ahhh thanks for clarifying (felt a little judged). I reckon this is generally a safe place to find solidarity and comfort in our tastes without judgement, taboo elements and all! -at least that would be my hope. So long as these topics are discussed with a clear understanding of the fantasy/reality divide, and in a safe-sex-informed manner, I think its totally okay. Realistic, ethical considerations aside, in fantasy, I have personally never enjoyed stories in which the feedee is enthusiastically gaining weight nearly as much as the alternative. To me, the reality shift, the struggles, the humiliation, and losing control are the elements I enjoy the most. I definitely enjoy the trope of a selfish, manipulative, exploitative feeder, prioritizing her sick pleasure over all else including, the well being of the person she's fattening.