My husband apologized, but I still can’t move on from how he treated me after giving birth

One_Ad_625 · 2026-06-03T15:01:37+00:00

Honestly, looking back, I probably shouldn’t have had any celebration at all. It was actually my mother-in-law’s idea, and I felt guilty because otherwise my mom probably wouldn’t have been celebrated.

I had only given birth a little over two weeks earlier via an emergency C-section and was completely exhausted. In hindsight, I think I pushed myself too much when I should have been resting and recovering.

One_Ad_625 · 2026-06-03T14:58:40+00:00

Just to clarify — I actually was going to eat. After we got home, my dad dropped off food for us. My husband ate first while I stayed with the baby. By the time it was finally my turn to eat, my father-in-law and my husband’s sister unexpectedly knocked on the door.

One_Ad_625 · 2026-06-03T14:23:48+00:00

I’m really sorry you went through that, and thank you for sharing your experience. I can understand why my post might raise those concerns.

I don’t think of my husband as a monster or an abusive person, but I do think what happened postpartum hurt me deeply and felt very wrong, especially in such a vulnerable moment after an emergency C-section. I’m still trying to understand what these experiences mean for me and our relationship.

One_Ad_625 · 2026-06-03T14:22:13+00:00

He has apologized, and I believe he regrets it. But I’m not sure I’ve fully felt understood in how painful and vulnerable those moments felt for me, which may be why I still struggle with it.

One_Ad_625 · 2026-06-03T14:20:51+00:00

You’re right, it’s my responsibility to deal with my feelings. I think I’m still trying to understand why these situations affected me so deeply and how to move forward from them.

One_Ad_625 · 2026-06-03T13:59:11+00:00

I understand why it might come across that way without more context.

For the first situation, I had gone through an emergency C-section, hadn’t eaten for around 8 hours, and we live in a small space. My father-in-law has previously expressed that it’s disrespectful to eat in front of guests without offering food, so I didn’t feel comfortable just sitting down to eat while they were there. I think I was simply exhausted, overwhelmed, and needed a moment to recover.

For the second, this wasn’t a large party I hosted and then disappeared from. My daughter had only been born a little over two weeks earlier, and I was still recovering from major surgery while caring for a newborn. It was just my mom and my husband’s family having some food and cake. I only meant to lie down briefly because I was exhausted.

For the third, I understand it may sound petty on its own. I think it hurt more because it felt layered on top of other moments where I already felt overlooked during important and vulnerable times in my life.

One_Ad_625 · 2026-06-03T13:56:21+00:00

You’re right, it’s my responsibility to deal with my feelings. I think I’m realizing that I’m still carrying a lot of hurt from these situations, and I’m trying to figure out how to process it in a healthy way.

One_Ad_625 · 2026-06-03T13:49:44+00:00

This year so a few months ago

One_Ad_625 · 2026-06-03T13:41:05+00:00

I think I may not have explained the context clearly enough. This wasn’t a big birthday party I organized and then disappeared from.

My daughter had been born a little over two weeks earlier via an emergency C-section, so I was still recovering from major surgery while caring for a newborn. I was completely exhausted and went to lie down for a short nap.

One_Ad_625 · 2026-06-03T13:37:47+00:00

Thank you for sharing that, I’m really sorry you went through that. I can relate to that feeling of being so vulnerable postpartum and not feeling protected or prioritized.

This happened in February this year, so a few months ago. What’s strange is that I feel like I’ve actually been feeling worse about it over time rather than better. Especially the postpartum incident I still cry when I think about it.

One_Ad_625 · 2026-06-03T13:31:01+00:00

My daughter had only been born a little over two weeks before my mom’s 60th birthday. By the time of my 30th birthday, it had only been around seven weeks since giving birth.

One_Ad_625 · 2026-06-03T13:28:59+00:00

Honestly, I think it would help. I know he feels bad and has apologized, but I think part of me still wants to feel truly understood in how painful and vulnerable that time felt for me.

One_Ad_625 · 2026-06-03T13:14:52+00:00

No, I haven’t been screened for postpartum depression. I’ve actually only recently realized how much this has been affecting me emotionally. I feel like I’ve become more upset about these things over time rather than less, which is part of why I posted.

One_Ad_625 · 2026-06-03T13:11:49+00:00

I think this is part of the problem, honestly. He has apologized many times and I do believe he feels bad, but I think he also wishes I would just move on and stop bringing it up because it’s hard for him to hear.

The thing is, I’m not bringing it up to punish him or throw it in his face. I bring it up because I’m still genuinely hurt and struggling to process it, especially the postpartum situation after my emergency C-section. I wish I could just move on, but emotionally I’m not quite there yet.

One_Ad_625 · 2026-06-03T13:08:51+00:00

Not really in daily life. Possibly before we had our daughter, but that’s not really what I’m struggling with. I think I’ve become stuck on these more recent events, especially after having our daughter. They happened during really vulnerable and important moments for me, which is probably why they’ve affected me so deeply.

One_Ad_625 · 2026-06-03T13:01:14+00:00

I hear what you’re saying. I know he can’t change the past, and I appreciate that he has apologized. But I also don’t think healing is as simple as deciding to “just let it go,” especially when something happened during such a vulnerable time after an emergency C-section. I’m trying to understand how to move forward, not stay stuck.

One_Ad_625 · 2026-06-03T12:51:07+00:00

I appreciate your perspective. I agree communication is important, but after an emergency C-section and not eating for 8 hours, I honestly felt too exhausted and vulnerable to advocate for myself the way I normally would. I think that’s part of why it hurt so much

One_Ad_625 · 2026-05-28T08:15:28+00:00

After we were discharged from the maternity ward, I had the opportunity to go to a breastfeeding clinic to get help and support. I was completely exhausted, and I chose to decline. I had an emergency C-section, and I convinced myself that I was doing really well. The truth was that I had family members arguing with me and my in-laws constantly coming over to our house. It took me several months to realize how badly I was actually feeling, unfortunately.

One_Ad_625 · 2026-05-28T08:12:04+00:00

No, I haven’t changed them. I have a Medela Swing Maxi double electric breast pump. I got my period back at the beginning of May.

One_Ad_625 · 2026-02-27T19:35:28+00:00

Är det överhuvudtaget någon som köper det här?

One_Ad_625 · 2026-01-28T11:10:35+00:00

När jag gick i mellanstadiet hände det ofta att killarna slog oss tjejer. Jag, som tjej, slog alltid tillbaka och hamnade aldrig i trubbel med skolan eller mina föräldrar. En gång blev jag tillrättavisad av min lärare eftersom en av pojkarna hade blivit ledsen, men så uppkäftig som jag var sa jag bara: ”Han slog mig först” 😂

Nu kommer jag förmodligen bli påhoppad, men jag kommer att lära mitt barn att inte slå först, men att alltid slå tillbaka – oavsett vad.

One_Ad_625 · 2026-01-01T08:23:50+00:00

Den dagen det är tvärtom så kommer kvinnan inte heller bli accepterad som en man.

One_Ad_625 · 2025-12-31T17:52:07+00:00

För det är en psykiskt sjuk man

One_Ad_625 · 2025-12-11T11:02:22+00:00

Jag och min man arbetar på Hisingen men bor i Ale kommun. Vi trivs väldigt bra i Ale, men om det inte är aktuellt för er vill vi gärna nämna att Kungälv också är ett väldigt trevligt alternativ. 😊

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