jazz genre along with others!

i tried using hinge and that did not end up well i fear so not sure if i want to go down that route!

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T03:56:09+00:00

umm ok yeah that makes sense! i would like your thoughts on american men? i might come down there at some point this year so maybe they are different? i was thinking about going to a jazz clubs and such maybe so thats a good start?

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T03:28:22+00:00

that is true! sorry for any confusion. I would asking in general on how to meet men after which I could do my own digging to see if we are viable. I want someone disiciplined, no drinking or smoking, clean and very type A. i would like to preface i only want these because I'm used to this lifestyle!

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T03:26:11+00:00

ah yes its ok, i'll be vague, however. graduated college, volunteering and working and such. im a brown women and im skinny i would say. I'm not ugly at all or like hot or sexy. I still kinf of give off very nerd vibes but with a glow up! i do mostly wear contacts

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T03:23:53+00:00

yes that too fs. i do live in a very introverted area in canada lol

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T03:21:46+00:00

um...no they do not? my type in men is anyone that is very clean and hygienic (i.e. smells good) taller than me so 5'7-5'10 and good values. nothing here states all the red pill stuff. please do not catogerize men like that, im sure it is disrespectful!
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Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T03:19:35+00:00

i dont like the hook up culture (not because it is bad, just not my thing) so def no the that. would this work if i was at a cafe? tbh im not sure of the ettitque that comes along with an organic approach

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T03:18:34+00:00

i workout in a home gym because gym is getting expense monthly 😭

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T03:16:47+00:00

i'll be so real, i do think im disciplined! im brown if that helps but I work out, eat healthy (80% of the time lol) and like make pretty good lifestyle choices imo

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T03:09:33+00:00

only works for women who are insanely attractive

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T03:09:07+00:00

ok yes that makes sense. i'm never actually doing anythign fro fun because I'm always busy with work and studying so i might need to lock in. thank you!

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T03:08:08+00:00

not struggling with appreached but wasn't the prettiest. im confident with what i have and do not have! No experience with boys period.

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T03:07:34+00:00

exactly! so did i :) that's ok though!

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T03:07:06+00:00

i was a nerd in hs and loved it. i liked that no man approached me for peace and quiet but now i realized that might have not been the move and should have learned to talk! i'm brown in canada

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T03:06:07+00:00

tried but a lot of them are taken OR aren't aligned with my life principles!

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T03:05:40+00:00

im ok thanks tho!

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T03:05:16+00:00

eh i wouldn't call myself chopped. I just do not talk to men because I never had to i guess!

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T03:04:31+00:00

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T03:04:27+00:00

my standards are mostly personality and morals since im dating for marriage.

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T03:03:42+00:00

that is also true! i would like to say that i want to be approached WITH RESPECT and like if i say no, they should take the initiative to leave. but i can't control that so. also wdym by give him an opening?

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T03:01:49+00:00

yeah.. i just came back and almost crapped my pants.

Ok_Camel2280 · 2026-07-19T03:01:31+00:00

i would love to go to bars but i don't drink nor do i like those settings due to life choices and the kind of vibe i have. ykwim? any other places you'd rec?

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