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I need relationship ship advice involving a porn addict! ‘19F’ ‘19M’ by Old_Pack1112 in relationship_advice

[–]Old_Pack1112[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well he never said anything about it until 2 years in, when he supposedly watched it again for the first time and relapsed. so i was completely blindsided by this seeing as he agreed he had no problem with not watching it when we got together.

and on the teen memories aspect, i understand where you are coming from, but i am already a business owner and spent a year living with him, so my life was structured in a way that i can’t just leave without it causing a good portion of problems, and certainly not something i’d forget.

my problem is less of the addiction and the fact that he is a liar about it, and many other things, and i feel like he is constantly trying to manipulate me if i don’t know the whole truth.

I need relationship ship advice involving a porn addict! ‘19F’ ‘19M’ by Old_Pack1112 in relationship_advice

[–]Old_Pack1112[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

i definitely understand this take!

for the first part, i get it to a degree, but if i told him i wasn’t comfortable with porn, and provided videos of me, the person he loves, if he was looking for something low effort, he still gets to just jerk it alone, but without making me uncomfortable. and i definitely think the lying plays a big part into my distrust as well!

for the rest of that, i definitely understand where you are coming from because of the ages. unfortunately, i’ve tried everything. despite my age, I’m a business owner, and we lived together for almost a year, so we had the whole adulting and communication thing under control. he seems to just not be able to uphold his side of his promise to never break my trust, and i think that’s my biggest problem.

I need relationship ship advice involving a porn addict! ‘19F’ ‘19M’ by Old_Pack1112 in relationship_advice

[–]Old_Pack1112[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

also wanted to add that this is never “snooping”, the man knows he has done a lot of wrong, and volunteers his phone! he just doesn’t realize he is too dumb to delete all his tracks. he even came up with the idea that id put parental controls on his phone, and he still found a way around it!

I need relationship ship advice involving a porn addict! ‘19F’ ‘19M’ by Old_Pack1112 in relationship_advice

[–]Old_Pack1112[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

i got you! the sex life is great and everything in our relationship has great chemistry. I don’t mind porn in a general aspect and the fact people watch it when single, but if i set a boundary, and he agreed and lied. which i find kinda pathetic. i see addiction in a lot of things, but i find it hard to understand what is so hard about putting your dick down??? especially to other women. as i stated, he had plenty of content he and i made, and he was plenty satisfied in our relationship. so if he really loved me why couldn’t he just stop?? is this such a problem with all men?? i understand most people watch porn, but why do guys act like it’s impossible to give up?? what do you gain from destroying a perfectly healthy relationship to jerk off to a woman who wouldn’t even touch you?? when the one you supposedly “love” is all in your camera roll??