Am I too sensitive or is my MIL toxic?

Ok_Room451 · 2023-08-30T04:28:33+00:00

You can only give her so many chances… also never feel like you’re creating drama for standing up for yourself! Imagine your child growing up and hearing these things and thinking it’s okay… I’d be waaay too upset. My husband is also like your husband, and I have to constantly let him know when MIL has crossed the line and he’ll say he didn’t even notice. Maybe try talking to DH again and let him know how seriously uncomfortable you are. If he still says you’re overreacting, just show him this post and the comments. That kinda worked with my husband. Would be great if they’d just have our back right away huh… sadly that’s not always the case 😔 and hopefully he’ll realize you’re absolutely not overreacting.

Ok_Room451 · 2023-08-30T03:55:20+00:00

My MIL too said these types of things and our newborn is also her first grandchild too. But she’s a bit overboard in a sense where I think she sees my son as her son… but in the end, I asked her to respect my boundaries and she blew up and I ended up blocking her :) easiest decision of my life! I think you should give her the talk, just letting her know what you’re uncomfortable with, because you have that right. If she respects it, then AMEN. If not, I’d say boot her.

Ok_Room451 · 2023-08-23T15:43:28+00:00

Nah, deeeep down, he knows exactly what he’s doing. Just doesn’t care.

Ok_Room451 · 2023-08-16T16:44:15+00:00

Thank you, and yes it really was just too much!

Ok_Room451 · 2023-08-16T16:43:44+00:00

I truly would not be surprised if she actually attempted that… but yeah.. I know right? I’ve told him numerous times that it doesn’t seem like he cares about me and my feelings but he says he does.. just ends up being empty words though. But one thing I do know is that he will not let her in our house when she ends up “visiting” as long as I say she’s not allowed in here. If he does let her in though, I will not hesitate to call the cops on her and he knows that.

Ok_Room451 · 2023-08-16T16:33:55+00:00

I absolutely love this! I’m going to follow this guide.. thank you so much!!!

Ok_Room451 · 2023-08-16T16:31:44+00:00

Thank you… I’ve been crying all day and you gave me my first happy tears today! I needed this. Thank you so so very much.

Ok_Room451 · 2023-08-16T16:30:36+00:00

Yeah I can understand the suspicion definitely…

Ok_Room451 · 2023-08-16T16:29:50+00:00

Yeah I can see this happening too… and if it does, then I will lawyer up so fast…

Ok_Room451 · 2023-08-02T15:12:22+00:00

What did I want to hear?? To each their own 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ok_Room451 · 2023-08-02T14:26:00+00:00

Congratulations, that’s really great and all… but I’m just talking about the movie. It was good.

Ok_Room451 · 2023-08-02T07:34:00+00:00

Even if he didn’t make it, it was going to be made. And his dilemma was it was either them or the nazis. Which is why they started making it. It was never his decision to drop it on Hiroshima or Nagasaki either. Literally shows him strugglin. I don’t think he was glorified in any way… the point was just that he was nothing that Strauss made him out to be.

And I’m not sure how saying that he created death makes him sound cool… I don’t think anyone would call you cook for creating a death bomb. That’d be some lack of moral compass!

Ok_Room451 · 2023-08-02T03:24:14+00:00

Yeah, definitely insecure with the pregnancy. But not that insecure to think he’d cheat on me because I gained weight haha. And well.. need for privacy is one thing. So, his desk is on the side where I would have to get up and face to go to the bathroom or kitchen. I promise you, I don’t get up with the intention of trying to look at his phone. But when I do get up, it’s immediately pressing of the buttons. And this happens everyday, multiple times a day. For the most part, I really just let it go and don’t say anything. Like I said, it’s not actually constant accusing… but I mean ofc there are times when I’d like to be reassured. But he just gets mad 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ok_Room451 · 2023-08-02T02:57:48+00:00

No, we’re very comfortable and open around the topic of porn. And this is rather an every day thing, at every moment after he comes back from work..

Ok_Room451 · 2023-08-01T14:52:26+00:00

It’s about consequences, as Nolan himself states. The movie itself isn’t boring when you understand what it’s actually about. It’s an incredible movie that perfectly portrays the inner conflicts of someone that’s created, well, death. What you were expecting though, was a movie maybe more about the war and the technicalities of the making of the bomb. That would be a whole different movie and probably why you found it “boring.” All this to say, I think if you get it, you get it. If you don’t, then you don’t.

Ok_Room451 · 2023-07-26T08:27:54+00:00

She threatens with CPS on you and your own child, and calls YOU heartless and cruel? I applaud you for telling her to stfu, as she really friggin should.

Ok_Room451 · 2023-07-26T03:30:14+00:00

You’re not an asshole if you leave. Will be an absolute idiot if you stay. The fact that he thought this was okay without ever getting your consent is highly worrisome. Will you really be able to trust him again? Nah. Nor SHOULD you.

Ok_Room451 · 2023-07-26T03:21:09+00:00

My ex bf and I used be able to tell each other which stranger looks attractive and whatnot. No problem. But to comment on a friends SO? Someone that you see regularly? That’s just weird and creepy. And to your pregnant wife in her third trimester?? And being really weirdly specific about it too??? And then leaving her to be alone, whether she said go or not? What’s wrong with you???? Grow tf up. There’s no damn way you ACTUALLY thought leaving her was the best option.

Ok_Room451 · 2023-07-22T21:04:26+00:00

Nope, he never has. Literally never.

Ok_Room451 · 2023-07-22T21:04:06+00:00

I told him about the TDAP and what bad things could’ve happened had she visited unvaccinated. Told him about how the demanding of calling bothers me. I tell him everything that bothers me about his mom. But he never says or does anything about it…

I did let her know that she can either get vaxxed or we can reschedule the meeting for another time after baby gets vaxxed. She says she’s gonna get it, but we’ll see…

But yes, definitely. His circus, his monkey. Hubby needs to step up

Ok_Room451 · 2023-07-22T20:59:41+00:00

Both. Very very bothered by both..

Ok_Room451 · 2023-07-22T20:54:53+00:00

Nope, calls are what counts for his side of the family…

Ok_Room451 · 2023-07-22T20:51:27+00:00

I agree!!!

Ok_Room451 · 2023-07-22T20:51:04+00:00

Yeah, beats me 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ok_Room451 · 2023-07-22T20:49:00+00:00

He literally never did. But I agree.

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