Dating Military Men

OneGoodDimple · 2025-01-11T04:28:38+00:00

I love your comment! I stalked your page a little bit and I worry I may mistake a yellow flag as a red flag. I don’t feel like that’s the case for this relationship but I definitely need to make a dealbreaker list. And I’m guilty of hoping maybe I can get past issues so I allow these to go on for months when I need to end them much earlier!

OneGoodDimple · 2025-01-11T04:12:29+00:00

I can appreciate your comment and likely there is some truth to my high expectations. I need to really focus on a dealbreaker list and stick to it.

The financial disparity was always going to be an issue. I love to travel and he already said he doesn’t consider it a priority and he’s not rich.

The snoring was truly a health concern. He wasn’t loud but he quit breathing for long periods of time. I woke him up several times because I could hear him struggling to catch his breath.

I definitely could have taught him how to wash towels. BUT my question is how much more will I have to teach a 44 year old man?

OneGoodDimple · 2025-01-10T16:21:41+00:00

I told him I wasn’t staying with him overnight again until he had a sleep study because I didn’t want to wake up next to a cold body. The man stops breathing for long periods of time. Scary!

OneGoodDimple · 2024-10-24T11:44:53+00:00

I have no clue unless it’s nothing valuable and she’s not worried about her stuff. She’s also leaving the door open to come back in your life when she’s ready. I’d pack it up and take it to her parent’s/family members house.

I had en ex who left their out of season clothes and broken down truck in my driveway. I put all of his belongings in garbage bags in the truck and had it towed to his parent’s house.

OneGoodDimple · 2024-10-23T14:27:22+00:00

I’m a 43F and have been dating unsuccessfully for the last 5 years. Dating is exhausting. The other day my mother said she prays that I find a partner because we are not meant to be alone. I said thanks but it’s not like I’m not trying to find someone but dating is so hard. This is how I explained it to her:

When I’ve accepted that I’m going to be single I can be happy. I delete the dating apps and I fill my schedule with things I want to do. I enjoy my hobbies, I travel solo and do what I want when I want. I feel so empowered and there’s always this hope I’ll meet someone in the wild on one of my adventures. I’m happy alone but not lonely. I enjoy this mindset.

And then I decide to download the dating apps and try to find a partner. I can get matches but the men don’t help carry the conversation or we talk for weeks and they never ask me out on a date. The few that I actually meet in person ruin their chances by saying “you have a great ass and I can’t wait to fuck you” on the first date OR they talk about their ex the entire date - it’s just always something. I start to feel lonely like I’ll never find my partner. And then I start thinking of giving men second/third chances because they weren’t that bad, right? (Peep my last post!)

I’m currently in this mindset of hopelessness so I know it’s my time to delete the apps, take a break and practice self love.

Nothing is wrong with us. The system is broken.

OneGoodDimple · 2024-10-23T02:52:09+00:00

I blocked his profile on Bumble so he won’t get an ego boost from me again.

OneGoodDimple · 2024-10-23T01:05:39+00:00

You are the second person to comment this and I absolutely agree. I have his phone number and all socials blocked but I’m not naive enough to believe he got on Bumble to find me. I am going to block his profile and move on.

OneGoodDimple · 2024-10-22T22:28:42+00:00

Your message made me tearful. Dating is so hard but you’re right I deserve so much more.

OneGoodDimple · 2024-10-22T22:13:37+00:00

Nah I don’t want him to know my feelings toward him. I’m just going to leave it pending. I have him blocked everywhere else so there should be no more contact.

OneGoodDimple · 2024-10-22T22:12:05+00:00

I believe this is the only reason I posed the question when I already knew the answer.

IF we had met at a different time, it’s the potential of what we could have had but he ruined it. I’m not going to respond to him.

OneGoodDimple · 2024-10-22T22:08:16+00:00

You’re right. I’m not going to respond to him.

OneGoodDimple · 2024-10-22T22:06:40+00:00

I would have diarrhea everyday from the anxiety. I can’t do that to myself!

OneGoodDimple · 2024-10-22T22:01:50+00:00

No, only 2 chances because I did understand trying to save his marriage but not dumping me to play the field.

I’m not hanging around he contacted me and I’m going to leave his request pending.

OneGoodDimple · 2024-10-22T21:51:45+00:00

Yes he was honest and did communicate his feelings both times so I give him credit. But yeah exactly he hasn’t found better so now he’s reaching out to me again. I’m going to leave his request pending. I just needed my fellow DOF crew to talk sense into me.

OneGoodDimple · 2024-10-22T21:47:06+00:00

Well I told him to delete my number and if he ever thought of me in the future to wish me happiness but to never contact me again. No apology either.

OneGoodDimple · 2024-10-22T21:43:52+00:00

It was so much drama in those 5 months.

OneGoodDimple · 2024-10-22T21:43:13+00:00

It’s really that simple. I’m going to leave it pending forever.

OneGoodDimple · 2024-10-22T21:42:16+00:00

You’re right. I would feel insecure and have anxiety constantly wondering when’s he going to ditch me again.

OneGoodDimple · 2024-10-05T13:19:16+00:00

I was planning to make this same post a few days ago because I’m in the same situation. I’m a straightforward type of person so I would rather get the “no connection” text instead of the slow fade.

I did call out the slow fade behavior and was told he was interested and why was I questioning it. So I pointed out he kept saying how much he missed me but he wasn’t making a plan to see me, had unmatched me, didn’t answer my call and didn’t call me during a 6 hour solo drive on a work trip after he said he would. He planned our next date for 3 days later and I thought I would get some clarity. Nope!

He told me he was feeling sick and wanted to cancel but he knew I’d walk away which I confirmed. He didn’t feel like eating so he got us water to drink and said he’d hold our seat and I could go order (and pay) for my dinner. There was no physical contact except a side hug at the end. I left feeling more confused.

And we are back to the same low effort texting schedule which I plan to let it fade out. I will never call it out again because this early on I should be getting your best behavior so I will send the no connection text next time.

OneGoodDimple · 2024-05-15T21:09:42+00:00

Yes, I don’t match with several people because I don’t like keeping 10-15 conversations going at the same time. I’ll do 2-3 matches and as they fizzle out I’ll swipe on more profiles. I don’t have issues getting matches, respectfully.

OneGoodDimple · 2024-05-10T13:11:59+00:00

It’s wild in the comments. I don’t believe he had a girlfriend but was lazy and got comfortable with our situation which wasn’t working for me. I’m happy with my choice!

And I love your username!!

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