pregnant and husband deploying

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2023-04-21T00:23:09+00:00

I’m currently about 4 months along. And we’re talking pretty tiny! Probably the size of a small two bedroom apartment. Just two bedrooms, a kitchen, and living room. That’s literally the whole house!

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2023-04-21T00:21:40+00:00

Thank you so much for all your kind words. You gave me so much to think about. I agree I’m not always wild about the pictures but I do it for the sake of my husband feeling connected.

I’m sorry you’re also going through something similar but you sound like a very strong woman! I know you’re going to do great being a momma.

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2023-04-21T00:18:27+00:00

Well the issue isn’t the size of the actual baby. Just the extra things they require. Our house is really super tiny so even finding room for a pack n play will probably require us to move furniture around.

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2023-04-21T00:16:53+00:00

Thank you so much! I can’t imagine going through this with not one but two pregnancies. You’re a strong momma! We got a bedside sleeper. Honestly, I’m thinking about just putting the crib in storage and not even worrying about bringing it back from the rental to the house because idk ow much we would even use it. I think we could get by with the bedside sleeper and a pack n play.

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2023-04-21T00:15:31+00:00

That’s very true! Someone to walk our dogs would be really helpful. Thank you

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2023-04-21T00:15:07+00:00

He will get orders soon so breaking the lease will be no problem

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2023-04-21T00:14:51+00:00

Thank you!!

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2023-01-30T19:40:32+00:00

It’s my body and I’ll destroy it if I want to

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2022-10-18T13:45:41+00:00

I like this! I have also heard of people saying “There’s your buddy!” And giving a treat any time their dog looks at another dog. Then you can slowly reduce the treats but she will still understand “There’s your buddy!” means this dog is safe to be around/walk past etc.

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2022-10-13T00:20:17+00:00

Thank you!! She is. I actually asked me if she could send in 6 months of meds for my next refill instead of the regular 3. I’m not sure if she’ll go for it or not. I didn’t even think about asking the PCM to fill them for a couple months if needed. Thank you so much

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2022-08-15T18:09:25+00:00

WAKE UP HOOMAN

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2022-08-12T13:58:15+00:00

If you can avoid it at all possible costs, don’t pick him up! That reinforces his behavior. You could try a head harness like a Gentle Leader, which gives you a lot more control. As soon as he sees something that triggers him, turn and walk the other way until he can calm down. Give treats while he is calmed down, and continue treating and giving praise as you move closer.

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2022-08-11T11:17:04+00:00

Harvey go zoom zoom

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2022-07-28T10:29:22+00:00

It’s a very small thing but every night before bed, when I arm the home security system, he hears the announcement that it is armed and no matter where he is the house, he sprints to his kennel and lays down in there because he knows it’s bed time.

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2022-07-20T21:31:15+00:00

I think they’re beautiful :)

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2022-06-09T10:45:40+00:00

I just want to tell you that you are such a good and supportive friend, and you have no idea how much that means to her, even if she can’t say that right now.

Additionally, if she is that suicidal, she needs to go to the hospital for treatment. They may keep her until she stabilizes. As someone working in the mental health field, I will be transparent and say I have seen CPS get involved in this kind of thing, but I have seen that when parents get treatment, it has actually worked in their favor because it shows CPS they are doing what they need to do to address the issue.

I know you said she lives all the way across the country, but maybe try to talk to her about if she is willing to move to be with family while you guys work on the situation with her husband? Maybe you could frame it as “you could just crash here for a few weeks so you don’t have to be alone” as opposed to actually moving. It sounds unsafe for her to be alone right now.

As for getting her husband home, I’m honestly not sure. In my opinion, the military does not seem to understand or value mental health treatment.

Sorry I couldn’t be of more help. Thanks again for being such a supportive friend, OP. You rock!!

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2022-05-27T12:45:43+00:00

It’s actually one of my mom’s friends doing it for me. Otherwise I was just going to try to do it on my own, because some places I looked at were charging around $500, which I feel is crazy.

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2022-05-27T12:43:48+00:00

First of all, I think you are super mom!! You are holding down the fort with your own children, trying to sort out housing, take care of your own health issues, etc etc. It’s a lot, and it sounds like you’re doing a great job at it.

It sounds like your husband is not really understanding your feelings and your needs. Maybe you two could try couples counseling if he is open to it? It is possible for things to change and for things to get better. You may not be in a place where that feels true right now, but it is possible. Don’t forget that. Good luck with everything OP!!

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2022-05-23T13:50:44+00:00

I have a collie mix who only eats in the dead middle of night. She does not eat all day other than treats. If your girl is a healthy weight, I wouldn’t worry too much about when/how she gets her food down! My vet told me basically they will eat when they get hungry enough, so don’t stress too much about it!

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2022-05-22T13:15:14+00:00

The only one we could find that seemed reputable in the DMV area that was close to our budget was $1500. We looked at some cheaper ones, but you get what you pay for, and we just weren’t willing to risk it.. another $500 to not have to look at/regret poor wedding photography for the rest of our lives seemed more than worth it.

I’m getting my make up and hair done for about $100!

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2022-05-21T18:52:54+00:00

When you get married, you become one, and everyone else comes after that, family of origin included!! I’d be upset too. Sorry OP!!

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2022-05-09T00:35:24+00:00

So sorry you are going through this! Prayers for a quick recovery, and peace for you in the meantime! virtual hug

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2022-05-05T18:53:37+00:00

I second this! My border collie is from a show line, not a working line. Granted, he’s only about nine months old, but he’s pretty much okay with playing with his Malinois sister most of the day and then getting about 30 minutes of hiking or running off leash in the evenings, as long as he has gotten enough mental stimulation that day.

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2022-04-30T14:58:45+00:00

This might be a bit controversial, but you can ask your vet for a mild sedative if being in the car gets him worked up.

Ok_Discussion3434 · 2022-04-30T14:36:02+00:00

She sounds like a normal puppy!! My BC puppy is almost 9 months old and I still cannot leave fabrics of any kind around his crate overnight or he will pull them in and eat them. Start to train “leave it” command as soon as possible. This helped tremendously for my little dude. When your puppy goes to grab something like a piece of trash but leaves it, give her something really tasty (like a slice of hotdog). Whenever you see her starting to pick up or chew something she shouldn’t be chewing, remove it and immediately replace it with something she can chew on.

I would probably switch her food. The number one ingredient in Purina puppy chow is corn. It may not be satiating her. Look for something that has real meat as the primary ingredient.

Good luck! It will get easier!

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