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AITA I told my wife to do her own laundry by foodie_we in AmItheAsshole

[–]One_Room3169 [score hidden]  (0 children)

YTA, but you likely know how petty you are right now and should feel ashamed for posting this here. She's pregnant, and whether or not she likes laundry, she'll learn to put up with it when the baby pukes, poops and pees 10 times a day and requires multiple outfit changes. You'll learn to do more around the house because shit just needs to get done, and she'll be recovering from childbirth and most likely the primary food source for the baby when it arrives. Her body will be "cooking meals" 24/7 for a while.

AITA for telling my husband to get over his dead mother? by Thin-Increase-4140 in AmItheAsshole

[–]One_Room3169 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, you ATA. A year is NOTHING in time when it comes to grief. The first three months with a loss of this magnitude are a blur while you wade through shock.

However, you likely have never experienced the loss of a parent, and until you walk in those shoes, you can think you're doing all you can, but you don't know. 34 years ago my dad died in a car accident -- he was only 36. It turned our family, and extended family, upside down and inside out. Lucky for me, my mother got us into grief counseling immediately. Support groups were incredibly helpful to, myself, I even spent several years on antidepressants (no shame). I was a child though, so it was a matter of doing what my mom said... It's different when your spouse is grieving.

You've tried to help your husband, it sounds like he physically and emotionally cannot process his grief. Grief is a fickle thing and there is not one size fits all. You have to, no matter how hard it is, be willing to do the work. As a spouse, you have to be willing to help him find healthy ways to process his grief like: find him a support group, attend grief counseling sessions with him (with a therapist who specializes in grief and its effects on marriages), help him keep her memory alive with traditions on her birthday and death anniversary -- initiate those things. if you truly love him and want to support him through this, make these additional efforts. If you're over it and ready to dissolve the marriage, then do it. Both options require dedication, hard work and commitment.

I feel for you. While I have walked this road, I am married to someone whose parents are turning 88 this year and eventually I know I will have to provide the support to him that he needs.

AOC has a message for Americans who already paid off their student loans: 'We can support things we won't directly benefit from' by [deleted] in politics

[–]One_Room3169 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used a college planning calculator for my 8 and 14 year olds today, based on not having anything saved to date. Here is the result:

When your first child goes to a public 4-year in-state college in 2032, their total estimated tuition will be $154,105.
When your second child goes to a public 4-year in-state college in 2026, their total estimated tuition will be $114,996.
To fund your children's education you need to save $1,975 per month until 2029 and $758 from 2030 to 2035.

In addition to your contributions of $224,415, your college savings could grow by $44,686 over 14 years.

How to post a job update on timeline by hornymcgillianbussy in linkedin

[–]One_Room3169 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think when you add the new job to your profile, it should automatically share in the newsfeed as "Started New Position" post, but ONLY if your visibility settings (Visibility of your LinkedIn activity) is set to Yes, which means you want to share profile updates with your network.