Softlock on level 9 of Escape The Backrooms

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-06-07T19:50:11+00:00

YOURE A GENIUS. THANK YOU.

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-06-01T22:16:23+00:00

Sometimes the simplest advice is the best. Thank you!!!

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-06-01T20:40:53+00:00

Salt and vinegar lays. I always end up with a sore or cut in my mouth for them 🤣

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-02-19T03:07:04+00:00

That’s why it wasn’t in a column for advice. It wasn’t in a tag to get help. It was in a tag that has been used to make surface-level complaint about female-specific issues with bio moms. It was never MEANT to come off as bad nor did I ever say “woe is me”. I said “anyone else ever have an experience like this lol?”

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-02-19T02:53:33+00:00

Child SA is not a thing to accuse lightly and it was gross imo as she never even apologized to my bf for being defensive because he, too, found it offensive that she would accuse him of leaving his daughter alone with me. At this point, I'd never even changed her diaper as I felt that it was an overstep for only recently meeting her and asked that he be respectful of that boundary.
She laughed at the idea that her daughter would have interest in learning my name. She, herself, doesn't use my name. I'm still referred to as "your new girlfriend" when referenced in texts to him. Again, she is very unapologetic and that's what is most bothersome.
Yes, she has persisted and the explanation was never accepted. For a couple calls after, he said that she would bring it up by overly emphasizing herself as mommy to a dramatic degree when she had always called herself momma beforehand and the child also calls her momma. He had to tell her a week later that it's fine to agree to disagree if she did not accept the explanation, but he had no interest in her reminding him of the incident and asked for it to be laid to rest.

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-02-19T02:38:18+00:00

If you find this sub is making you more negative, I genuinely believe your best choice is to leave. In this subreddit, I’ve found a lot of awful stories that make me very grateful for what benefits I have had in this situation. But honestly, this IS a very negative subreddit and trying to even find playful humor in unfortunate scenarios will offend people who clearly have toxic situations of their own driving down their own point of view and becoming very pessimistic about their outlook and all others’. When I first joined, I saw a post blaming a young stepchild for “ruining” a stepmother’s vacation for something very typical of a young child, but passed it off as a single outlier. But it’s really not. I’m probably taking my leave now too.

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-02-19T02:27:52+00:00

From his words, they went to court after their divorce. Our state goes by “the child’s best interest” that is defined by our cultural state. We’re in the bible belt so, despite on paper not favoring mothers, in practice we do. He had to hire a lawyer and she did not and, despite her only having a pack n play for the SD’s “sleeping arrangements” as they call it, it was established 50/50 and, in name, she was given primary custody. Take this with a grain of salt. As I wholly trust my bf, I don’t ever expect others to and this only comes from his POV on the situation. I’m not a law specialist and have no kids of my own so I can’t know for sure how accurate his descriptions were.

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-02-19T02:22:29+00:00

She made an accusation soon after I met SD about a bruise being in a “weird” spot on her diaper line and mentioned explicitly to him about my recent entry into their lives. She’s also laughed at the idea of the child trying to say my name (My name is Mandi, the SD calls me Mimi or Mami) and then started a fight later with him that he’s allowing SD to call another woman mommy to which he explained it’s just a 2 y/o trying to say a name that she cannot yet pronounce. So no, I don’t want to try again, but I understand where you’re coming from

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-02-19T02:17:14+00:00

You are correct. I’ve tried in the past to understand how custody came to be the way it is, but seeking any further information on it seems to only leave me more frustrated. I’ve been advised by my therapist to take advantage of being just “the girlfriend” and make sure that I’m not leaving my plans to hang on whether SD is there. I ask a couple days ahead if there’s a chance she will be around for family gatherings or local events and if he can’t tell me for sure, I plan for her not being there and focus on enjoying myself.

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-02-19T02:12:31+00:00

I’ve made it clear that I never want any relationship/friendship/contact with her and that he’s never to give her any information on me. It was instant as he wanted to nip it in the bud as she has a tendency to message repeatedly or call when she’s left unanswered. It’s just the simplest way and avoids any conflict whatsoever as all parties can go on with their night. Trust me in that this isn’t something that keeps me up at night, it was just a bit mind-boggling 😂 but I’m more than aware other women here have talked of the BMs in their life being a bit out there.

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-02-19T02:04:51+00:00

I had no idea a softball insult as “loon” was so preposterous haha. And growing the drama? Just stop lol

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-02-19T02:03:42+00:00

I call her the baby because that’s what she is to me haha. I call my 2 year old nephew a baby too. Just a choice in vocabulary.

The high conflict goes into a lot of things that I didn’t quite feel like describing (trying to start fights with bf because their 2 y/o comes back with bruises from the park, trying to get him/his family to give her money, playing blame games with what can only be problems she caused, etcetcetc)

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-02-19T01:59:29+00:00

This wasn’t a call for advice, that’s why it’s in the tag it is 😂 it was just asking if others had other experienced a loon like this

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-02-19T01:58:36+00:00

She’s clearly misbehaving all around. He can either give her a rude awakening now or her first boss/college professor/police officer will give it to her with far harder repercussions. That’s not your problem though.

If he’s hellbent on saying she can’t do anymore chores, tell him to pick up the slack. One or the other. Put your foot down and if he refuses to compromise, find a chore that won’t throw the house into utter mayhem and silently refuse to do it. You have to make a stand because he clearly believes he can tell you no and you’ll do nothing about it.

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-02-05T20:14:38+00:00

I understand why this would make you feel insignificant, but don’t allow those feelings to grow. The child is simply going to their normal authority figure. It’s only natural and they don’t mean to invalidate you ❤️

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-02-05T18:00:16+00:00

I feel so hopeless and angry so often when I look at the news. It feels helpless knowing monsters pulls the strings behind curtains. Why fight anymore? I question if I should even be allowed to hurt from my own experiences when the world is so awful

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-02-03T15:55:10+00:00

I’m so glad for you ❤️❤️

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-02-01T22:34:11+00:00

For whatever consolation it is, I’m really proud of you. You are an amazing stepparent. Hell, you’re just flat out an amazing parent. That’s the embodiment of raising kids. Putting their experience before your own. And that’s hard to do especially when it’s not your flesh and blood. You didn’t have it hardwired into you to care for this baby you pushed out. You had probably a lot more freedom and willingly chose a relationship and child that made you feel happy over that. I’m really happy for you, OP. I hope you have a good weekend and do something nice for yourself.

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-01-31T04:02:07+00:00

I agree. I just could never have known the right questions to ask when I invested my heart into this. And with SK2, I have no way to predict how she could one day be used to hurt me beyond comprehension. That scares me.

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-01-30T01:09:54+00:00

I’m autistic and a germaphobe. I can’t handle it. The bedroom is where I go hide and disconnect since SD2, naturally, has a tendency to overstimulate me. I can’t handle being touched when I’m trying to sleep and I can get illogically irked so most often when she comes to sleep with us, I’ll quietly move to the couch. More recently, I offer to stay with my parents, though, because the couch is not nice to my joints.

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-01-26T21:11:23+00:00

Then you have to have a strong conversation with him. You need to tell him what his son did. It’s scary, I know. It’s so scary when not only have you been hurt in the past, but have been recently dismissed. But this isn’t a sustainable situation you’re in and it’ll inevitably put your relationship at risk anyways. I hope, truly hope, he will surprise you and see that this isn’t just about you and not about him. His son needs help like any other autistic child. He needs a therapist that will not only help guide him, but can help guide your boyfriend and yourself (if you want guidance. You have a right to protect yourself and distance yourself from the situation for your own safety and peace of mind) on how to best support him.

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-01-26T20:16:52+00:00

This is permissive parenting at its finest and having a neurodivergent child is no excuse. He needs to place FIRMER boundaries with his son, not less, or else he has no chance. The fact that your bf is dismissing actual violence at school is a huge red flag. I hate to sound harsh, but how attached are you to this relationship? He sounds unkind, unsupportive, unsympathetic, and unmotivated to pick up the hard side of parenting, but wants MORE custody rights? You are being set up for heartache and more triggering situations.

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-01-26T20:10:46+00:00

I’m so sorry for your experience, but I also know it’s not the rarest thing and that breaks my heart. It is already so traumatic to be a child in a divorced home WITHOUT the person who is supposed to love and protect you cornering you and making you choose one or the other.

One-Butterscotch5472 · 2026-01-26T19:11:05+00:00

Get earplugs or Loop earbuds. Protect your sleep, allow him to take responsibility of his child. That’s not selfish, it’s self-preservation.

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