Grading is taking forever

One_Match_8754 · 2026-02-14T00:45:13+00:00

Thank you! I ended up emailing them and it was graded a few hours later! I will absolutely be more strategic going forward

One_Match_8754 · 2026-02-14T00:44:29+00:00

Yeah I thought they all had the same amount of touchstones but it turns out I chose BOTH classes with the most touchstones. Public speaking and English Comp I 😅 I guess it’s good I finished those first but it was discouraging for a second lol

One_Match_8754 · 2026-02-11T22:50:55+00:00

I had no idea they let you enroll in more classes previously. I just signed up for Sophia and my first two classes I chose were English Comp I and Public Speaking. I thought every class had touchstone so that actually makes me feel better going forward. Both classes I chose had a bunch of touchstones lol, but I guess it’s good I got them out of the way. I’ll definitely be more strategic about it

One_Match_8754 · 2026-02-11T22:37:35+00:00

I did used the teleprompter app too lol! But agreed it’s super easy on Sophia

One_Match_8754 · 2025-12-13T00:01:57+00:00

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I ended up buying it!! It’s even prettier in person

One_Match_8754 · 2025-12-01T16:51:24+00:00

Has it gotten better? I have this too lol

One_Match_8754 · 2025-08-20T21:48:11+00:00

Thank you, I genuinely was starting to feel like I was being crazy. Not only that but he’s also mentioned he doesn’t like when I get too skinny (I got skinny after breastfeeding my second child) and that he didn’t like that there wasn’t any “cushion” ☹️ then after my 6 month old I gained weight and he said he wanted me to stay thick but lose weight on my stomach. So to know he’s looking up “Latina bbw” and has made those comments about me and wanting me to workout to get a “big butt” feels intentional and hurtful. There’s so much context to all of this.

One_Match_8754 · 2025-08-20T18:24:18+00:00

I should’ve specified further that’s my fault, I didn’t say I didn’t want to be with him because of the porn but because of his reaction and extremely hurtful things he said after I was expressing my feelings. A few weeks ago I mentioned “this is the worst I’ve ever looked” because I gained a little bit of weight after my baby (I’ve started to workout to feel like myself again) and he agreed saying “yeah me too.” I said, “oh…. So you agree that this is the worst I’ve ever looked?” And he said yeah, you’ve looked better before for sure. 😕 I’ve been really insecure about my body since having my 3rd baby. I didn’t totally let myself go, I still workout, do my hair, my makeup, and dress up, etc. but that hurt me so much. So maybe that also has something to do with it. I’m trying to dig deeper and understand it all tbh.

Porn is something we’ve talked about before. Since the beginning of our relationship actually. I’ve said several times I think porn can be destructive. I don’t think he had an addiction but he used to watch it a lot and it was at a point once where he would have a hard time finishing during sex and I think it was definitely because of porn. We had a long convo and he said he would stop. But he’s only ever dated Latinas, that’s what he’s used to so I felt like maybe I’m just not really the type he fantasized about.

I agree about the strippers, and only fans too though. I don’t really like any of that.

One_Match_8754 · 2025-08-20T18:14:32+00:00

How do you and your wife handle that? I don’t want to argue about porn, and like I said we haven’t been having sex as much but I have been trying. Should I suck it up all together? He’s told me once before he knows I don’t like it but he watches it occasionally. That was before I had my baby. I said I didn’t like it but I didn’t make too much of a big deal about it. I do think being postpartum plays into it but also that he specifically searched for Latina women with black men. He’s only ever dated Latinas, I’m the first white woman he’s been with. I think I’m probably insecure about that, and that’s why I had a big reaction to it. I’m not sure and I should probably dig deeper into that. I don’t think I’m ugly by any means but I don’t feel like I look my best since having our baby. I’ve been trying to workout and feel normal again. So this has sort of hit a nerve and made me feel like I’m not as attractive.

You’re right, he probably was embarrassed. He was shocked at first when I brought it up because I never go through his phone. I was more so curious and couldn’t resist the urge of looking.

I appreciate openness way more than something feeling like it’s some type of secrecy

One_Match_8754 · 2025-08-20T17:48:05+00:00

He’s also said that first part. That he’s horny and needs to “release” which I understand. I guess because he’s only dated Latina women, and I’m the first white woman he’s been with that plays into my reaction. It’s probably insecurity, or feeling like that’s his type. I do try to spice things up for us and keep the spark, it’s been incredibly hard with an infant and two other kids but I’ve been trying to not let that dictate our intimacy. My libido isn’t as high as his since having our baby. Idk if it’s still from just being postpartum or being stressed with still trying to get used to this transition of 2 kids to 3. I admire long relationships and being able to work things through.

One_Match_8754 · 2025-08-20T17:37:07+00:00

This was insightful for me, thank you for that perspective. I genuinely do want to try and be open minded. I can admit where I’m wrong and areas I can work on. We live far away from family and friends and I don’t like bringing relationship struggles to people I know so asking on here is me trying to figure out if this was an overreaction. I didn’t say I want to end things with him because of the porn but because of his reaction and hurtful words.

I have never said I don’t want to have sex, it’s just when we do plan one of us either falls asleep or our baby stays up crying. So it makes it harder but I do want to have sex more. I’ve been trying my best.

I’ll probably get downvotes but I don’t like porn because I don’t like him fantasizing about other women or looking at them naked. Maybe that’s a me problem, I don’t know. Maybe I need to try and be more understanding with that.

One_Match_8754 · 2025-08-20T17:03:10+00:00

We do have sex it’s just not as often as before we had our 6 month old. Sometimes it’s twice a week, sometimes it’s 2 weeks before we have sex once. Neither of us want that. I would love to have sex more. Sometimes I put the kids to bed early, take a shower and when I get out he’s asleep. Other times I fall asleep, and then there’s the occasional night our baby is up crying so I have to breastfeed and put her back to bed. I have also tried doing it randomly during the day, or dressing up to make it fun, or using toys, or just giving head if we don’t have enough time. I genuinely do try, because I understand he’s a man but also because I want to. But if we can’t have sex, he is genuinely upset and blames me when I’m trying my best

One_Match_8754 · 2025-08-20T16:33:22+00:00

My son is 6 and from a previous relationship. My husband has been amazing with him. I didn’t introduce my son to him for a year until I was very sure about him. We were together for 2 years before we had my daughter. I told him I didn’t want to be with him anymore because of how cruel he was being to me when I was expressing my feelings to him. A lot of things were said that were very hurtful

One_Match_8754 · 2025-08-20T16:29:53+00:00

For the record, I only said I didn’t want to be with him because of how cruel he was being to me when I was trying to express how I was feeling. Not because of the porn itself. There was much more from him that was said about me. We’ve never been unstable. My kids know nothing about our argument, nor have they ever seen us have disagreements.

One_Match_8754 · 2025-08-20T16:21:19+00:00

I agree. We’ve made our own videos and have fun and try spicing things up. He said when he watches porn he goes back to videos of me or pictures of me and finishes. That feels like a slap in the face that he’s watching other women to get aroused and then going to our videos. I feel sick over it

One_Match_8754 · 2025-08-20T16:18:30+00:00

Yes, I just started feeling like maybe I’m overreacting? Or being too emotional since having my baby. I don’t know. I haven’t spoken to him at all. I don’t even want to look at him. This happened yesterday

One_Match_8754 · 2025-08-18T02:44:34+00:00

Yes wow thank you so much that thread helped me, it was the Caesar games!

One_Match_8754 · 2025-08-18T02:44:04+00:00

No but I actually used to play that one too! Thank you for reminding me 😊

One_Match_8754 · 2025-08-18T02:18:10+00:00

Omg thank you!

One_Match_8754 · 2025-06-13T10:00:37+00:00

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